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Original poster

in being peeed off that dsil said

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belcantavinissima · 07/01/2008 17:03

she didnt like the top i bought for her ds for his b'day. i just asked her if it had fited ok and she made a face and i said oh no didnt it fit then? and she siad oh no its not that. i didnt like it sorry i've given it away.
now i have been brought up to be grateful for what you receive and to say thank you and smile and say how lovely so as not to hurt the givers feelings. and she has hurt my feelings actually and i feel really pissed off. more of a rant really rather than an AIBU as i am pretty sure i'm not BU at all actually!

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hatrick · 07/01/2008 17:05

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loopylou6 · 07/01/2008 17:06

no YNBU, im a believer in honesty, but sometimes it doesnt hurt to tell a little white lie to save some ones feelings, or at the very most she could of said "yes its not bad, he normally wears the bla bla styles though"

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belcantavinissima · 07/01/2008 17:06

no idea though she lives in middle of nowhere. i just thought it was so rude that she felt the need to flipping tell me!

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belgo · 07/01/2008 17:06

that's very rude of her. She should have at least pretended.

My dd2 was given clothies recently for her birthday, and I was given the recept fromt the shop in case I wanted to exchange it. I found that thoughtful.

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belcantavinissima · 07/01/2008 17:07

and fwiw it was quite a cool top from paul frank. and not chav or cheap or ridiculous!

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kindersurprise · 07/01/2008 17:07

She should have just exchanged it or given ít away and never said. Like I do with most of the clothes that my SIL buys the DCs.

Pretty rude to tell you she did not like it. How old is her DS?

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belcantavinissima · 07/01/2008 17:08

she is downstairs now. she must be aware that she has annoyed me

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hatrick · 07/01/2008 17:09

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loopylou6 · 07/01/2008 17:09

i'd tell her tbh

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belcantavinissima · 07/01/2008 17:11

hmmm it may have been potentially lairy but not bright or garish

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meemar · 07/01/2008 17:12

She was rude.The least she could have done was ask for the receipt to exchange it. Some people love to say they are 'honest', but sometimes sparing others feelings are more important.

kittylouise · 07/01/2008 17:13

How rude of her.

Ineedacleaner · 07/01/2008 17:13

Hmmm not sure. Yes I think you should be polite and say yes thank you lovely...but I also would hope that my family could be honest with me and say ooh didn't like that sorry. I don't think she was being rude in truth just honest.

Wasn't very nice of her to give it away at the very least she should have told you at the time and if she wasn't able to go to the shop asked you to exchange it for her.

pyjamagirl · 07/01/2008 17:14

yanbu at al disgusting rude behaviour IMO

pyjamagirl · 07/01/2008 17:14

*ALL

Slouchy · 07/01/2008 17:14

Lairy? What do you mean? (hackles rise at child wearing lairy top)

She should not have said anything. Now be the bigger person and Kill with Kindness. Never mention this to her again. If you do this, you win.

Still a bit at lairy

FrannyandZooey · 07/01/2008 17:15

did it have a dodgy slogan on it?

Slouchy · 07/01/2008 17:16

F&Z - my thoughts exactly.

Fireflyfairy2 · 07/01/2008 17:18

Can you do a link to it?

Describe it?

DoubleBluff · 07/01/2008 17:18

That is so rude. Even if she didn't like it she could have changed it. What a bitch.

Hecate · 07/01/2008 17:21

Rude.

That would be the last gift coming from me, I can tell you that.

She's downstairs now? In your home? go make her a cup of tea with water from your toilet.

lulumama · 07/01/2008 17:23

I love Paul Frank

my parents bought DS a really cool t shirt from there as a present when I had DD. He adores it.

she could have lied, she could have smiled and said thank you, she chose to be rude and upset you. depends if you can tell her she hurt your feelings without world war III breaking out!

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mumzyof2 · 07/01/2008 17:25

Paul Frank is very expensive! I have some Paul Frank pj's that cost £90 (more money than sense Im afraid), so Id have been upset too.
However, saying that, I would have been pi**ed off, even if the top cost £5 from a market (not that theirs anything wrongwith market clothes - have some myself). Why didnt she ask you for the reciept? Or even where you got it? How insensitive and rude, so is it just money next year?

VictorianSqualor · 07/01/2008 17:29

I think we need to see the top if you can describe it as 'lairy', personally if I was boguht something I didnt like for one of my DC's it would be worn only in the company of the buyer.

I did sell some of DS andDD's presents on ebay that they got from family they never see though, partly because they were shite, partly because they already had very similar stuff and partly because they werent age appropriate, the money was then given to DC's though to buy things they wanted, and we have actually sold what we bought DD for xmas too as she decided she didnt want it quite as much as she thought!