To be so sad neighbours cut down a Pear Tree

[danny735]

Just that really.

There was a beautiful pear tree right on the border of our garden. I returned from a trip and the neighbours had chopped it down.

It was on neighbours side of the fence but half of the foliage was in our garden. I love nature and adore tree silhouette.

We've only lived in this house for 2 years and the pears were blooming when we moved in. There are usually beautiful blossoms in spring time. I'm so devastated that it's gone - I can't work out if I'm being silly I not 🥺

@Norgie

Oh no, not a cutted up pear tree 😱

[quote Dearmariacountmein]@DdraigGoch I’m actually on very good terms with most of my neighbours but I wouldn’t seek out to discuss my garden plans with them unless it would affect them I.e replacing a party hedge.

I find the suggestion really bizarre TBH. Shall I also seek their approval before we replace the shed, what about painting the garden walls?[/quote]
My neighbour told me that she was replacing the old shed. I helped demolish it. I showed her what shade of blue that I had got for painting my living room. My neighbour-but-one told me that he was going to start getting rid of the ivy on his wall. I offered the use of my garden waste bin.

We often talk about the work we're doing on our respective gardens, as well as the repairs we're doing to our houses. It's got nothing to do with "approval", it's just making conversation.

"Hi Doris, how are you?"
"Hi Brenda, not so bad. We got a tree surgeon around to look at the old pear tree last week. He says it's rotten, got to come down."
"Oh that's a shame. Never mind, can't be helped"
"How's Johnny getting on with his A Levels?"

@WomanStanleyWoman

Why not talk to your neighbours before you do so? I know that most of Mumsnet are pretty antisocial, but communication can avoid all of the grief.

Why on Earth would I tell my neighbours what I’m planning to do with my own garden?

Are you turning it into a hideout for Russian spies? If not, why bother keeping it secret? By talking to my neighbours about the work each of us are getting done we've each gained advice and recommendations, such as how to deal with difficult weeds and where we can get a reliable plumber.

Are you turning it into a hideout for Russian spies? If not, why bother keeping it secret? By talking to my neighbours about the work each of us are getting done we've each gained advice and recommendations, such as how to deal with difficult weeds and where we can get a reliable plumber.

This is bonkers. It wasn’t a secret’ when I redecorated a couple of years ago either - but I didn’t actively discuss it with the neighbours either. Why would I? As for recommendations, I could just ask if I wanted them.

@WomanStanleyWoman

Are you turning it into a hideout for Russian spies? If not, why bother keeping it secret? By talking to my neighbours about the work each of us are getting done we've each gained advice and recommendations, such as how to deal with difficult weeds and where we can get a reliable plumber.

This is bonkers. It wasn’t a secret’ when I redecorated a couple of years ago either - but I didn’t actively discuss it with the neighbours either. Why would I? As for recommendations, I could just ask if I wanted them.

It wouldn't have occurred to me to ask my neighbour for advice on planting an apple tree if she hadn't told me that she was getting a couple herself.

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles
. . . uh oh! Now I am too afraid to go look up what that might mean these days!
(Although I could take a pretty good guess at it, I think. )

@Norgie 👏👏👏
= 🏆 👍 😂

Oh no, I would be upset by this too! I love trees.

Are you turning it into a hideout for Russian spies? If not, why bother keeping it secret? By talking to my neighbours about the work each of us are getting done we've each gained advice and recommendations, such as how to deal with difficult weeds and where we can get a reliable plumber.

It’s not ‘keeping it a secret’ your neighbours will know you’re cutting down your tree when they see that you’re cutting down your tree. But it’s not necessary to go round to the neighbours and let them know you’re changing your garden. If anything it’s a bit odd unless they’re friends of yours.

My parents used to have an apple tree in their garden. It was Bramley cooking apples. The tree started ageing and had to be chopped down unfortunately. We think it was planted when the house was built after the war.
It had lots of memories for us, as neighbours used to come in the garden and collect the abundance of apples. So I can see why you’re upset.
I love a fruit tree, my only concern is the birds eating the fruit.

Could be a simple as they are allergic to wasp stings,

I'd feel similarly about that - it doesn't matter whether the reaction's rational or not. A new housing estate has been built recently, backing onto my garden, and a tree which overhung the end of my garden, and was lovely, was cut down as part of that. It wasn't on my land, but still sad to see it had vanished.

Being so devastated is OTT but I can remember my Nan having an apple tree I get garden when I was small and then as a teen I visited and she had it cut down could never work out why.