To be annoyed over school childcare arrangements?

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My ex has been very inconsistent with our child over the years. He's got a new gf so obviously all that's changed. He works shifts and wants our child one to two weekends a month Saturday to Tuesday night. This will mean drop off and pick ups at school will be sorted Monday and Tuesday. I work 4 days so have every Monday off. I can't really swap my days off and it's been this was for 4 years. I told him I would like to do a pick up and us both having the same day off is daft. He's started going on about consistency etc. If his plan goes ahead it means I can't really do any school runs !.

Don’t set that precedent that you’ll accommodate whatever ludicrous request he has.

Or I'm thinking of taking 2 hours annual leave a working day a month in the pm so I can do pick up that day.

Doing at least some school runs is very helpful for making contacts with other parents, arranging play dates, and speaking to the teacher when required.
I understand the desire to do this. I would be annoyed too OP.

Don't change your working hours! If he wants more contact he can fit in himself around the established arrangement!

Apparently this flexible working is going through now so we'll know soon.

I'm a little bit confused.

Can you not just tell him you're picking your child up on Monday and that's that.
Your child lives with you...why are you letting him overrule you?

I don't let him overrule ne

So why don't you just pick her up like you want to then??

Youre giving him too much say.

‘that doesn't work for me or dd.’

Id also pin him down to the every other weekend.

Why should het get those days just because that's he isnt working those days? Everyone else arranges childcare when they cannot do pick ups. Why can he not do that?

@TracyMosby

Youre giving him too much say.

‘that doesn't work for me or dd.’

Id also pin him down to the every other weekend.

Why should het get those days just because that's he isnt working those days? Everyone else arranges childcare when they cannot do pick ups. Why can he not do that?

He just won't. It negatively affects my mental health when he's a prick so I try to live and let live

He just won't
Then say no. Or suggest he has her friday to Tuesday every other weekend. In writing. In an email.