Invited on a ladies only holiday. Too much hassle?

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Long story short..
We were due to go during Covid but it was cancelled.
It's a few days in a sunny resort.
My kids dad won't help me out with minding them.
They are 18/14/12.
I'm dying to go. I am tired and my sister has offered to help out during day eg bring my youngest two on activities with their family and my partner of nearly two years has offered to stay at night to ensure the children's safety .
The children will be on summer holidays.
Eldest will be working.
Second child is happy to hang out with friends but youngest needs security and structure.
I'd love to go but wonder if it's selfish of me and just too much hassle.
I'm wrecked from life generally.
It would be such a lovely rest and a chance to rediscover who I am after a horrid few years .

Don’t martyr yourself. Pack your shit and go, woman.

You should go! Your kids are old enough to be sensible and understand.

GOOOO!!!! Can I come too??!! 😂😂😂😂

Definitely go. Some of the best times I've had have been on nights away/mini breaks with my girlfriends.

I have always been very clear with my dc that I count too. Go.

I don’t really see where the hassle is, tbh. Sounds like it’s all sorted.

Definitely go!

GO!!!!!

To the PP who said 12 yo need structure, relating that to this situation is ridiculous, when the OP has stated what care will be provided.

I used to have to travel all the time for work. Not caused any issues for my DC. Don’t do that any more but I did/do go on weekends away with the girls. My DD likes chatting to me about it and is excited for me. Good example to set she’ll have her own friends and do this too when she’s older. Mum comes back relaxed - win/win.

You've already done the hard bit! You've got your sister available during the day and DP at night. GO.

Sounds like a good plan is in place. It will do your children good to see you have a good time! I say this as someone whose single mother didn’t have enough fun. When she did it was brilliant . Everyone was happier. Go with confidence

Thanks. You are all so right and I'd say the same to my own girlfriends or sisters!
I will go.
It will take a lot of planning and organising but I know it will be worth it!
It's been a horrendous couple
Of years !
Thanks

As long as your children feel comfortable with your partner and are happy with the arrangement i would go

Brilliant! Have a great time x

Brilliant! Have a great time x

Brilliant! Have a great time x

Brilliant! Have a great time x

Ah, it sounds really great and you definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Ah, it sounds really great and you definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Ah, it sounds really great and you definitely definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Ah, it sounds really great and you definitely, definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might even enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Aw, it sounds really great and you definitely, definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might even enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Aw, it sounds really great and you definitely, definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might even enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Aw, it sounds really great and you definitely, definitely need a break. Your kids will be fine, they might even enjoy a bit of extra independence and showing you how well they can manage.
Have a wonderful time!

Can the 18 year old not look after the 12 year old?
You need the hoilday!