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Original poster

My husband gets up too early!

33 replies

Annoy · 07/04/2022 07:34

It’s not his fault really, as he’s conditioned like that due to his working pattern.

But we’re currently in an air bnb, last day. Due to leave at 10 and he’s been hoovering since 7:15 and is telling me I need to get up and get sorted!!

I packed last night, the house will be clean/tidy by the time we leave, but IABU to think we’re fucking holiday!!

I can’t remember the last time he got the hoover out at home!!…. I think he thinks it’ll take longer than it actually will!!

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SpacePotato · 07/04/2022 07:41

Selfish bastard.

mummypie17 · 07/04/2022 07:43

That is so annoying!

RedHelenB · 07/04/2022 07:45

Don't see the problem , hate rushing around at the end and 7 15 doesn't sound too early for the last day of the holiday. But he should be hoovering at home sometimes too.

DickVanDyke26 · 07/04/2022 07:45

Sounds like my husband. It's so annoying.

phishy · 07/04/2022 07:47

So he doesn’t clean at home but ruins your holiday by waking you up early?

I would lose my shit.

Tell him to keep quiet and you go back tobed,

MrsEricBana · 07/04/2022 07:48

Options:

  1. Be grateful he's on it
  2. LTB
phishy · 07/04/2022 07:52

Be grateful that he is performance cleaning on OP’s holiday and telling her to get up?

GeneLovesJezebel · 07/04/2022 07:54

Hide under the duvet and leave him to it.

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 07/04/2022 07:58

That sounds like me Blush I'll often be naturally awake from 5am, then occupy myself reading the news and mumsnet for as long as I can stand, and then I'm so bored I need to get on with something by 7am!

Teeturtle · 07/04/2022 08:03

He should hold off the vacuuming, but some people get up early. I can’t imagine lying in bed until 7:15am whether on holiday or not.

Original poster
Annoy · 07/04/2022 08:12

He’s classic performance cleaning! He does it at home too!

I touch asking, clean/tidy as I go… whereas every now and again he will blitz the house, huffing and puffing as he goes, as if he’s the only one who ever does it!

I’m pissed off this morning as right from the get go he’s been telling me what to do, which just makes me feel inadequate.

Since my op, he’s realised the hoover doesn’t work properly so has given up, has told me to get up and give the kids breakfast as he’s busy, he’s dumped all his packing by the front door and is now in the shower.

I’ve been up half an hour and I’ve put all mine and the kids stuff in the car, cleaned the kitchen and packed all the random stuff up like games and chargers.

It’s not a competition, but I am way more efficient than him and he doesn’t realise

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LadyMacduff · 07/04/2022 08:15

Yanbu. Nothing wrong with getting up early - i quite like it personally - but he IBU to insist you get up as well for no reason.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 07/04/2022 08:16

Surely if he was planning on hoovering he would do it last, as there'll be other tidying/ trudging to the car and back with bags etc.

Sounds like he just wants to show that he is busy and you aren't, without actually doing something of value.

MichelleScarn · 07/04/2022 08:19

Had to check you weren't away with my dh there @Annoy with the dumping of things by the door and his seeing that as task complete!!
Mine does that too, 'tidies' by moving things from the living room to the hall, then gets frustrated that no-one does anything!

C8H10N4O2 · 07/04/2022 08:19

It’s not a competition, but I am way more efficient than him and he doesn’t realise

So tell him? Point out what you managed in half an hour without anyone noticing vs what he achieved in an hour of performance cleaning.

grafittiartist · 07/04/2022 08:29

Oh my husband is like this every holiday.
It's a family joke now.
He's an early bird- and is up and rushing us out as soon as possible!
Drives me bananas, but it does mean that I never have to pack or tidy as he does it all.

stripeyflowers · 07/04/2022 08:33

This reminds me when I first got together with my DH. I often woke up earlier than actual getting up time. So I wake up at about 6 am and he said to me 'did you have a good sleep?' I remember thinking 'what! I'm nipping this one in the bud!' So I said 'I don't know, I haven't finished it yet.,' before turning over and going back to sleep! Grin

AntarcticTern · 07/04/2022 08:35

Fine for him to be up and about before you. Not fine at all to be hoovering!

Snoopsnoggysnog · 07/04/2022 08:39

Mine is like this too - just really different body clocks. He doesn’t do the performance cleaning thing though!
He also goes to bed ridiculously early Hmm

Original poster
Annoy · 07/04/2022 08:40

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Surely if he was planning on hoovering he would do it last, as there'll be other tidying/ trudging to the car and back with bags etc.

Sounds like he just wants to show that he is busy and you aren't, without actually doing something of value.

Its exactly this! And it makes me feel like I’m not good enough
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Bluebluemoon · 07/04/2022 08:41

My dh gets up super early too but he wouldn't dream of hoovering/making deliberate noise. Your dh sounds like a selfish bellend.

FayCarew · 07/04/2022 08:42

My ex would ruin holidays and weekends by sleeping until 11 a.m.
I'm an early riser so I'd be up and about about 5 hours before him

ifonly4 · 07/04/2022 08:46

Mine is used to getting up at 5.45am in the week and finds it hard to sleep past 6.15am. He'll happily go downstairs and have his breakfast on his own, watch news when at home, but it's hard in a different building and on holiday. He tries to relax, but in reality he wants me up with him to chat over breakfast (we usually have one or two extras on holiday so nice to share). The benefit is that we're usually out around 8.30/8.45am so can make full use of the day.

Original poster
Annoy · 07/04/2022 08:47

@Bluebluemoon

My dh gets up super early too but he wouldn't dream of hoovering/making deliberate noise. Your dh sounds like a selfish bellend.
Ah yes, but he brought he brought me a cup of tea in bed, so I should be grateful! What he doesn’t (or maybe does) realise is that this cup of tea he brings me every morning is not a sign of affection… but a way of telling me it’s time to get up
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