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Original poster

Would you go on your own?

36 replies

ErinAoife · 10/04/2022 09:51

Not really an Aibu but wondering if would go on your own towatch a sportive event (sport you like) which is 1.5 hours away drive? No one to go with.

OP posts:
Pyri · 10/04/2022 09:52

Yes 100%, not to be snarky, but why wouldn’t you?

GinPalace2 · 10/04/2022 10:48

Yes, please don’t let being on your own stop you living your life to the full.

I’ve done this, and gone much further, and never had a problem.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 10/04/2022 10:49

Yep

MajorCarolDanvers · 10/04/2022 10:50

Yes.

Whilst I haven't been to a sporting event alone I do go to the cinema and theatre alone.

Shamoo · 10/04/2022 10:50

Yes, have done plenty of times

BrightonBunny · 10/04/2022 10:51

Yes, definitely. I have been to cricket matches on my own, had a lovely time.

I also go to cinema, theatre, museums, holiday on my own (as well as going with other people sometimes)

It wouldn't occur to me not to tbh. I am mid fifties if that's relevant?

Valentine259 · 10/04/2022 10:54

Yes definitely. I've been to the cinema and concerts on my own when I haven't found anyone to go with and it was still great. I went to Australia on my own when I was 20 (much braver then, wouldn't do that now!).

MiniTheMinx · 10/04/2022 10:57

Unless it's polo, yep I would, why not. I quite like going places on my own.

maddening · 10/04/2022 10:59

Yes.
I went on a festival cruise by myself, am off to a gig in Amsterdam in January by myself, it is great establishing that you can do so imo.

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 10/04/2022 11:00

I think the worry of being alone in places like the cinema, theatre or in this case a sporting event stems from our school days and not wanting to be 'Billy no mates'. Once you start doing things alone it gets easier.
Remember people are far more caught up in their own lives than we think, it's unlikely they'll pay you any attention. They have no idea why you are alone, you could be visiting the area on business, you could be from a different country, you could be one of the players family members etc etc. Go, enjoy, listen to your favourite music on the way there, pack your favourite food and look forward not having to cater for anyone else.

Original poster
ErinAoife · 10/04/2022 11:02

Thanks a lot. You give me the boost I need it to do. Will report back and let you know how it went

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clpsmum · 10/04/2022 11:04

Yea go for it

Partyatnumber10 · 10/04/2022 11:05

Of course, yes...going alone can be brilliant because you can totally suit yourself.

Leeds2 · 10/04/2022 11:05

I do, every week, and have done for 6 or so years. Go by train rather than driving. Met loads of people there who I now regard as friends. Remember that what you are watching will give you plenty to talk about with other spectators if you want to.

SquirrelG · 10/04/2022 11:06

Yes, I often go to things by myself. Why wouldn't you?

TokyoTen · 10/04/2022 11:10

Go for it! Don't waste your life wishing you had done something!

ExMachinaDeus · 10/04/2022 11:10

Why not?

BarbaraofSeville · 10/04/2022 11:18

@Partyatnumber10

Of course, yes...going alone can be brilliant because you can totally suit yourself.
Exactly. I'm puzzled as to why you'd need to ask or even consider not doing it.

A couple of weeks ago I spent two blissful days wandering around the sites of a major European capital city totally alone.

DP was working there and I went along to make the most of his hotel room and we had breakfast and dinner together, but in the daytime I just did what I wanted.

closetmeupandshootmetotheskies · 10/04/2022 11:21

@ErinAoife

Not really an Aibu but wondering if would go on your own towatch a sportive event (sport you like) which is 1.5 hours away drive? No one to go with.
YES. And I have. And I will carry on doing so. And I've done so since ds was born.

Please don't buy into the lie that parenthood means you have to stop doing things on your own.

And for goodness sake, have a wonderful time!

Georgeskitchen · 10/04/2022 11:33

Yes definitely!

Franticbutterfly · 10/04/2022 14:39

Definitely I go to cinema and for food alone. Doesn't bother me.

ilovesooty · 10/04/2022 14:54

Yes, I've done it a few times here and abroad.
Go to gigs and on holiday alone too.

chisanunian · 10/04/2022 15:20

Yes. I often go to events connected with my hobby that can be anything up to 2 hours away no problem.

You can come and go as you please, and it's much better than going with someone who's not that interested.

oioimatey · 10/04/2022 15:23

Yep, I would.

melj1213 · 10/04/2022 15:40

Yep I do it all the time - I'm not going to miss a show I want to see or game I want to watch just because nobody else is willing or able to join me.

The only time I ever felt uncomfortable was when a couple of guys sitting next to me at a football game started chatting to me and said they were tourists. They were asking about the best places to go after the game/sightseeing the following day but then they seemed very interested in what I was up to after the game, where I was heading after the game, trying to get me to agree to show them a good bar etc. I just had a feeling I shouldn't be telling two random guys that I was alone -especially as the game was a late KO so finished at 11pm when it was dark and I had to go through the city centre, where they were staying, to get home - so I lied and said my friends had season tickets in another stand, there were no seats available near them so I grabbed whatever seat was free and was going to be meeting them outside at straight after the game and then got a taxi home rather than waiting for the bus like I usually did.

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