Skip to main content
Skip to main navigation
Skip to talk navigation

Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6

AIBU?

AIBU - Rude Date

135 replies

cjhealy · 19/04/2022 16:46

Hi all,

I went on a date (wish I hadn't now!) with a man. It was our second date. All was going well and we were walking towards my usual car park on a nice sunny day. I was thankfully going to go home at this point. It was just such a nice day that we continued walking post-food.

As we were walking, a woman was walking towards us; so I moved across the pavement a bit to let her pass. She looked dazed and distraught and was holding a flower. Within a second of her passing us; this man I was with said (far too loudly) 'GOD, WHAT'S UP WITH HERRRR?! CHEER UP!' He didn't say it directly to her, but rather in my direction. Still though; I thought it was so rude. She was clearly still within earshot.

I told him she might have suffered a bereavement/just attended a funeral/received bad news etc... you just don't know. I don't see why he felt the need to comment/somewhat shout it out loud. For what purpose?!

I've always hated men who have said things like 'Cheer up, love!' or 'Smile! It might never happen!' so I admit I am sensitive to comments like this. It was also the second date with someone - (who happens to be the first person I've been remotely interested in since my partner passed away).

I went home and just relaxed - but still mad. He has since texted me (today) with: "You still in a strop? I was only joking darling!" I haven't responded and don't think I will.

I honestly don't want to see him again. AIBU to feel this way?

OP posts:

Report

GooglyEyeballs · 19/04/2022 16:48

YANBU. He sounds like a bit of a pig. Cut your losses, send him a text saying thanks but no thanks and move on

MWNA · 19/04/2022 16:49

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”

Maya Angelou I think.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 19/04/2022 16:49

Nope. He was a twat and a pig. ditch

Romeerka · 19/04/2022 16:50

Bin the whole guy

TibetanTerrah · 19/04/2022 16:51

The "you still in a strop?" would have sent me over the edge. Its so dismissive, like you're a toddler who had an irrational tantrum.

AppleKatie · 19/04/2022 16:52

Eugh and his follow up message is worse.

Aquamarine1029 · 19/04/2022 16:52

IMMEDIATE ICK.

What an arsehole. I would block and delete.

SamMil · 19/04/2022 16:52

Definitely one to block, I think!

hellcatspangle · 19/04/2022 16:52

He sounds like a total knob.

WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe · 19/04/2022 16:52

God what a dick! Ignore, block and move on. Be thankful he showed his twatty side so early on

Aquamarine1029 · 19/04/2022 16:53

Please don't lower yourself by responding.

Mumoblue · 19/04/2022 16:54

Ew. Luckily you dodged this bullet early!

HollowTalk · 19/04/2022 16:54

Horrible man. I wouldn't respond and would just block immediately.

Whatsonmymindgrapes · 19/04/2022 16:55

Gross. Yanbu

Zoom101 · 19/04/2022 16:56

Respond with ‘Still a cunt, darling?’

No, don’t actually do that, just black, ignore and chalk it up to experience. Hopefully your next date with be someone more evolved.

ForeverLooking · 19/04/2022 16:58

Urgh, what a cock. I also wouldn't respond and would block. Says all you want to say.

arethereanyleftatall · 19/04/2022 16:59

@Aquamarine1029

Please don't lower yourself by responding.

Absolutely this. Lucky escape. Immediate block.

iklboo · 19/04/2022 16:59

Well he's an absolute peach isn't he? You're well rid.

CPL593H · 19/04/2022 17:02

If someone can't behave like a decent human being on a second date, you've got no chance 15 years down the line, when they've got flu and there's no milk in the fridge.

Beautifulmonster87 · 19/04/2022 17:03

Maybe he felt uncomfortable about how she was behaving and that’s how he reacted? I think it’s a bit OTT to bin someone off based just on that!

Greatoutdoors · 19/04/2022 17:03

At least you found out what he was like early on. You’re well rid.

irishfarmer · 19/04/2022 17:04

The text the next day would def be the end of it for me! You can do better op. And sorry about the death of you partner x

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Email address

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

arethereanyleftatall · 19/04/2022 17:09

@Beautifulmonster87

Maybe he felt uncomfortable about how she was behaving and that’s how he reacted? I think it’s a bit OTT to bin someone off based just on that!

And the sexist, arrogant, blame someone else, 'banter' text the next day?!?

iklboo · 19/04/2022 17:13

Maybe he felt uncomfortable about how she was behaving and that’s how he reacted? I think it’s a bit OTT to bin someone off based just on that!

How would he feel uncomfortable about how a total stranger passing by was behaving? That's really scraping the barrel for an excuse for twattish behaviour.

Mumteedum · 19/04/2022 17:15

Trust your judgement.

... And block.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.