To ask: what irrationally annoys you?

[PlasticineMeg]

DD (9) went to a sleepover last weekend (as in 8 days ago) and took her iPad and bike as they went on a bike ride. When I went to pick her up I checked her bag and said “Have you got your charger?”. She didn’t, so I asked her to go and check friends room. Her friend and her family are lovely people but if you remember that TV show “how clean is your house” - that’s what their home is like. Which is fine, I’m not judging, but in that kind of chaos she couldn’t find her phone charger, it wasn’t where she left it. Her friend is one of five and they couldn’t figure out who’d taken it. She also couldn’t find her bike helmet, it wasn’t with her bike. I had to go pick DS up from football so left and the friend’s mum said when she found them she’d bring them over. Which she never did.

I’ve messaged the mum a number of times over the last few days asking if she’s found them, and she hasn’t. It’s now pointless asking, I’ve done all I can and I’m not getting the stuff back.

Yes DD is old enough not to lose stuff, but I’ve had to spend £35 on a replacement charger from the Apple Store (the knock off ones are shit and I refuse to buy them) and £30 on a replacement bike helmet. If a child came over to my house I’d be mortified if they left with expensive items not having been found and wolf do all I could to track the items down. On the day I felt like Carrie from SATC when she loses her shoes in her friends house and her friend couldn’t give fewer shits this other mum acted like I was making a big deal out of nothing.

I’m not asking for advice as like I say literally nothing more can be done, I’ve asked and asked and they haven’t been found. But I’m irrationally angry about this. I once got punched in the face on a night out in a case of mistaken identity and I got over that more quickly than I have this. An exBF also cheated on me and I wasn’t this angry. Its stupid as I’ve had a solution but for some reason I’m a weirdo who’s still seething So help make me feel better and tell me what makes you irrationally angry. Please help me feel normal

People who block aisles in supermarkets, or who are talking to people they know and blocking the aisle, or blocking something by just looking at it for ten fucking hours!!

And then looked so shocked when you say excuse me, as though they can't believe there's another person in the supermarket as well. Annoys me more than the actual act I think.

Same with people who stand directly in front of lift doors and then look so surprised that there's someone trying to get off when the doors open

People who say ELLICK-tricity instead of eLECtricity. They presumably don't say ELLICK-tric or ELLICK-trician!

Surely that IS how you say electrician though? eLECtrician isn't right

@MardyOldGoth

That isn't irrational at all! I'd be livid!

I get irrationally angry with people who comment on private group posts on Facebook saying 'Can't share!!!!!' That's because it's a post in a private group and after using the bloody platform for over a decade you must know by now that it isn't the OP's choice to make it unshareable (is that even a word?)! Just sick of seeing it really.

I feel the same about people who 'place mark' on MN. There's a bookmark function.

My mum pouring herself large glasses of (my) wine so there's clearly 1.5 glass' worth in her serving and then declaring "I've only had 1!" - sometimes she tops it up mid-drink. Still only counts it as 1. Also, I can't stand Tom Kerridge or The Hairy Bikers.

People who walk really close behind you but then don't overtake!

Holly Willoughby not sure if that's irrational though

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@SookieHouseboat well there is an aitch in aitch but it’s at the beginning not the hend! 😬

Dammit it’s at the hend not the beginning. It’s hearly ok?

I feel your pain.

Agree this is not irrational. I get serious rage when I watch people lean over their trolley and rest their arms on it as they push. I don't know why it annoys me so much - I think it's because it looks uncomfortable and they then can't steer the trolley properly so just a stupid thing to do. That's irrational.

I really shouldn't read these sort of threads as I end up acquiring so many new annoyances that up to now had not even made me go 'phafff'🧐.

Same with people who stand directly in front of lift doors and then look so surprised that there's someone trying to get off when the doors open

Yes! I stare at them until they move.

Even more annoying, is the people who walk up and see you standing to the side of the lift or train doors waiting for them to open and then walk on and move past the people getting off as if you don’t exist or they couldn’t wait the few seconds for people to get off. So much for British queuing and politeness even more so when there are signs and announcements about such things.

Tbh, not irrational whatsoever.

Being messaged about non urgent things out side of work hours .

The bloke that keeps parking over my dropped kerb. We don't use it for access (the previous owners wired the gates shut and the garage is falling down), so that's why I'm being irrational, but I hate not having a space on the road!

DH saying Danke Schon instead of thank you. We aren't German

This made me laugh, but I can understand how it would induce a red mist after the first few times.

My husband when talking to customers on the phone. He ALWAYS paces into the signal dead-spot then starts shouting. He also repeats himself constantly to the customer then complains how long they kept him on the phone .
And to top it off, he has an office in the garden, but still we have to endure the shouting, pacing cringefest of his calls!

Loud apple chewers.

@Wannabegreenfingers

People who join the motorway at 40mph. The speed limit is 70, the rest of the traffic is doing 70. Do bl**dy 70!! If you can't please surrender your driving licence.....

That's down to the car in part too though. My sister has a little 1L and unless the slip road is miles long, 40-50 is the best it can do. Mine's a 2L with a turbo and reaches 70 no problem.

Wavery singing voices like Ronan Keating's.
I can't listen to them, even just thinking about the sound makes me angry.

People (non-reader dh) who asks me what my book is about when I’m reading.

My DH never pushes his chair in after leaving the table. He leaves drawers open and the sliding cupboard doors open. He also leaves the Hoover out still plugged in and any cleaning products out if he has cleaned something. Drives me mad.

I also can't stand Alfie Boe.

People that bring up the "haitch" and "aitch" debate in these, snd similar threads really irrationally annoy me.

You know it's a regional dialect thing? Please don't criticise the way I speak just because I'm from a particular part of the country.

People who abandon their shopping trolley in the middle of the aisle to look at something on the shelf, gives me the rage

@electrocautery

People that bring up the "haitch" and "aitch" debate in these, snd similar threads really irrationally annoy me.

You know it's a regional dialect thing? Please don't criticise the way I speak just because I'm from a particular part of the country.

Yes but people who say haitch never say N Haitch S (NHS) so it doesn't make sense.

Yes but people who say haitch never say N Haitch S (NHS) so it doesn't make sense

They do in Northern Ireland and parts of Scotland.

It doesn't have to make sense to you, but please be mindful that it is a bit offensive criticising regional variations