my brothers contesting my mothers will i have a question

[masterofdoomv1]

he has claimed that i bullied our mother to leave me the house and claims that there was a previous will saying he was to get half the house and me half but i wasnt told anything about this even if true he claims this will was made in the late 1990s and since then he had no relationship with our mother until two years ago when he became ill due to drinking and needed a liver transplant he was kept informed before this of our mothers and fathers falling healing due to illnessess they both had but didnt bother.

his lawyer is asking for details of gp social work and carers so they can check records and i wondered if this takes weeks or if it takes months as i feel like a nervous wreck being there for our our parents for the last two years of theyre life which was difficuilt and not getting any support from family members now theres money involved theyre interested all of a sudden and im tired of the whole thing it seems to be constant

@masterofdoomv1

She showed more Cate for someone else’s child than she did her own.

also that was a low blow adopted or not i was hers uncalled for

You are very defensive, and unwilling to consider your siblings’ potential viewpoints.

It’s not a blow at all.

Yes of course you were her child - from your point of view, from her point of view, from the point of view of the law.

But how do you think two of your brothers felt, knowing that she’d chosen to be your mother (and she was your mother) but not theirs?

This has ended so badly for you - you’ve lost your parents, and effectively your siblings too. But two of your brothers lost their mother a long time ago. It’s not a low blow for you to consider other perspectives.

She showed more Cate for someone else’s child than she did her own.

do one cor you showed your ignorance in your previous post you crossed the line when u made that comment i have nothing more to say to you

It’s not a low blow for you to consider other perspectives.

yeah in other words bend over backwards to please people that werent there and do right by them when theyve treated me like dirt youve done nothing but defend them and potray them like victims you really are laughable

But how do you think two of your brothers felt, knowing that she’d chosen to be your mother (and she was your mother) but not theirs?

when was that ever said your puting all this on theyre mother yet theyre not responsible for theyre own actions such as mugging an old woman ive seen nothing said about that so run along coc

@masterofdoomv1

But how do you think two of your brothers felt, knowing that she’d chosen to be your mother (and she was your mother) but not theirs?

when was that ever said your puting all this on theyre mother yet theyre not responsible for theyre own actions such as mugging an old woman ive seen nothing said about that so run along coc

“Run along”? 🤣

So I have mixed up the 6 brothers then?
Apologies if so… I thought it went:

• two by previously marriage
• three by second marriage
• one adopted into second marriage

And that the alcoholic one causing trouble AND the old lady mugger were both from the second marriage?

Even if I’ve got that wrong and mugger was one of the children she dropped, there’s still another child who got dropped and it wasn’t for mugging old ladies.

i dont need to explain to you coc ill let the lawyers deal with things and take it from there

I have to honest I don't understand the last few posts. Or what the constant 'coc/cor' is about.

But @masterofdoomv1 there's a similar case to yours been mentioned on the news. Land mark case apparently. The brother had seen the dad hardly at all he claimed, due to the sister. Alot of it seemed similar (like the daughter being there when yhe solicitor arriving and setting the scene, but then leaving for the will to actually be changed and signed. I am sure there must be some differences. But thought it might be worth you having a look as he won.

Sorry for your loss op and you seem to be getting a hard time.
Contesting a will is basically not adhering to a family members wish.
Your mum's will, like all wills should be honoured, it was your mums money and her wish to leave the house to you.
I wish you good luck

Butfirstcoffees

the brother didnt whose contesting will had no relationship with parents for several years through his own actions (drinking) this caused friction between him and his parents he moved out and had no relationship with them for several years until brothers partner got in touch with me saying his brother was ill asked me to get our morher to get in touch with him i did this brother admits to this the lawyer would also confirm i wasnt present when will was made there was lawyer two independant witnesses brought by lawyer and my parents ive said this before and the will could have been made any way they wanted so i ask how the hell im i to blame for anything

Butfirstcoffees ignore my last post there were typos this is how it should have read -

The brother whose contesting will had no relationship with parents for several years through his own actions (drinking) this caused friction between him and his parents he moved out and had no relationship with them for several years until brothers partner got in touch with me saying his partner was ill asked me to get our mother to get in touch with him i did this and the brother whose contesting will admits to this so the fact they had no relationship (parents and brother) was nothing to do with me

The lawyer would also confirm i wasnt present when will was made i didnt let the lawyer in my parents did there was lawyer two independant witnesses brought by lawyer and my parents the lawyer will confirm this it will be in his notes. Ive also said this before

The brother whose contesting the will chose not to help although he knew how ill they were refused to go to hospital when they had heart attack(father) and stroke (mother) and didnt bother going to visit them then later lied claimed he wasnt told

this same brother also didnt go to his own fathers funeral although he was on speaking terms with mother at time of dad passing and then after our mother passed claimed that all contact with other brothers had to be done through him as others refused contact with me as i was executor since then i have been in touch with one of other brothers on facebook this other brother has confirmed hes never had any issues with me never refused to speak to me and that if he had any issues he would have said to me directly

So the only one has been selfish whose lied and whose been dodgy has been the one whose contesting the will

@masterofdoomv1 not sure you felt the need to explain tbh. I wasnt passing judgement. I was saying a case similar has been heard and the brother won.

In that case, the sister wasn't present when the will was made. That brother didn't attend the funeral.

It was simply a suggestion to take a look at it and look further into the information about the case. Its a similar case (I am sure your brother could claim, he was kept away) so you are more prepared.

Wether you look or not is entirely up to you.

You don't have to justify why your parents changed their will 4 years ago.

They did, they will have had legal advice at the time of changing it. Especially if you are in Scotland.

If I were you I'd contact the solicitor who drew up the will and ask him.

I suspect as an amount has been left to the brothers, however small, it counts.

I'm pretty sure a Scottish solicitor knows Scottish law.

I wouldn't worry too much over this. I doubt the law has changed in the last 4 years.

Get it checked out next week and then remain silent and don't be goaded by anyone.

Get your evidence sorted regarding your care and his lack of care. He may well just be trying it on, unless he has tens of thousands to spaff on lawyers. Stick to your guns.