Is this an example of a flexible boss

[Ceci03]

So, I'm having problems with my manager. I won't bore you with all the details, I actually posted about it last week or the week before. Basically I was asking to leave at 4pm on days when the office was already covered until 5pm, as I had been coming in early to avail of free parking. I didn't think it was an unreasonable request, I'm not asking for anyone else's hours to be changed, and I will happily stay til 5pm if I'm the only person left that day - a lot go at 4pm.
So, at a meeting yesterday to discuss, I was asked if I thought manager was flexible in general, and I said no. I have so many examples I wont bore you with them. They asked my manager to give an example of a time she was flexible and she talked about once about 2.5 years ago, she allowed me to take a half day of leave to take delivery of some furniture. Just for background I moved country to start this job so at the beginning I did need to ask for that half day for the removal people to deliver my stuff. It was unavoidable, as they were supposed to come the week before, - before I started the job - but it was a mix up and they didnt come.

She had one other example when about 2 years ago I had asked to take annual leave to go to an appointment to get my NI number. You don't get to choose your appointment they just send you a time I gave boss notice, and took the half day out of my leave She said that showed she was flexible.
To me these are just 'normal' things?
One other thing she said was that when I was off with covid she covered my hours on campus. Surely that is out of my control and just her job? Managers have to cover staff absences if there's nobody else? I couldnt help being off, so I don't think it shows her flexibility.

Just interested what you all think.

@comealongponds

Those two examples are not examples of flexibility. However that doesn’t mean she needs to allow you to leave at 4pm to demonstrate flexibility

Correct.

So I just heard I didn't get that job I applied for. Feeling very down now. I was writing my letter of resignation all night.

It is dreadful here today. She has not spoken to me since I came in. I was actually in early but only came into the office for 9am. She actually saw me coming in, but didn't say hello, so I said to myself fuck it and went and sat on a bench until it was time to go in.

When I got in she had already opened our counter to the public which is supposed to open at 9am. I checked my phone and I was in at 8.58. I know she did this to make me feel like I was late.

Anyway, will start job searching again. When I got this job it took so many failures at interview, I really hope it doesnt take that long this time. I cant work like this it's horrible.

The flex of flexibility really depends on the job, so it's hard to comment. Ultimately, these are exemples of flexibility. Whether they can be considered flex enough depends on you role, the company etc...

Also, the fact she isn't agreeable to changing your working hours doesn't mean she isn't flexible. She might agree to other requests that you have not made.

She sounds absolutely awful. People like her shouldn’t be managers.