To want to sleep, not clean?

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We have a fifteen month old and have had a really rough week with sleep. Ds only wants me at night. (I know that the MN consensus is - tough, just make DH do it, but ds cries and so wakes me. In other words I don’t get any more sleep if DH helps and probably a lot less.)

I could just really do with a couple of hours sleep but DH wants to clean … AIBU to want this to wait? (Dh can’t get on with it while I sleep as he’ll be loud and anyway someone needs to watch DS.)

In the very early days of seeing each other I got sick with an inner ear virus. I woke up one morning and couldn’t stand properly

(Now) DH walked me to the loo and sat me on it, waited outside whilst I went, steadied me as I brushed my teeth and helped me get dressed and down the 3 floors to the kitchen. He called my aunt to take me to the doctor (we didn’t drive then), waited with me, came back after work with a fun film and cooked for me. Then helped me get to bed. He did that for the whole week.

It was an excellent insight into who he is and he’s never disregarded what I need to feel well.

I’m actually sitting here with a hot water bottle and tea he got me as I’m not too great at the moment.

He’s showing you that you don’t matter to him. Your needs aren’t relevant.

He’s a dick.

How is this even up for discussion? We also need to clean but it’s been quite a week. H striped the bed, I made it, some washing done, kitchen clean, I then took a bath abs a two hour nap and he entertained our daughter. The hoovering, mopping and bathrooms can wait another day!

Get some ear plugs and go to sleep while he cleans then. How do you think single parents or even parents where one parent works a lot clean? You just get on with it around the toddler. I have two toddlers at home with me all day, I still clean.

@PatientlyWaiting21

How is this even up for discussion? We also need to clean but it’s been quite a week. H striped the bed, I made it, some washing done, kitchen clean, I then took a bath abs a two hour nap and he entertained our daughter. The hoovering, mopping and bathrooms can wait another day!

Same. DS has had chicken pox so we have both been juggling working with DS at home/finishing in the evenings, cooking, various medical appointments and an exam. I'm not going near a hoover this weekend!

Er - are posters not seeing that the DH wants OP to watch DS while he cleans, so the "You just get on with it with a toddler" comments should be aimed at him! Pretty sure OP is too tired to give a shit whether the floor is mopped.

DH and DS are covered in this marvellous thing called skin, which is waterproof. Chuck them out of the house so you can sleep. They can always wear jackets or go to a library, cafe, museum, activity centre if it's really cold. If DH doesn't like it, suggest he master the art of minding his child, whilst cleaning, quietly enough that others can sleep. As women have done since the dawn of time ...