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AIBU to not want to leave my nine year old children alone overnight in room separated from the main accommodation?

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Loveabathtub · 13/04/2022 15:29

Would love your thoughts on this matter. My partner and I booked a tailor made holiday to Cambodia with a travel agent that claims to be a experts in its field. It cost a small fortune. We made some specific requests, interconnecting rooms or a two bedroom suite, so the children (9 year old twins) could sleep together and we could get some privacy in the room next door. All was fine until we hit the beach resort where we had been booked into a two bedroom villa for nine nights. The second bedroom was totally detached from the main part of the villa. You actually had to go out of the front door, through the garden and around the swimming pool to get to it. Whilst it was only a stones throw away from the main part of the villa, I just wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my children in a separate building overnight, let alone for nine nights. AIBU as when I spoke to the travel agent to try and rectify the situation, he didn't seem to understand the problem? 😧 In fact he made me feel like I was the one with the problem. I have drawn a diagram to explain better and attach a photo. Would welcome your thoughts on the matter.

AIBU to not want to leave my nine year old children alone overnight in room separated from the main accommodation?
AIBU to not want to leave my nine year old children alone overnight in room separated from the main accommodation?
OP posts:
RagzRebooted · 13/04/2022 15:31

I would not be comfortable with that and I'm quite a lax parent with that kind of thing. I'd put one of the beds in the lounge a d ask for a partial refund.

aquamarine1 · 13/04/2022 15:32

Absolutely not. If there's no resolution then the only thing is to take a child each and you and your husband go in separate rooms but I would be furious with the travel agent.

tiredanddangerous · 13/04/2022 15:32

Hell no!

What did you do?

LampLighter414 · 13/04/2022 15:32

YANBU

am I correct to think you have not yet been on the trip? Hopefully alternative accommodation can be found. If you don't like the agent you are dealing with maybe you can ask to be assigned to someone else? It seems odd why he can't understand you'd like a 9 year old sleeping in the same building as you

Maisa45 · 13/04/2022 15:33

I wouldn't and I'm generally a lazy relaxed parent.

Batinhernightdress · 13/04/2022 15:34

Yanbu. It is exactly what we are looking for but our children are 16 and 17 not 9.

Notwithittoday · 13/04/2022 15:34

Absolutely not. Never in a million would this fly with me

Duchess379 · 13/04/2022 15:34

Absolutely not. Madeline McCann springs to mind. 😲

SoupDragon · 13/04/2022 15:35

I'm a lax parent and I wouldn't have been happy with that.

Anna197264 · 13/04/2022 15:35

Absolutely no way. Even if we were holidaying in an area Knew well I wouldn’t be comfortable with this. I would have a parent and child in each bedroom. Can’t believe the travel agent thinks this is okay.

TokyoSushi · 13/04/2022 15:35

@Maisa45

I wouldn't and I'm generally a lazy relaxed parent.
Same!
SpringRainbow · 13/04/2022 15:35

Nah I wouldn’t be happy about this either. You are not being unreasonable.

jytdtysrht · 13/04/2022 15:36

No I would not accept it. If I had to stay there I’d put one parent and one child in each room.

NewBrownMouse · 13/04/2022 15:36

I would be very uncomfortable with that, you won't hear any noises such a shouts or doors opening that you would in same building. Your children also have to go outside if they have any issue which needs you to fix, this could be at night in the dark. Anyone could be hanging around on the beach or they could decide to go for a wander and you wouldn't know.

LaurieFairyCake · 13/04/2022 15:36

He's just pretending he doesn't know what the problem - that's not standard 'family' accommodation Hmm

Tell him to get his arse into gear and find proper family accommodation

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/04/2022 15:37

No thanks. I'd be playing musical beds and sleeping in with them. But it sounds like an expensive trip so I'd be annoyed about it.

Is the travel agent child-free?

OfstedOffred · 13/04/2022 15:37

Having the building not connected is one thing but there's a pool there. If a child got up to find a parent at night, maybe feeling unwell, they could fall in easily.

No way.

We have a similar situation with holiday accomodation where it's technically separate, but it's on a tiny courtyard (about 5m across, that you can't exit (the gate is locked), and there's no hazards etc like a pool, and even that has got me worried.

RedHelenB · 13/04/2022 15:37

Seems ok to me.

Whelmed · 13/04/2022 15:37

Yanbu. Based on your drawing they look uncomfortably far from the main one.

Vsirbdo · 13/04/2022 15:38

I wouldn’t be happy either although looks beautiful. What have you done?

SnowyPetals · 13/04/2022 15:38

Absolutely not, especially not for so many nights.

AnneElliott · 13/04/2022 15:38

No I wouldn't be happy with this - and I'm considered a relaxed parent.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/04/2022 15:38

Also I assume the pool is unfenced. Child comes to see you in the night because they're unwell? Sleepy? Yes, no.

backtobusy · 13/04/2022 15:38

@Duchess379

Absolutely not. Madeline McCann springs to mind. 😲
Honestly this came to my mind as well. Overall I'm quite a relaxed parent about safety I think. But a separate building for 9 year olds in a different country sounds like it has a lot of potential to go wrong. What happens if one of them sleeps badly and tries to find you in the middle of the night. Older teens perfect but dc not so much.
Henrylj · 13/04/2022 15:39

Absolutely not, especially as they’d have to walked by the pool to get to you

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