To think that playing your music out loud in public shouldn't be tolerated?

[Hopspinach]

Since I moved to London, I've noticed it's really common for people to play their music out loud in public. I've experienced this in hospital waiting rooms, when having a picnic by a river, in parks, on the bus, on residential streets... It just strikes me as hugely presumptuous to assume everyone wants to hear your music. Why can't people use headphones? What if I were to play my music loudly over the top of theirs? Why do people even do this? Music is highly subjective - you can't assume others will enjoy what you're listening to.

I've noticed it's normally tolerated by others, however, so am I the one who's being unreasonable here? Or is everyone just cursing in their head but we're too passive aggressive as a nation to actually say anything?

YANBU. See also: people allowing their children to play tablets/ watch phones with sound up and no headphones.

People on here must have teenage or young 20s sons - perhaps they could sound them out and report back as to why it's a thing nowadays

I asked my ds. He is 19. He says he doesn't know, he likes privacy when listening to, or watching things.

@PatchworkElmer

YANBU. See also: people allowing their children to play tablets/ watch phones with sound up and no headphones.

Yes I was out with friends at a pub a few weeks ago and the next table had kids watching things on loudspeaker.

And when we were away for a few days a week or so before that there was a woman in the hotel restaurant talking to her grandchild (I think) as they went to bed. On loudspeaker.

Why oh why?

YANBU it is horrendous and so rude!

I've had this on train journeys. I've told them to put their earphones in. So inconsiderate.

i cant get mad at garden music, people have a right to enjoy their music, as long as its not toooo loud.

but then i live right by a local village hall that does a nursery and holiday clubs, their outdoor area has music speakers and every day either the kids or the club have some kind of music blasting... THAT is fucking inconsiderate.

We used to play the exact same track about 15-20 seconds behind at the same volume, that soon stopped them!

I have (young) neighbours who wash/detail their cars in their driveway with music blaring. Yes it's annoying. It's not at unsociable hours though and they're young. Usually they pick a sunny day to do it. So far it hasn't interfered with anything I'm doing
They don't do it too often either. I just put up with it. I don't want to cause a war over it.

Direct some ultrasonics at them, they'll soon shut up and move. Dh did this to the noisy hot tub neighbours.

Just reading the thread is giving me the rage!
I never travel without my own headphones as I can't abide feeling like I've got to listen to someone else's shit film or music. At least I can tune out & listen to my own.
A quiet journey on public transport is no longer a thing, if it's not music it's loud conversation often with a lot of swearing & content I just don't want to listen to.

And facetiming in public

Doesn't bother me, it's just like any other background noise. As a mother of 4 I'm good at tuning out.

@BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation

Direct some ultrasonics at them, they'll soon shut up and move. Dh did this to the noisy hot tub neighbours.

What is this please?

I was on a train with DS(5) a few days ago and a group of teens were playing an awful song with a chipmunk- like squeaky voice 'singing' and other people in the carriage were smiling and raising eyebrows and looking either bemused or irritated by it. DS said, "Can we make that noise stop?"
We were just about to get off, so we made that noise stop for us, but the kids kept the music on and I did feel for the other passengers with longer journeys. It's really selfish.

@JesusSufferingFuck22

I have (young) neighbours who wash/detail their cars in their driveway with music blaring. Yes it's annoying. It's not at unsociable hours though and they're young. Usually they pick a sunny day to do it. So far it hasn't interfered with anything I'm doing They don't do it too often either. I just put up with it. I don't want to cause a war over it.

I used to have a middle-aged neighbour who would clean and hoover his car every Saturday morning at 9am, with Abba blaring out.

He never knew how near he came to being a murder victim.

It’s incredibly rude and intrusive, but seems to be becoming the norm.

I don’t use public transport that often, but each time I do, someone has music blaring or is watching YouTube or similar loudly. No one says anything - you can only presume people that are that ignorant in the first place would either ignore your request or become aggressive.

Yesterday at the park a group of teens bought a tinny (very) loudspeaker and it was just unpleasant. But then a lot of parents were glued to their phones or were conducting their conversations phone held under chin on loudspeaker or were FaceTiming. It’s quite sad.

YANBU . I have to pay PPL a fee to pay my music publicly in a hours exercise class but it’s cool for folk to do it random on the street? Lol

I’m totally with you OP! Bloody hate it. But like lots of others have said, I would be too worried to say anything for fear of the abuse. And that’s why they get away with it .

I'm laying here in our campervan. It's 8.30 am and the people who set up their tent next to us yesterday have been playing their music since 8.15. Urghh!

It’s awful and from a personal perspective, I’d feel embarrassed to do it myself. I remember once asking a young man to stop it on the bus. I, of course, got a mouthful back and still had to listen to his crap music. It seems it’s a certain type of person who does it. Low intelligence, entitled and generally doesn’t give a fuck about anyone but themselves.

I was forced to play music loudly in my garden last summer to drown out the sound of my neighbour's very loud work conference calls which he liked to take on speakerphone in the garden, 5 feet from where I was trying to relax. I do the same when the neighbour next to them let their kids out to scream all day long. But my garden is not a public space and I would happily sit in silence if everyone else wasn't so fucking noisy!

There is a word for it. Sodcasting, I’m always asking people if they have heard of a new fangled device called headphones.

IME, loud music on buses and tubes is like manspreading - done by young men to show dominance and take up public space.

But loud conversations on speaker seems to be more dominated by cross-sounding women.

There’s probably an ethnographic study in there, waiting to be done.

Driving around with your windows down with music blasting is also very anti social. As is playing music at beauty spots where people want to enjoy the peace and listen to the birdsong and other sounds of nature.

As is playing music at beauty spots where people want to enjoy the peace and listen to the birdsong and other sounds of nature.

I’m not generally a ‘back in my day’ type, but I HATE this and it is a new thing (presumably because of new technology). I’m quite a keen hiker/walker and it’s so common now to see people walking in the countryside or sitting at a beauty spot with music blaring out. Why?! It disturbs other people who as you say have come to enjoy the peace and nature, it disturbs wildlife - I just don’t understand!