To think you wait for everyone to finish before leaving the table?

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DS's girlfriend will just up and leave the dinner table as soon as she's finished. I find it really annoying, but DH thinks it fine because she's young (She's 19!).

AIBU to think this is rude?

Well, if a man thinks it OK that’s it then.
Must be right.
Others on here must take notice.

Of course it’s rude. But you’ll get a lot of answers here saying

It’s not rude
Don’t be so uptight
You’re controlling

If everyone get up and leaves the table as soon as they've finished, eventually just one person will be left there on their own.

I've been that person left sitting to finish my meal alone when everyone else has disappeared as soon as they've swallowed their last mouthful. It's not nice to feel that people can't just spare a few minutes to keep you company. And yes I did say something, and nothing changed.

My dad does this, it's really annoying. Mum is always the last to finish & I sit with her, chatting until she's done. 🙄

@ExMachinaDeus

Of course it’s rude. But you’ll get a lot of answers here saying

It’s not rude
Don’t be so uptight
You’re controlling

You forgot that old MN special of 'unclench' 🤣 If you are a guest you follow your hosts lead, leaving the table is not usually acceptable until everyone has finished

I would hate people to wait around while I finished, just because I hadn't finished. Sod that. Scat the lot of you.

Talk to her if you want her to stay? but that will slow down your eating, so kind of making delay greater.

Children yes, a 19 year old?! No! thats mega rude. She doesn’t need to ‘ask’ to leave the table like a child but if she needs to leave the table for a reason she needs to explain such as ‘thanks so much for dinner, so sorry but I have to dash off to do x y z’

She’s a guest - where is she going? To your son’s room? To the living room to sit by herself?

I think it’s rude.

Of course it’s rude. I am surprised how many posters think it’s acceptable.

Astonished to see that almost a third of voters think it’s okay...

Yes, it is rude, unless you are under (about) 8 and ask permission to leave the table.

And, just btw, @Georgyporky it is equally rude in the USA.

What does your son do when she does this? Is he still sitting at the table with you all?

People are raised differently tbh if no one has ever raised it with her she may not actually be aware that she's doing anything wrong.

My family and I don't eat together, it's very much everyone fends for themselves, eat what they want when they want she tl having very different schedules, fancying different stuff for dinner etc.

It’s extremely rude. I can’t think of anyone I know who wouldn’t find her behaviour rude.

@Lucia574

It’s extremely rude. I can’t think of anyone I know who wouldn’t find her behaviour rude.

Always makes me laugh when a poster adds

"and no one I know would do that"

as if it is some kind of evidence of being right.

Truth is, unless you have conducted research on this matter involving "everyone you know", you haven't a clue what they think.