Aunt sends me religious cards

[Iamnotreligious]

My aunt knows I am not in the slightest bit religious and I won't disrespect her faith she's devout catholic.

Every Christmas, Easter, Birthday she sends me a very religious card with a passage from the bible and a well meaning message about how much God loves me. I can't not reply I'm not rude but how can I politely ask her to not send me religious cards or as it's just a few times a year and she feels feels she's doing something nice just suck it up and keep being polite?

But I get Eid cards, Pesach cards etc and I don’t celebrate those festivals, but I thank the friends who give them to me.

Just chill. She's taking the time to choose a card that means something to her, quoting a particular verse that means something very important to her and taking the time to handwrite a card which demonstrates the strength of her care/love/positive thoughts for you.

Just because the framework for her expressing her care and love doesn't align with your own, that doesn't mean it's kind or appropriate to say 'stop thinking nice thoughts about me'. You can't police her feelings and as there is absolutely no way her positive thoughts can affect you or your soul (if you even believe you have one), she's not harmed you in any way - just thank her for her cards in the same way you'd thank somebody for a shit card with a kitten on or one with the ubiquitous bottle of Prosecco on it.

Suck up and be polite. No need for any other response.

Just suck it up. Whats the harm. She will be very hurt if you tell her not to send them.

Don't make it an issue. Its a card. Its not like she is shitty on your front lawn.

That said, shape her by not responding to the cards. If you do she will assume that you like them. You don't have to be mean or rude, just don't respond. I find that usually shapes people do stop it.

We are living in tan era when people are determined to find something to feel offended about. Honestly.

*an

She means well, and it is hard to change the habits of a lifetime. Try and be grateful for the kind thoughts that she sends and accept the cards for that, not what picture is on them.

If you ask her to stop I think she would be extremely hurt, so if you don't want to upset her, just crack on and be thankful that she thinks of you so fondly.

So what, it's well intended. My aunt did too, I have enough respect for her to know it's important to her and not to react badly to it.

A lot of people send me cards with dogs on them because they are dog lovers. I'm not but I don't get offended.

I couldn’t get het up about a card. I’m not religious in the slightest, but I’ve had to read through numerous emails by my company regarding Ramadan because of the time of year. I don’t have any interest in reading them but it doesn’t bother me per say- it can be interesting to see how other people conduct their lives but I don’t need 7 different emails about something that has absolutely nothing to do with my work (I would gladly read one email out of respect, and might even enjoy it). If someone bought a religious card for me I would thank them and ignore the religious text.

If it's just the cards, then just be polite and refrain from making a fuss. And after all, Christmas and Easter are religious holidays for Christians, so it's natural for devout Christians to choose religious cards for these occasions. It would be annoying if she kept trying to convert you, but it doesn't sound as though she is doing that.

'Suck it up' must be the new 'no is a full sentence' on here

This is sad. It'd a gesture of good will and kindness. She believes .. you don't
She isn't hurting you in anyway. Just take it in the way it's given..

@ThinWomansBrain

do you send her religious cards in respect of her faith? on non religious ones, expressing your good wishes.

She isn't going to convert you - or probably even trying to.

You've reminded me that I do buy a small pack of Christmas cards that have nativity type pictures on, for my religious relatives. Yes, I'm atheist, but I know that they like that sort of card. And Christmas is about making people happy, to me.

Do you believe in the virgin Mary? I bet you've had a few Christmas cards with her on over the years

She's being a loving aunt.
Try to be a loving,understanding nephew/niece 🌈💐

Unless it's an obvious recruitment etc. Just suck it up. What's the harm? Your aunt is thinking of you. Just have that as a takeaway from the card.

She probably sends those cards to everyone. My one religious relative always sends cards with Bible verses in them and she always tells us that she is praying for us in tough times too. She isn’t trying to convert anyone and she knows we aren’t religious but it’s one of her ways of showing us that she cares and that we’re in her thoughts. I’m an atheist but I think it’s lovely of her.

I used to have a very religious elderly aunt who not only sent religious cards, but would get very annoyed by secular ones- anything with “merry” (because celebrating drunkenness”, “season’s greetings” or pictures not of the nativity fell short. I used to have fun finding cards that broke as many of the rules as possible while still being entirely innocuous.

She sends you religious cards because she believes in God.

You (if you do send them) would send her non religious ones because you don't.

Works both ways, dunnit?

How would you feel if she asked you to stop sending her non religious ones because she was offended that you know she's a Christian and you make no mention of it?

I'm not religious at all and my late Nan and some other people send me them. I am not remotely offended. Why would I be?!

Someone in work is a Muslim and has invited us to their Eid celebrations- that doesn't offend me either

@stripeyflowers

We are living in tan era when people are determined to find something to feel offended about. Honestly.