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Easter eggs & dh

46 replies

Wingingthis · 17/04/2022 19:22

Aibu to be annoyed about this or is it pregnancy hormones getting the better of me….

Valentine’s Day - me & Dh agree to get each other a small gift. On the day I give him my card & small gift. He gets me nothing

Easter - asked him twice are we going to get each other an egg this year, just so we know and it’s not awkward on the day (we spend it with extended family) he says yes. Couple of weeks ago text him saying what kind of egg would you like as I’m at the shop, he told me white chocolate and thank you etc.

Today got our 2 dc to give him his egg & bunny and he has nothing for me

I honestly do not care about a chocolate egg, I know it sounds ridiculous. It’s just the lack of effort and when we’d agreed we’d do it, i then felt I looked stupid in front of his family and was embarrassed

I know I’m probably being silly and I’m not raging annoyed but am a bit upset ?

OP posts:
LoudingVoice · 17/04/2022 19:23

How annoying - did you say to him, where’s my egg then?

NearlyHeadlessNick · 17/04/2022 19:25

"hang on, we agreed to swap eggs. You knew I was getting you one, why haven't you made an effort? It's not the chocolate, it's the principle".

Wait for an answer.

Original poster
Wingingthis · 17/04/2022 19:26

I did say the above and he said he “hasn’t had time” as he did long hours at work this week. I said we agreed to it weeks ago and they’ve been in the shops for ages. He said he “doesn’t go to supermarkets” so I said petrol stations?? We also live right next to a huge supermarket!
He offered to pop out and get one today and I said no I’d rather you spend it with the DC

OP posts:
Lime37 · 17/04/2022 19:33

You can get eggs off Amazon not going the shops is no excuse.

BridgesofMadisonfan · 17/04/2022 19:34

He's be lucky if he found one today.

Blanca87 · 17/04/2022 19:50

He is just ensuring you know where you are in the pecking order. It’s no coincidence this has happened twice in your pregnancy. Watch with care (and use your voice to let him know how this makes you feel)❤️

Goldijobsandthe3bears · 17/04/2022 19:52

Eat the one you bought him, in front of him.

NameGoesHere · 17/04/2022 19:52

Eat the one you got the selfish twat .

Whatsonmymindgrapes · 17/04/2022 19:53

That’s unfair

ThreeLittleDots · 17/04/2022 20:12

He is just ensuring you know where you are in the pecking order

That's wisdom..I agree.

ThisIsntDanicaBritannica · 17/04/2022 20:15

In your shoes, I’d then eat the egg I’d got for him. Right in front of him. I’ve got you a voucher for Christmas, darling, and you’ve got me sod all. Well that’s fine, I’m off to spend your voucher. And I’d do it every single time.
I’m a bugger, though…

MangoBiscuit · 17/04/2022 20:16

I totally agree with eating the one you got him. All of it. Don't let him have a bite. Lazy, selfish, shitty behaviour.

Ginger1982 · 17/04/2022 20:40

What a dick.

My DH didn't get me anything for Mother's Day one year because he took man flu a few days before. Never mind the fact he'd known about it for weeks and also clearly couldn't lift his phone to order anything, despite being able to scroll FB. To add insult to injury, we then went to visit his mother on the day itself and we had to stop en route at Tesco to get her something. I thought he might have gone in and just got me a card at the same time but he sent me in and I had to buy the card and flowers for her. I was fuming and took the face off him that night. He's never forgotten again.

Your DH clearly isn't bothered.

Poppyhopscotch · 17/04/2022 20:56

I'd be really pissed off. He's basically saying that your feelings don't matter and you're not worth the effort. I'd definitely be having a conversation to say how it makes me feel. I hope he understands and does something different next time.

Everydayimhuffling · 17/04/2022 21:12

I too would eat his in front of him. And have a serious talk about the message he is sending your kids and his family as well as you that you aren't important and your feelings are not valuable. He really needs to do better. Especially as he didn't learn anything the first time round. Time to let him know that you won't be accepting that again.

Brefugee · 17/04/2022 21:36

don't eat the one you got him. Just put it in the bin with a load of leftovers and crap on top of it.

And sack off this romantic idea you have that he will get you a gift, he won't. Sorry.

ItsFineImFine · 17/04/2022 21:56

How awful I’m so sorry. It’s not the egg it’s obviously the principle and @Blanca87 said it well. I would say behave as if your DC were watching - how would you want them to see you reacting?

2Hot2Handle · 17/04/2022 21:56

He certainly shouldn’t have accepted an egg when he had nothing to give you in return.
This isn’t about an egg, it’s about the two of you agreeing something in advance and him not doing his bit. Bring it up again and ask him for an explanation.

Moochio · 17/04/2022 21:59

Eat his egg

longcoffeebreak · 17/04/2022 22:01

is it just gift related or does he display this attitude in other areas? I think the answer to this question perhaps could guide how you decide to respond.

Moochio · 17/04/2022 22:02

In all seriousness I wouldn't bother buying him anything ever agaib

violetbunny · 17/04/2022 22:03

He "doesn't want to go to the supermarket"? Why is that? Let me guess, most of the shopping and other life admin falls to you?

Laszlomydarling · 17/04/2022 22:07

People are saying eat his egg, but I have a funny feeling the OP doesn't like white chocolate. Could be wrong though.

Either way I would have a conversation now about the future and agree to no longer get each other gifts so you don't feel like this again, or ask him to make an effort in future.

He made you feel like he doesn't care. Ask him if that was his intention.

romany4 · 17/04/2022 22:12

Eat the one you bought him, in front of him

This ^^

lisaandalan · 17/04/2022 22:25

I would not bother getting him anything in future. X