To ask how to punish 15 month old?

[NotTodaySatan6]

Hi all,

Punish seems like a harsh word I think I mean more discipline my DS.

He's 15 months old and if he's told no or if something is taken away from him he'll scream, bite, kick, slap, pull hair and just have a melt down and whilst I appreciate this is normal and he doesn't have emotional regulation yet I was wondering what's the best way is to go about it?

I'm 11 weeks pregnant and worried about his behaviour when the baby comes and as he gets bigger how much more he can hurt us - we'd never hit him back or anything like that but being firm is being met with more "violence" and it's getting me down. He doesn't do it with his daddy but he will with me and his grandma.

So far I've told him no firmly and he must not hurt mummy, I've tried distracting him, I've tried putting him down and walking away (which leads to banshee like screams) - I just don't know what else to do.

So please can someone offer advice the best way to tackle this?

Thank you

Try and avoid the situation by nit leaving remotes and phones at his level. Make a basket of intetesting objects that you change weekly like pans and wooden spoon, baby instruments - shakers and things, things that light up etc to use as a distraction when he is getting upset. Also distract with fun does he like tickles, nursery rhymes, being lifted up or whooshed around. I think discapline at this age should only involve a simple no, we don't so xxx' and the distract straight away. In a few months when he has some ability to communicate you can move toward more discipline.

This is just your child’s stage of development. They live in the moment, what is in their hands, going into their mouth is THE most important thing ever— in that moment. They don’t understand things disappearing, don’t understand danger ( you can chew a plastic spoon but not an electrical lead —- means nothing to a baby)
Up to 5 they change constantly and quickly. You’ve no sooner caught up with one stage of behaviour than they’ve moved onto the next. And soon you’ll be doing this with two, different stages, different needs.
Good news is small children are easily distracted. Colour, noise, movement will all distract.
Try an easy to read child development book. Look for one aimed at mums or trainee nursery nurses.
Congrats on the new baby to be. Mine were close together, hard work but there’ll be lots of fun too.

I have a 21 month old and I try not to say "no" as it just doesn't work and encourages him to continue doing whatever he shouldn't be doing. I try to use positive wording (doesn't work all the time when I'm knackered and patience is thin) like "we use gentle hands with..." Or please keep the food on the plate" etc. He tends to respond better to this than ,no' and 'dont'.
If he does continue, we then completely ignore the behaviour, and distract. It's hard work but it works most of the time. (Tonight he was trying to throw out all the clean washing onto the floor so instead I ignored it, then asked him to help... He ended up passing the wet washing from me to his dad who was hanging it up... It took a long time but he was helping and having fun instead of throwing everything onto the floor).

I thought you said 15 years old.
Wait till he is a teenager. Hehe.

Also punish discipline perhaps kinder.

Hi OP, I'm really struggling with a lot of this with my 17 month old. Tantrums and pushing/hitting/biting/scratching etc.
I'm finding it really wearing and it is really hard not to get annoyed or shout. Its also upsetting being told at nursery pickup that he has been pushing the other kids, I almost dread asking them how his day has been. Other times he can be so lovely and sweet i want to eat him all up - so it can feel like I'm on a constant emotional rollercoaster!
No advice for you but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone and also to say thanks as this thread has given me a lot of ideas and better ways to handle it. I've ordered a couple of the books mentioned too and already feel more positive to face the week.
I have noticed he is much worse when he is teething, I dont know if you have found similar.

Play pens seem to be unfashionable but they were great in this situations, dump the screamer in the play pen and leave the room, taking sneaky looks for safety, they soon get fed up and exhausted.