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What do you think of my dads comment to DS?

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skippingdownthelane · 20/04/2022 17:15

Yesterday DS 20 who’s visiting home from uni, met up with my dad, he asked DS if he had heard about the Queen being ill and DS said he didn’t know that. This led to my dad in a bit of a condensing way say I don’t know how you are at university if you don’t know simple, important facts in the news.

It’s none of my business so I am not going to do anything but wondered what others think of what my dad said.

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whitewashing · 20/04/2022 17:18

I honestly wouldn’t give that an inch of headspace…

MrsKHunt · 20/04/2022 17:20

Rude , just starting a conversation with ‘ I don’t know how you are at universitiy if you didn’t know…’isn’t meant in a pleasant way

DysmalRadius · 20/04/2022 17:23

Your dad sounds mean.

Orgasmagorical · 20/04/2022 17:23

What's he normally like with your DS, OP? That one comment sounds a bit dickish but if he's normally nicer I'd watch and wait. How did your DS react?

PukkaP · 20/04/2022 17:24

I wouldn't think anything about it

Vikinga · 20/04/2022 17:24

I would think the IPCC report is the single most important news for the whole world. For the foreseeable

PonyPatter44 · 20/04/2022 17:25

Does your dad pride himself on having been to the University of Life, by any chance?

Its not a particularly kind thing to say, but it probably isn't worth worrying about unless there is a pattern of your dad putting down your DS.

PS. It is a bit weird that he hasnt heard about the Queen being ill, but then not everyone is a news junkie, and I guess being at uni is terribly exciting with a lot of things that are NOT the Queen to think about!!

Aquamarine1029 · 20/04/2022 17:25

Your dad sounds like a condescending tit. I wouldn't bother saying anything, and given your son is an adult, he can address it if he wishes to.

Jarstastic · 20/04/2022 17:26

Maybe what he thought of as a joke.

Is there a pattern?

drives an elderly man I know mad that his grandchild who is at university studying maths can’t do basic mental arithmetic.

Dixiechickonhols · 20/04/2022 17:27

Dad sounds sneery like he was trying to bring son down a peg or two. Did Dad go to Uni?

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skippingdownthelane · 20/04/2022 17:28

i meant to say condescending not condensing. Sorry about that 😂

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Momicrone · 20/04/2022 17:30

I didn't know the Queen was ill

TidyDancer · 20/04/2022 17:32

I'm not sure if think anything of it at all tbh. Just conversation.

Comedycook · 20/04/2022 17:32

I'd think it was a random but funny comment that grandparents often come out with...unless there's a huge backstory here

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skippingdownthelane · 20/04/2022 17:32

Dixiechickonhols · 20/04/2022 17:27

Dad sounds sneery like he was trying to bring son down a peg or two. Did Dad go to Uni?

No Dad did not go to uni, he is someone who watches the news a lot, he’s had form before. He was horrified that DS did not want to watch the Festival of Remembrance at the Royal Albert Hall on T.V. Said it was disrespectful, which I suppose is an opinion he’s entitled to. But at the same time DS is entitled to not want to watch it as well.

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Laiste · 20/04/2022 17:33

Momicrone · 20/04/2022 17:30

I didn't know the Queen was ill

Neither did I ! Confused I just googled it and nothing's coming up.

Moochio · 20/04/2022 17:37

Bit rude.

Laiste · 20/04/2022 17:37

''He was horrified that DS did not want to watch the Festival of Remembrance at the Royal Albert Hall on T.V. Said it was disrespectful''

Oh Lord, sorry OP, but that's very eyerolly.

My mother used to try this on her GDs (my DDs). GDs were aware enough of her weirdness to shrug it off.

She'd never bothered with the royals much when i was growing up but went all Royalist and cat's bum face about 'This Sort of Thing being Important' in her 60s.

LowbrowVictoriana · 20/04/2022 17:37

I keep up with the news and have seen nothing at all about the queen being ill. Unless being 96 (or whatever) counts as an illness.

Hope90x · 20/04/2022 17:37

Really would let it "go over my head".
Nothing worth getting wound up over.

I'm sure DS is confident enough to know that one's ability to graduate from University, and go on to achieve sucess in their chosen career, does not always depend upon a knowledge of current affairs 😄

Laiste · 20/04/2022 17:39

Sorry posted too soon. She tried v hard to get them watch the Queen's speech on xmas day for a few years running but gave up thankfully.

AlexaShutUp · 20/04/2022 17:40

Sounds like your dad is very out of touch with what is important to the majority of young people. He sounds very judgemental. What a shame if he ends up alienating his grandchildren. I don't suppose that your ds will be willing to engage with this kind of shit very often.

ddl1 · 20/04/2022 17:43

It's a bit rude and unnecessary. I did know she'd had Covid; but I wouldn't consider that as the key current news item.

CPL593H · 20/04/2022 17:53

Well, considering she got on a helicopter to Sandringham today, she's clearly not 'ill ill'.

Ignore him, some grandparents are thrilled that their grandchildren have chances they perhaps didn't, others are threatened by it. Sad but says more about him.

L0bstersLass · 20/04/2022 18:05

Is the queen ill? I thought she had mobility problems.
If I was your son I'd be tempted to go back to your dad bringing him up to date with a simple, important fact which is that the queen is not ill.
I'd also point out that university isn't about keeping up to date with fake news.
However, I'm not recommending that your son takes my advice if he wants to maintain a relationship with his grandad, who sounds like a bit of a tit.