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To be so sad neighbours cut down a Pear Tree

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danny735 · 02/04/2022 13:33

Just that really.

There was a beautiful pear tree right on the border of our garden. I returned from a trip and the neighbours had chopped it down.

It was on neighbours side of the fence but half of the foliage was in our garden. I love nature and adore tree silhouette.

We've only lived in this house for 2 years and the pears were blooming when we moved in. There are usually beautiful blossoms in spring time. I'm so devastated that it's gone - I can't work out if I'm being silly I not 🥺

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SockFluffInTheBath · 03/04/2022 15:27

@Bunnycat101

“Lots of defensive and/or proud tree murderers here.”

I think this perfectly encapsulates a previous poster that referenced hyperbolic nonsense.

Ooh that will be me Grin

I had mine down because it was seriously weakened in a gale, and had it fallen it would taken taken down the electricity supply to half the village. So yes, I’m proud to have saved my neighbours considerable inconvenience and a pita job for the linesmen who would have been sent out. If you’d rtft you’d see what’s gone in it’s place.

@wh00pi my garden is pretty great thanks. Personally I couldn’t give a hoot if some random online disapproves of what I do in it but I do think some of you need to get a grip- maybe on a spade and plant some trees to replace all those poor murdered souls…

Kanaloa · 03/04/2022 15:44

@wh00pi

It’s insane. Honestly if you have this much time to worry about what other people are doing with their own garden you need to make yourself a bit busier.

So much cooler and busier than Op, you don't even have time to look out your front window in the morning, sounds fun

What are you, half tree? If having time to look out my window will turn me into someone wailing over a tree that doesn’t even belong to me and referring to people who don’t mind cutting down trees as ‘murderers’ then thank god I’m too busy.
wh00pi · 03/04/2022 16:14

@Kanaloa

It's sarcasm babe. If you're sooo busy up any look out a window and have no interests besides being busy, it doesn't sound fun. I'd rather be like op who has time to enjoy her home and garden but each to their own🥰

wh00pi · 03/04/2022 16:16

my garden is pretty great thanks. Personally I couldn’t give a hoot if some random online disapproves of what I do in it but I do think some of you need to get a grip- maybe on a spade and plant some trees to replace all those poor murdered souls…

Are you the one complaining people don't like your concrete garden? And we shouldn't talk about it? Sounds like you don't care a lot. Plant lovers are allowed to talk about their tastes, and opinions. Cope.

NigellaLawdaughter · 03/04/2022 17:06

I'd've been super bummed, too @danny735.
So glad you're going to plant your own! 👍
But not too close to the fence, or the neighbours will
lob off all of the branches that grow over on their side.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 03/04/2022 17:23

@nigellaLawdaughter
I'd've been super bummed, too

I say, what you do at the weekends is your own private matter and we really do not need to hear about it. Thank you very much. Shock

Kanaloa · 03/04/2022 17:45

[quote wh00pi]@Kanaloa

It's sarcasm babe. If you're sooo busy up any look out a window and have no interests besides being busy, it doesn't sound fun. I'd rather be like op who has time to enjoy her home and garden but each to their own🥰[/quote]
Not only time to enjoy her own home and garden but other people’s as well apparently.

It’s ridiculous babes x it’s someone else’s tree hun x it’s not a crime to remodel your own garden sweetie pie xxx

Kanaloa · 03/04/2022 17:47

@wh00pi

my garden is pretty great thanks. Personally I couldn’t give a hoot if some random online disapproves of what I do in it but I do think some of you need to get a grip- maybe on a spade and plant some trees to replace all those poor murdered souls…

Are you the one complaining people don't like your concrete garden? And we shouldn't talk about it? Sounds like you don't care a lot. Plant lovers are allowed to talk about their tastes, and opinions. Cope.

You sound insane. Honestly nuts.

Definitely you can talk about your tastes and how much you love plants - but this bizarre hyperbole whereby people cutting down their own tree is akin to them storming into your garden and punching your baby in the face is just ridiculous.

DdraigGoch · 03/04/2022 17:49

@NoSquirrels

Of course you’re not being silly. My neighbours 2 doors down also chopped down a mature pear tree when they moved in, that produced masses of fruit every year, to put a hot tub deck with pergola in its place. They’re perfectly nice people but I can’t help but judge them, I’m afraid. But it was their tree, after all.

Plant a new tree in your garden!

Given that their sex pond has suddenly become even more expensive to run, it's even more of a waste.
Dearmariacountmein · 03/04/2022 17:56

So much vitriol on this thread.

We’ll soon be chopping 3 trees from our garden along with a massive fern. One is an apple tree right by our only entrance which makes getting in and out of the house in summer somewhat perilous for those with sting allergies, one is diseased and the other is a fern that is too big for where it is. We will be removing and replanting the garden with far more trees and plants but for a time (depending on scheduling) we won’t have any greenery in the garden.

Here’s hoping none of our neighbours try to confront us for being tree murders Hmm

Blossomtoes · 03/04/2022 18:12

Glad you’ve bought a new tree @danny735. Hope you can find some way of making it grow super fast!

DdraigGoch · 03/04/2022 18:28

@Dearmariacountmein

So much vitriol on this thread.

We’ll soon be chopping 3 trees from our garden along with a massive fern. One is an apple tree right by our only entrance which makes getting in and out of the house in summer somewhat perilous for those with sting allergies, one is diseased and the other is a fern that is too big for where it is. We will be removing and replanting the garden with far more trees and plants but for a time (depending on scheduling) we won’t have any greenery in the garden.

Here’s hoping none of our neighbours try to confront us for being tree murders Hmm

Why not talk to your neighbours before you do so? I know that most of Mumsnet are pretty antisocial, but communication can avoid all of the grief.
Dearmariacountmein · 03/04/2022 18:40

@DdraigGoch I’m actually on very good terms with most of my neighbours but I wouldn’t seek out to discuss my garden plans with them unless it would affect them I.e replacing a party hedge.

I find the suggestion really bizarre TBH. Shall I also seek their approval before we replace the shed, what about painting the garden walls?

whymewhyme · 03/04/2022 18:46

Not unreasonable at all. On the way to school there was the most beautiful oak tree in someones rather lovely garden, i must of been 100 yrs old and every day for a week i had to watch it being cut down!! Not my tree not my business but i found it very sad

LoveSpringDaffs · 03/04/2022 18:53

@balalake

I think you should ask them why, and if it was not for reasons of disease express your view.
To what point? They can hardly put it back!! It was their tree in their garden, they don't need the OP's blessing!

@danny735 yes, I'd be sad too. Friends of friends have just spent £859,000 on a house, with (to me) a beautiful garden. They have stripped it bare, had all the mature trees removed, taken lovely pots of trees/flowers/plants to the tip, astroturfed it at great expense because they cba mowing it. .... it's a crying shame. Mature beautiful garden to Astro fucking turf.

A friend has a lovely garden, huge oak tree (which thankfully is staying!) several other lovely mature trees which are going, little pagoda, couple of sheds/woodpiles/bits & pieces. I LOVE it! It's fabulous!! They're putting in an office (shame but understandable) and 'landscaping' the rest! Basically removing everything (except the oak) putting in 'areas' & poncufying it. I'm sad already!! Yep, their garden, their choice and all that, but I'm allowed to be sad!!

WomanStanleyWoman · 03/04/2022 19:37

Why not talk to your neighbours before you do so? I know that most of Mumsnet are pretty antisocial, but communication can avoid all of the grief.

Why on Earth would I tell my neighbours what I’m planning to do with my own garden?

godmum56 · 03/04/2022 20:10

@Dearmariacountmein

So much vitriol on this thread.

We’ll soon be chopping 3 trees from our garden along with a massive fern. One is an apple tree right by our only entrance which makes getting in and out of the house in summer somewhat perilous for those with sting allergies, one is diseased and the other is a fern that is too big for where it is. We will be removing and replanting the garden with far more trees and plants but for a time (depending on scheduling) we won’t have any greenery in the garden.

Here’s hoping none of our neighbours try to confront us for being tree murders Hmm

seriously a massive fern? tree fern? sell it, those things are worth moolah! www.toddsbotanics.co.uk/tree-ferns/tree-fern-dicksonia-antarctica-_3.htm
Dearmariacountmein · 03/04/2022 20:23

@godmum56 I did look at selling it but due to where it is we would struggle to get it out of the garden unfortunately. There are two smaller ones clustered with it that I may try and sell.

godmum56 · 03/04/2022 20:24

@whymewhyme

Not unreasonable at all. On the way to school there was the most beautiful oak tree in someones rather lovely garden, i must of been 100 yrs old and every day for a week i had to watch it being cut down!! Not my tree not my business but i found it very sad
If it was that old it was probably either dangerous or had outgrown its spot or both. When old oaks drop branches they can trash cars and injure people.
godmum56 · 03/04/2022 20:25

[quote Dearmariacountmein]@godmum56 I did look at selling it but due to where it is we would struggle to get it out of the garden unfortunately. There are two smaller ones clustered with it that I may try and sell.[/quote]
buyer collects and removes. Its worth offering anyway?

BlooberryBiskits · 03/04/2022 20:43

@danny735: good choice to plant your own tree- dig a massive hole (2x size of pot at least) & stick some fish blood & bone in the planting hole 🤞🏼

Of course trees are beautiful, but as @Ratonastick says, fruit trees especially have a life cycle! My place has 3 mature apples and a fig, I’ve just planted 2 plums and a cherry… but o would not hesitate to remove a fruit tree which was diseased/blocking my light or causing problems, and I think your neighbours also have every right to have their garden as they wish

Norgie · 03/04/2022 20:43

Oh no, not a cutted up pear tree 😱

Snoopsnoggysnog · 03/04/2022 21:45

@Norgie Grin

RosesAndHellebores · 03/04/2022 21:53

@norgie Grin Good to see an old-timer. Whoever you might once have been.

Plantsandpuddlesuits · 03/04/2022 21:58

@Norgie you win the thread Grin