Who should pay? Him or me?

[WhatIsThisPlease]

Bought DS a car using trust fund money set up when he was a baby.

DP spent ages looking out for 'the right car' as apparently cars are his thing and DS and I didn't know what we were looking for. Fair enough.

Car had a fault light on the dash when we got it home. Garage said they were too busy to fix it but if we took it somewhere in the next 3 months and got it fixed, they'd pay.

DP has fannied about procrastinated over the last 3 months despite me regularly mentioning it.

Now the 3 months has lapsed and the garage is no longer obligated to pay. He's finally getting it sorted but says I have to pay because it's my DS's car (he is not DS's father).

DS is still at school with no means of paying it himself.

I'm so cross!! I got him to ring the garage a few weeks ago to clarify the exact date it needed fixing by and he still didn't do it!!!!! I'd have sorted myself but he likes to think that 'all things car' are his department.

It's annoying he said he'd sort it but didn't.

However, you or your DS should have realised it hadn't been sorted and intervened.

So... you.

I find your passivity dispiriting. Who made him the god of all things 4 wheeled? Him, yes - but backed up by him.

You should have been able to rely on him, but even then… I couldn’t hear someone beating their chest and declaring that THEY would be the Phoner of Garages! He sounds a boorish wanker.

I’d expect him to pay, as he’s the cause of there being a cost.

It SHOULD be DP - he picked a car with a fault, said he'd sort it and didn't bother. But in reality he's just refusing so you will end up sorting it. Is there any trust fund money left?

But seems his big manly god personality doesn’t stretch to paying? 🤣
What a loser.

IMHO DP is at fault for saying he would do it and not, but you are more at fault for kowtowing to DP and encouraging your DS to do the same.

It was his money, his trust fund his car.

Shouldnt you have been insisting the choice of car was HIS decision, not DPs and HIS choice whether to factor DPs experience into his decision. What other decisions does DP get to take for you and DS? What happens if you say no?

Is his trust fund going to pay for his insurance and fuel too?

Out of interest what car did DP choose for DS? Does he actually like it or just happy to have a car? Did DP blow the budget on something he would like whereas DS might have chosen something cheaper and spent the rest of his money later?

Don't trust DP, who sounds absolutely useless to me. Just get it into garage and get it sorted. When DP wants you to do something for him tell him no he can do it himself.

Cars clearly aren't his thing because I would never accept a car that had a warning light on in the first place.
Your DP is a dick, but ultimately the car belongs to your son so you'll have to pay. Any idea yet what the fault is?

Sorry, overlap, I've just seen that it's a tyre pressure issue. Once the sensor is sorted, get a garage (I use ATS) to put nitrogen in the tyres instead of air. Nitrogen is a stable gas & doesn't expand & retract with hot & cold weather. It will help stop further false tyre pressure readings. I've had this issue with 2 other cars, I put nitrogen in & never got another warning.

you are guilty of being a pushover for letting a man sort it out just because hes a man and he says so.

i cant believe woman still fall for this shit in the day and age.

this decision has now come back and bit you in the bum.

clearly the "man" either wasn't capable of sorting it or was just to lazy to sort it.
i would have nipped his suggestion in the bud straight away and took offence that just because i have a fanny im not capable

i would be making him pay as his fanning about has caused this situation

he shouldn't have accepted a car with any faults to begin with and then couldn't be bothered to fix it.

i would be telling him quite firmly hes paying as 1 he accepted a faulty car to begin with and was willing to be fobbed off by the garage(i would have told them if they are to busy to fix it then stick it)and 2 he pissed about to long.

@lemongreentea

What is the actual point of him?

Why are you still with him? He takes over, promises things he has no intention of delivering and sounds controlling. Plus he has no money.

Why are you still with him? I feel sorry for your son.

I think this too. I can't bear it when someone chips in and then does a half job. It is so pointless, they may as well just stay out of it and stop letting people down.

Well he obviously doesn't have a clue about cars if he chose one faulty on purchase

Stop letting him think he is the big I am. Also, any future car issues, tell him to keep his nose out!