AIBU to think that lockdown does not make it ok to let preschoolers bully others?

[Anon778833]

www.worcesternews.co.uk/news/20035030.ofsted-tells-worcestershire-nursery-requires-improvement/

Ofsted has found a nursery in my local area to be inadequate because the children were observed to be pushing, shoving and snatching toys off other children. I think that Ofsted was right to pull up the nursery on this. It’s bullying and should be corrected.

However, certain parents seem to feel that this sort of behaviour should not be corrected by the nursery and ‘it’s how kids learn’ apparently it’s perfectly normal for toddlers to behave like this because of lockdown(!) Well I have a 2 year old and she doesn’t do this and I have a zero tolerance policy on this sort of behaviour for obvious reasons.

It’s completely different if the child concerned has SEN, obviously. However, I’m fed up with ‘cause covid’ being used as an excuse for everything from shoddy workmanship to poor parenting and turning a blind eye to bullying. It’s normal for 2 year olds to sometimes display unacceptable behaviour, but if you don’t correct it you’re the one who’s wrong imo. And certainly, a nursery is in such a situation!

1/10 for effort but I won't be responding to your deliberate goading

You are responding. You just can’t answer it, because you don’t have a magical solution for young children going through unpleasant developmental stages.

Ofsted itself has said that Covid has impacted child development:
www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-60981450

I agree that that doesn't mean the behaviour shouldn't be dealt with. I imagine some parents feel that their parenting is being attacked because the report mentioned this behaviour and have got a bit defensive in the comments page? The parents perhaps feel that the nursery should be more lenient in light of how Covid has impacted their children's development. Ofsted on the other hand are perhaps suggesting that the nursery hasn't risen to the challenge of dealing with it. I tend to agree with the latter - that we have to mitigate the impact now rather than making allowances.

But, OP, you did very much imply that 2 year olds who behave like this are bullies (which they are not) and that your child would never do such a thing, so it's no wonder you've got people's backs up on here.

My 2 year old twins couldn't be more chalk and cheese where this kind of thing is concerned, btw, so it's not necessarily parenting that's at fault.