We have a primary age DS, been married nearly 10 years. DH in the last few months has decided he hates his job and wants to go part-time, with the idea he will pursue a new business he wants to start up in the 2 days he isn’t working and/or retrain. For context, I bring in about 4 x what he does and have capacity to grow that further. I work full time (and then some) running my own business. We currently equally share childcare/household responsibilities.
I feel uncertain about this because:
a) the early stages of setting up this business wouldn’t take 2 days per week
b) he has no idea what he would retrain as
c) when I set up my business I worked for ten months full time in another job while I busted a guy before and after work getting things going. I didn’t have the luxury of going part-time.
d) he has presented this as a fait accompli - he ‘will’ be going part-time, it’s just a matter of when.
e) he seems perfectly happy for me to still slave every hour running and growing the business, while he goes part-time. He has expended no thought on what I would like to do.
I do want to support his dreams of doing something different, but I also feel a bit taken for granted.
im also very concerned he hasn’t thought this through at all - for instance, he had no idea where the capital would come from to start the business (or how much he needs) and assumed he would be given a loan by the bank, which is highly unlikely. The reality is my business would most likely have to invest it’s profits into his new company.
I really just want some others perspectives on this…feeling uncertain, not sure if im being a bit grumpy or whether he wants a focused only on what he wants…