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Britney Spears pregnant with 3rd child at 40

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Neverafrownwithgoldenbrown · 11/04/2022 20:43

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Giraffesandbottoms · 12/04/2022 17:34

But her Instagram dancing isn’t professional level dancing. She is a dancer. She is not dancing like a dancer. She is repeating the same 3, basic movements and it’s eery and bizarre. Over and over and over and over again. Same as her “fashion videos” where she rocks from side to side and hooks her thumbs in her jeans to pull them down to her bikini line. If I were a professional baker and I posted 3 videos of me a day with the same chocolate brownie I think people would think I had lost the plot entirely.

dianthus101 · 12/04/2022 19:16

@Giraffesandbottoms

But her Instagram dancing isn’t professional level dancing. She is a dancer. She is not dancing like a dancer. She is repeating the same 3, basic movements and it’s eery and bizarre. Over and over and over and over again. Same as her “fashion videos” where she rocks from side to side and hooks her thumbs in her jeans to pull them down to her bikini line. If I were a professional baker and I posted 3 videos of me a day with the same chocolate brownie I think people would think I had lost the plot entirely.
She's a performer rather than just a professional dancer. The videos demonstrate that she is probably quiet eccentric but that doesn't mean that she has "lost the plot". She hasn't suddenly started posting those videos.
dianthus101 · 12/04/2022 19:22

Britney looks vacant her eyes look manic, her demeanor is a cause for concern.
(Plenty of people dance on IG without any cause for concern.

I don't think she looks manic at all. Regardless, what qualifies you to look at peoples videos on instagram to decide whether there's "cause for concern".

Sux2buthen · 12/04/2022 19:25

@ElenaSt

That might explain why she has been posting naked pictures of herself, desperate for praise for her figure before she puts in weight during her pregnancy.

I haven’t read the story but I wonder if she has had fertility treatment to ensure she has a girl this time?

Ooh can you pop round here please? I need something from the back of my cupboard and I can't get it. Since you're so good at reaching I'd appreciate the help Many thanks
Giraffesandbottoms · 12/04/2022 19:27

She hasn't suddenly started posting those videos

She hasn’t suddenly started being mentally unwell either

SpidersAreShitheads · 12/04/2022 19:31

I agree @Giraffesandbottoms - there's something disturbing about the way she rocks and spins. And the expression in her eyes.

Lots of women on Instagram dance. Lots of them wear little or risqué outfits. I don't really care about either. Britney can wear as little as she wants.

It's possible to think that the conservatorship was appalling but simultaneously believe that she's not well. Lots of people manage to function while struggling with their mental health. She has lots of money so can afford the best care, and can afford help to manage her life - so that's a big tick in her favour.

It's also possible to want to support Britney and wish her the best while simultaneously observing that her behaviour and communication seems abnormal.

People expressing concern about how she appears aren't necessarily looking to bring her down. We don't know the truth about her mental health (and nor are we entitled to) but we know there has been some serious issues. And the conservatorship must have taken a heavy mental toll on her. And this combined with her bizarre presentation, complete lack of filter and spinning/rocking etc suggests she's still struggling somewhat with her mental health.

I really do hope that things work out OK for her, and for her child.

dianthus101 · 12/04/2022 19:37

@Giraffesandbottoms

She hasn't suddenly started posting those videos

She hasn’t suddenly started being mentally unwell either

You don't know if she is mentally unwell at the moment though. You have just decided that she has lost the plot because of videos on her Instagram account.
nopenotplaying · 12/04/2022 19:40

Well said @SpidersAreShitheads

dianthus101 · 12/04/2022 19:49

People expressing concern about how she appears aren't necessarily looking to bring her down. We don't know the truth about her mental health (and nor are we entitled to) but we know there has been some serious issues. And the conservatorship must have taken a heavy mental toll on her. And this combined with her bizarre presentation, complete lack of filter and spinning/rocking etc suggests she's still struggling somewhat with her mental health.

People are being bitchy rather than "expressing concern" when they pontificate about her mental health and her potential child-rearing abilities based on nothing other than a few videos on Instagram.

Giraffesandbottoms · 12/04/2022 19:59

@dianthus101

It’s not just based off Instagram - she had a serious mental breakdown and also endangered her children years ago.

SpidersAreShitheads · 12/04/2022 20:00

@dianthus101

People expressing concern about how she appears aren't necessarily looking to bring her down. We don't know the truth about her mental health (and nor are we entitled to) but we know there has been some serious issues. And the conservatorship must have taken a heavy mental toll on her. And this combined with her bizarre presentation, complete lack of filter and spinning/rocking etc suggests she's still struggling somewhat with her mental health.

People are being bitchy rather than "expressing concern" when they pontificate about her mental health and her potential child-rearing abilities based on nothing other than a few videos on Instagram.

I've only scanned through the thread so completely accept I might have missed the odd comment but as far as I can see, no one is being nasty or bitchy.

People seem to be genuinely wishing her well while expressing concerns about whether she's well enough to cope. And yes, a lot of that comes from Instagram because that's where she's putting herself out there. FWIW, I thought her initial long statement to the court was troubling - I didn't think she sounded well in that either. But yes, people naturally form opinions based on what is put on social media - and in Britney's case, there's quite a lot to base an opinion on. It's not just the occasional "kooky" comments or someone who's just a bit "quirky". The rocking, repetitive movements and juvenile behaviour are all a bit worrying, especially when combined with a history of quite serious mental health problems.

There could be lots of reasons for Britney's presentations - and I said before, we don't know the cause. None of us do. We don't know that she's unwell. You don't know that she's healthy. I would say - judging by the comments on here - that the overwhelming majority of people really do wish her the best after what she's been through.

Fingers crossed that it works out for her. Genuinely.

@nopenotplaying - thank you! 😊

dianthus101 · 12/04/2022 20:08

[quote Giraffesandbottoms]@dianthus101

It’s not just based off Instagram - she had a serious mental breakdown and also endangered her children years ago.[/quote]
Yes, but the fact that she had a mental breakdown about 13 years ago does not mean she is mentally ill today and incapable of being a ggod mother. She is certainly capable of earning a living and appears to be in a long term relationship.

HotDogKetchup · 12/04/2022 20:31

Hasn’t she been locked up for years on end? Where is she supposed to get new material from on house arrest?

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 12/04/2022 20:43

It’s not just based off Instagram - she had a serious mental breakdown and also endangered her children years ago

15 years ago. How many of us would like our parenting abilities to be judged on what we were like 15 years ago? Ridiculous.

Scianel · 12/04/2022 20:51

Wasn't it her driving with a child on her lap or something? Not great but hardly at the sort of level of neglect and abuse that happens daily and children don't even get removed. And she was having a breakdown at the time, hounded by the press.

OrchardBlack · 12/04/2022 21:09

@XDownwiththissortofthingX
They've been together for 5 years ffs!

SemperIdem · 12/04/2022 21:40

@dianthus101 I follow neither of them, as it goes, however people do like to share their posts so they pop up in my feeds.

It’s no less my business because I lack your sycophantic view, than it is more yours because you lack my pragmatic view.

pangolina · 12/04/2022 23:41

Her image was so tightly controlled that none of us have a clue what she is, or has ever been, actually like.
She seems like she is finding her feet and rebelling. Maybe she is on medication, maybe she has got some mental health problems, maybe she just likes pratting about on instagram.
I love how people think they are qualified to make diagnoses based on instagram videos. Nobody has a clue what's going on.
I hope she is well and happy and this pregnancy and relationship are positive experiences for her.

JoyLurking9to5 · 13/04/2022 07:16

When j7dy king grilled her 20 y3ars qgo she dealt with it v well. She has a sense of herself. Any damage done was the shame, betrayal, anger and frustration caused by controlling her and using her. And knowing her family will never get it.

Newuser82 · 13/04/2022 07:40

@Thatsajokeright

All of you saying 'a baby is just the meal ticket Sam has wanted' as if he planned it...

You're forgetting that when they got together there was no inclination she would ever be free from the conservatorship.

She didn't even know she could have her own lawyer until 18 months ago! No-one had any idea how quickly the conservatorship would fall.

How could he possibly have been in it just to scam her when she's not even had access to her money for decades. A child or a marriage was probably so unlikely, given her dad would have had to approve it!

Good point!
dianthus101 · 13/04/2022 09:14

[quote SemperIdem]@dianthus101 I follow neither of them, as it goes, however people do like to share their posts so they pop up in my feeds.

It’s no less my business because I lack your sycophantic view, than it is more yours because you lack my pragmatic view.[/quote]
I don't have a " sycophantic view" and I don't follow her. The only reason that I have looked at her posts for the past 3 or 4 years is because the fact that she was under a conservatorship despite being capable of earning millions (and the people controlling that were taking money from her) seemed outrageous. Your view can't be "pragmatic" if you don't know anything about her.

nolongersurprised · 13/04/2022 09:26

She is repeating the same 3, basic movements and it’s eery and bizarre. Over and over and over and over again

I agree that it’s disturbing. And sad - I read the Rolling Stones article about her around the time of her breakdown and prior to that she seemed savvy and seemingly in control.

It’s not nothing to do about the “appropriateness” of her behaviour. Adult women can behave how they like - if legal and not hurting anyone! - but there’s no spark. She looks flat.

Having said all that, this baby is wanted, she will have support and she is more than financially stable so many babies are born into less stable environments.

Giraffesandbottoms · 13/04/2022 09:42

Where is she supposed to get new material from on house arrest?

What? Come on.

Also yes of course the mental breakdown was 15 years ago but you have to view her behaviour in context. The conservatorship was outrageous but perhaps there was a reason behind it, however it was mismanaged (understatement) and however it went too far (again understatement)

nolongersurprised · 13/04/2022 10:06

If you look at her last Instagram post it’s 58 seconds of her swaying/rocking in various changes of clothes. Her smile is the same with each outfit. The repetitive actions are the same. This isn’t the dancing of a vibrant 40 year old pop star challenging stereotypes about 40 year old norms and behaviour.

Compare it to If You Seek Amy from 13 years ago. Her look is the same with heavy eyeliner and bleached hair but her eyes have spark and purpose in them in the video and they don’t now. She still looks incredible - both then and now but something looks amiss now.

dianthus101 · 13/04/2022 10:10

@nolongersurprised

If you look at her last Instagram post it’s 58 seconds of her swaying/rocking in various changes of clothes. Her smile is the same with each outfit. The repetitive actions are the same. This isn’t the dancing of a vibrant 40 year old pop star challenging stereotypes about 40 year old norms and behaviour.

Compare it to If You Seek Amy from 13 years ago. Her look is the same with heavy eyeliner and bleached hair but her eyes have spark and purpose in them in the video and they don’t now. She still looks incredible - both then and now but something looks amiss now.

You are comparing how she looks in a professionally produced video where her movements are rehearsed to how she looks in something she has recorded herself though.