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[Emily932]

So the girls have planned a few nights away in a few months for us all to get together, will be leaving kids at home with DH. First time I have ever left them in 5 years fully overnight. My MIL made a comment that shouldn’t be doing this stuff now that I am a mum, my DH is always at stag do’s and doing things with his friends (although she doesn’t agree with that either) but now I feel guilty, like I shouldn’t be doing it? She said she went away when her first baby was months old for a week and regretted it so much? I feel there is a big difference from leaving a 5 year old to a 2 month old, and even then it is personal preference and I don’t judge it at all. I just was in no fit state until at least 6 months PP haha!

You are absolutely entitled to a night away, your 5 year old will be fine and your MIL needs to keep her opinions to herself!!

You'll be fine it will be good for you. She needs to butt out of your life.

Christ, go away. Dont spend one more second thinking about this.Ever.
MOTHERS ARE PEOPLE TOO!!!

And I say that as someone who doesn't have kids.
Please have a night to yourself as often as you can manage.

Your going away for one night, not emigrating! Ignore her.

Perhaps she should be saying to her son that he shouldn’t be going away now he’s a dad!!!!

She's talking rubbish!
I leave my children with their other parent all the time. He's more than capable of looking after his children. You're still a person as well as a mum. Enjoy yourself!
Happy mum, happy life

Go!

Why do you care what the crazy old bag thinks? Is she your keeper? Is she the Queen of England? What makes her an expert? Who is she? She’s a nobody. Nobody cares about her opinion. What’s her job? Child psychologist earning £100,000 a year? No? Then who the hell does she think she is telling you what you should do with your child. Tell her she’s pissed you off so much that you’re going to stay an extra night now and she can keep her damn mouth shut or she won’t be welcome in your house again. Stand up for yourself.

Well she is a Mum. Does she not leave her children overnight ever?

She is also an arse.

Ignore her - becoming a parent doesn't mean you're no longer allowed time to yourself.

We're about to have 2 under 2 - my Partner and I both have a few nights away planned with friends for later in the year while the other one stays home with the kids.
We're both capable of looking after our own kids for a few days while the other one gets a break.

Don't let your MIL ruin your time away or make you feel guilty, your kids will be much happier with you relaxed than never getting any time to yourself to recharge

Why on earth do you care what she thinks?

Is she from a different culture or generally uneducated? I can't think of any other reason for someone to think like that in 2022

She’s being a nob. Go and enjoy yourself. All of your children’s needs will be met. You’ll have a great time. It’s normal for you to still be you. You aren’t just a parent OP.

It really isn't her place to say anything!

Does she think her son will pressure her to babysit while you re away?

What a load of shit.

The kids will have a brilliant time with their Dad, they will see an example of Mummy being an actual real human adult with friends & a life outside the family - it'll be good for everyone.

Your DC will be with their dad not a random stranger. They will be absolutely fine.
Hope you enjoy your time away with the girls

Ask if she doesn't rate her son as a dad? The only reason he can go is because you are a capable mum. So if he's a capable dad then you can go.

GO AND ENJOY!!!!
Your MIL is projecting big-time, and that is highly unfair. You must ignore her and have the best time. She is totally out of order.

My mum never went away without us dc so finds it odd I’m going on a short break with friends. Probably thinks dh is a hero to parent 3dc alone. Realistically, dc are fairly self sufficient and dh is a hands on parent anyway. It’ll be weird but I think it’s a good example for my dc (not something I do all the time). Generationally it is different from what mums used to do.

Absolutely not unreasonable to go. Ignore mils comments or reply. "Dh more than capable parenting" like the insult is on his parenting rather than yours.

It is hard but you deserve a night off and dc will be fine.

Don't feel guilty, enjoy your time. These trips are brilliant snd it will do your DH good to have the kids on his own. Sod off MIL , what didn't work for her once 30 years ago is now supposed to be relevant to your decision now, no way.

Is there any part of you that genuinely believes her and would cancel your plans?

I think highly of her because she is my DH’s mum so really upsets me that I am doing something she seems to disapprove of, I always want to do right by kids but I have so much fun with the girls and haven’t all got together in so long.

my Mother exactly the same, I had dc at 23 and at 28 I went in a date with a work colleague and I had to HAD HAD HAD to be home by..,, 8.,,, seriously 8pm… at 28 !!! fucking embarrassing thinking about it 30 years later