Aibu to leave and give the kids to husband as I’m clearly not a good mum

[Doneinwiththis]

I’ve asked my husband for a divorce. I married him for money and an easy future. It was a big mistake. He’s an excellent father to our kids (12) and (9). He’s fun Dad! I do everything - he has no life skills whatsoever. I have to organise everything. I suppose this is the trade off to being ok financially. We have no sex live as I would be quicker and easier organising that myself. I feel the kids are recognising my exasperation at being the only adult in the relationship. I think they would be better off with him as he’s nice and kind and I’m not. Has anyone left their family before to enable the kids and husband to have a better life?

The OP made a choice to marry him for money and an easy future. However marriage, and motherhood isn't always easy. I wonder if the DH really is a man child or is it just that the easy lifestyle isn't as easy as the OP hoped?

Lovely reply from gimmepeaceandsky. Well said and agree with you.

Firstly if your marriage isn't working then go your separate ways. You've said your children are aware there are problems so put them first.

Secondly if you feel he is a better parent then yes, let him have custody.

Thirdly, you've been and are being extremely selfish but you put yourself in this position so perhaps put your children first instead of worrying about your sex life.

My mum did what you are thinking of doing when me and my sibling were similar ages to your children (I think for similar reasons). Please don’t, it ruined my sibling and my relationship with our mum and caused us so much pain. By all means break up but try to do so as amicably as possible and don’t just walk out.

How are you today, hope you had time to think and try to process things and remember you are a good mum and never doubt that. Hope you are ok.