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Husband just bought son a switch lite with no discussion

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Dramateacher1 · 12/04/2022 18:45

Hi,
My husband went out with my son today and bought a £239 switch lite for him. This has come out of our joint savings. We had previously discussed getting one for previous Christmas or birthday but decided against it. We also discussed getting one for taking on holiday in the summer. On discussing it previously I said we should get the proper switch as we could play it together, my husband preferred the switch lite as its handheld. We never reached an agreement. I am annoyed he bought it, he thinks I am being unreasonable. I think a purchase like that should be discussed and bought for an occasion, not just on a random Tuesday. We can afford it, but it’s £200 pounds I’d rather spend on something else. Son has not asked for it.

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NewName9273 · 12/04/2022 20:54

I couldn't get worked up about this. I came home this week to a ridiculously huge trampoline in the garden that my DP had bought. I thought it was a lovely gift for the children- but the difference is DP bought it from his personal account rather than the joint funds.

SD1978 · 12/04/2022 20:55

Would irritate me greatly. Firstly, it's a purchase that should have been discussed, secondly, the lite has less features and not the same ability to play with two players as the standard one, so that would have irritated me also.

22Giraffes · 12/04/2022 21:00

Dc have a switch lite and only used it for one game, total waste of money. Been trying to sell it for the past few weeks!

TinaYouFatLard · 12/04/2022 21:04

I would be miffed that a Christmas/birthday idea had been used up but would get over it pretty quickly.

6 is a bit young though and I am very lax about gaming.

NewPapaGuinea · 12/04/2022 21:10

YANBU. He impulsively bought a lite stating reasons that don’t make sense and now has buyers remorse.

bellac11 · 12/04/2022 21:13

How many discussions need to take place though? Sounds like it got discussed to death, you both agreed you were going to get one except that your idea was it was the full switch and for the plane, and his was the handheld. Either way you were going to end up with one.

Pegasussnail · 12/04/2022 21:25

He wanted to have the final say and go against what you felt was a better option.
He didn't even get the right game.. it's so much money !!!

bellac11 · 12/04/2022 21:28

@Pegasussnail

He wanted to have the final say and go against what you felt was a better option. He didn't even get the right game.. it's so much money !!!
I dont understand this mentality.

You might also say that OP wanted to have the final say and went against what he felt was the better option

ScoobyGrew · 12/04/2022 21:31

But you can take a switch on a plane.

Dailyfailcanfeckoff · 12/04/2022 21:35

Poor ds no wonder he says he isn’t fussed all joynhad been sucked out of a surprise present.

You can afford it - unless it’s a weekly thing then just go with the flow and let ds enjoy the surprise.

Indoctro · 12/04/2022 21:39

Could be worse..,My husband came home the other day for no reason with a Xbox S for my kids who also just got switch lites for Xmas

Plus 2 controllers and a game

£600 up in smoke for no reason. Why I asked why he said because he wanted to Hmm

Indoctro · 12/04/2022 21:40

Ps should of said my kids love their lites. So not everyone thinks they are rubbish.

Rosebuud · 12/04/2022 21:43

Cool. I think it’s lovely when a parent occasionally just randomly treats a child. It’s something they remember for ever, just as we do as adults I’d someone does it for us.

What a lovely man he is and such a lucky little boy to have him as a father.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 12/04/2022 21:44

@Masterchiefsbutt

I agree with you, should have bought the full switch not a lite. They're shit.
Yes I would be annoyed on this count.
Rosebuud · 12/04/2022 21:45

Oh and try not to suck the joy out of it op for your child. Try really hard.

DyingForACuppa · 12/04/2022 21:47

@bellac11

How many discussions need to take place though? Sounds like it got discussed to death, you both agreed you were going to get one except that your idea was it was the full switch and for the plane, and his was the handheld. Either way you were going to end up with one.
This is a really weird viewpoint to me. If my DH and I had discussed something 'to death' I would more pissed off that he disregarded what I wanted, not less.

If they hadn't discussed it (or discussed it once briefly and the DH forgot) and the DH went out and bought one then I'd shrug it off. But here the DH knew perfectly well that getting the version where they can't play together would annoy the OP and did it anyway, giving it to the child to ensure the OP couldn't take it back without being the bad guy. It's really underhand behaviour.

Fraaahnces · 12/04/2022 21:47

Shouldn’t your post be “DH bought himself a Switch Lite and is pretending he bought it for DS. It came out of joint funds and I’m pissed.”

Aprilx · 12/04/2022 21:48

I am going to have to Google switch lite. 😊

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 12/04/2022 21:52

Our conversation would have been along the lines of
Him "just brought a xxx for ds"
Me "how much was it"
Him "£200"
Me "okay".
Depends on your budget, affordability, does he work, do you contribute equally etc etc.

AllKnowingGerbil · 12/04/2022 21:56

How ridiculous. A xmas-level present at a random time definitely needs discussion. Its worse that your ds doesn't sound bothered about it too. What a waste of money.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 12/04/2022 22:00

As you say it's perfectly affordable I really can't see the issue here. I'm surprised it would annoy so many people, tbh Blush

Lollyfalalalalalalalalaaahhhhh · 12/04/2022 22:03

I did this for my dd over lockdown, just because. I can't really explain myself other than I wanted to treat her with a surprise because she's just generally fab, I could afford it and I wanted to.
I think you, life's too short to not be a bit silly now and then

WonderfulYou · 12/04/2022 22:05

I’d be annoyed as I think those sorts of presents should be saved for Xmas or birthdays.

However it’s done now and you both did want to get him one eventually, so I’d let it go.

bellac11 · 12/04/2022 22:09

Perhaps your husband would be pissed off that you kept disregarding what he wanted too

If two people differ, one of the outcomes is going to upset the other.

Nelliephant1 · 12/04/2022 22:10

Really don't see what harm it's done, it's great to be able to treat your child outside birthdays and Christmas. Maybe should have gone for the bigger one, but he can always get that later on, that's what I did with my boys, they got their lites first then their full sized ones.

I hope your son has a great time with it.

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