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a positive to the aging thread

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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 10:50

Since this was asked www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4523796-What-age-did-your-looks-start-to-fade?watched=1&msgid=116444943#116444943

Let's share tips around staying young, inside and out, but mostly out.

I recently signed up to Dermatica prescription skincare to tackle aging, and I got prescribed medicated skin cream.

I love Aldi products for cheap dupes. I fork out for foundation and scrimp on other things.

I avoid foundation daily, only for special occasions (lasting longer, so not as expensive)

I take certain supplements including MSM and spirulina (keeps hair shiny) and a few others such as collagen.

I eat a diet that I am confident keeps my body healthy which improves looks (so that will be whatever diet you are confident does this for you)

I avoid stress - this is the biggest factor.

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Nitgel · 07/04/2022 10:52

I think te best thing is that you start to not give a shite about your looks and realise there is so.much more to.life.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/04/2022 10:54

I really don’t care what people think anymore Smile
Have stopped people pleasing and saying yes when I really mean no as a result.

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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 11:04

@Nitgel

I think te best thing is that you start to not give a shite about your looks and realise there is so.much more to.life.
No I want to be attractive, life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you.
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Brefugee · 07/04/2022 11:14

well my looks haven't "faded" they have changed and I'm ok with that. I am not trying desperately to hang on to my youth or looking youthful, which is a mistake a lot of people make.

Positives to aging? less wolf-whistling/cat-calling although it hasn't stopped completely and is probably meant ironically to put me down. I simply don't give a shit.

In fact i don't give a shit about a lot of things that i cared about when i was younger, in terms of what people think of me and trying to impress. I simply do not care.

My kids don't need me so much. I can do what i want when i want and that is lovely, and often my kids come and do some of it with me which is also lovely.

I'm comfortable in my body, even while i acknowledge there are parts of it that aren't completely pleasing to me, i don't sweat that, i just live with it.

I am confident enough to sack off "friends" who don't behave like friends, and i recognise who i can keep at arm's length and who won't spill the beans if i tell them things. This comes from having known them for more than half my life.

It's nice when people find you attractive, and i do get the occasional offer or quick flirtation which is nice. But I'm ok in my relationship, and I'm also ok alone.

Mostly it is about not giving a fig what other people think.

Shgytfgtf111 · 07/04/2022 11:16

Avoid stress and use avocado oil on your face.

Sleep a lot.

Laugh and enjoy life, that surely makes you look more attractive no matter how old you are?

thestraitofillinois · 07/04/2022 11:19

Good haircut.

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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 11:34

@Shgytfgtf111

Avoid stress and use avocado oil on your face.

Sleep a lot.

Laugh and enjoy life, that surely makes you look more attractive no matter how old you are?

I use hemp as it doesn't clog pores and is very repairing. I eat the avocado.
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5128gap · 07/04/2022 12:03

I've said this on other threads. I'm over half a century old, and my body is precious and vintage. I'm not going to treat it like something brand new and shiny, that I've just aquired, I'm going to look after it like the unique and beautiful antique that it is. A little more fragile and delicate, and deserving of the very best care inside and out. Whether that's making sure I only eat the foods best for me, or that I prioritise exercise and rest, or that I spend time and money on caring for my skin and hair as well as i can. After all these years of service, and hopefully many more ahead, it's the least I can do.

PierresPotato · 07/04/2022 12:05

Get a new hobby?

Chely · 07/04/2022 12:09

Fasting

TightPants · 07/04/2022 12:11

@5128gap Love this! Grin

WhenPushComesToShove · 07/04/2022 12:14

I am more than the sum total of my looks. If that has been a main currency in someone's life, they will miss their look changing as the years pass. Me, I have fabulous hair, bright lipstick, a pair of trendy specs and a great big smile. I'm happy with how I look now. Who wants to be who they were; I want to be who I am now.

Onlyhuman123 · 07/04/2022 12:19

Facial, pedicure, chiropractor and acupuncture monthly. I make my own Facial serum using Olive squalene, apricot kernel, sweet almond, jojoba and rosehip base oils with neroli and rose essential oils. Make my own body scrubs with Epsom salts and face masks with kaolin clay. Get at least 7 hours sleep a night. I feel happier when I pay attention to myself.

Ponoka7 · 07/04/2022 12:34

"life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you."

It's a shame that you feel like that. Flirting is fun, but I don't see that stopping. I see pensioners flirting and they all look their age. I always found men wanting to pull everything down to sex when I just wanted to get on with my day, tiresome. I hated street harrasment. What aspect of your life depends on the men around you wanting to shag you? Assuming that you don't earn a living via sex work.

Suzi888 · 07/04/2022 12:51

“No I want to be attractive, life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you.”

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was into it until this. What did I just read. PMSL

5128gap · 07/04/2022 13:20

@Ponoka7

"life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you."

It's a shame that you feel like that. Flirting is fun, but I don't see that stopping. I see pensioners flirting and they all look their age. I always found men wanting to pull everything down to sex when I just wanted to get on with my day, tiresome. I hated street harrasment. What aspect of your life depends on the men around you wanting to shag you? Assuming that you don't earn a living via sex work.

Taking a wild guess, I'd say the aspect of life where she may want to have sex with a man? Not gonna happen without some reciprocal enthusiasm, and the greater the interest, the greater the choice, and the greater the chance of attracting someone attractive. No harm in admitting that.
cantbecoping · 07/04/2022 13:33

@5128gap

I've said this on other threads. I'm over half a century old, and my body is precious and vintage. I'm not going to treat it like something brand new and shiny, that I've just aquired, I'm going to look after it like the unique and beautiful antique that it is. A little more fragile and delicate, and deserving of the very best care inside and out. Whether that's making sure I only eat the foods best for me, or that I prioritise exercise and rest, or that I spend time and money on caring for my skin and hair as well as i can. After all these years of service, and hopefully many more ahead, it's the least I can do.
I love this.
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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 15:12

@Ponoka7

"life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you."

It's a shame that you feel like that. Flirting is fun, but I don't see that stopping. I see pensioners flirting and they all look their age. I always found men wanting to pull everything down to sex when I just wanted to get on with my day, tiresome. I hated street harrasment. What aspect of your life depends on the men around you wanting to shag you? Assuming that you don't earn a living via sex work.

I'm only being honest. You get treated totally different as a woman if you're attractive. I've been on both sides and the difference is worlds apart.
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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 15:13

@Chely

Fasting
Yes, I do this! It really works.
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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 15:14

@Suzi888

“No I want to be attractive, life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you.”

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was into it until this. What did I just read. PMSL

lol it is 100% true.
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MurmuratingStarling · 07/04/2022 15:15

@5128gap

I've said this on other threads. I'm over half a century old, and my body is precious and vintage. I'm not going to treat it like something brand new and shiny, that I've just aquired, I'm going to look after it like the unique and beautiful antique that it is. A little more fragile and delicate, and deserving of the very best care inside and out. Whether that's making sure I only eat the foods best for me, or that I prioritise exercise and rest, or that I spend time and money on caring for my skin and hair as well as i can. After all these years of service, and hopefully many more ahead, it's the least I can do.
Grin That's adorable!
LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 07/04/2022 15:18

HRT. And especially testosterone.

Second the good haircut including colour if you like.

Most important, pick your gene pool wisely. Mum looked 10 years younger than her age all her life and I'm lucky to have inherited that, and passed it on to DD who is just old enough to appreciate it.

Billandben444 · 07/04/2022 16:26

"No I want to be attractive, life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you.”
And then, when you get past the stage of looking for a random shag, life is much easier and nicer when you're an all-round attractive person that people want to be with and, yes, flirt with. Have a good sense of humour, be optimistic rather than a Debbie Downer and be interested in other people.

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latriciamcneal · 07/04/2022 16:33

@Billandben444

"No I want to be attractive, life is much easier and nicer when men want to shag you.” And then, when you get past the stage of looking for a random shag, life is much easier and nicer when you're an all-round attractive person that people want to be with and, yes, flirt with. Have a good sense of humour, be optimistic rather than a Debbie Downer and be interested in other people.
It's not about me. I'm happily married. It's about the fact that if you look good, well kept, and are attractive to men, life is just better. How I put it was kind of tongue in cheek but also it's factually true.
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samthebordercollie · 07/04/2022 16:34

Everyone is talking about face/hair. I think it's important to keep yourself fit and in shape too. Avoiding illnesses like osteoporosis is very important the older you get. I try and keep myself vaguely attractive even if I live in jeans, boots and jumpers most of the year - for my sense of worth, and because my DH might look elsewhere if I got fat and let myself go.

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