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Partner assaulted me. Don't know where to turn

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CoffeeLover90 · 30/03/2022 23:16

I know I'm not unreasonable. Posted here as has most footfall. If you make it to the end well done.
Partner of 17 years assaulted me this afternoon. I called the police. He literally snapped my phone in half.
He's drank on and off (mostly on) for 2 years. The final straw was I over heard him talking to another girl, who he hasn't seen for 16 years, arranging to meet and start a relationship. I realized in that moment, I've been used. He's with me for a place to stay and for money. Nothing else. Which means he'll have no intention to stop drinking. When I pulled him on this he smothered me on the bed, punched me on the head, pushed me a lot. Threw my phone at me, the walls, stamped on it then finally hit over the banister so it snapped in half. Our son, 2 years old, was downstairs. I managed to grab my son and run to my friends over the road. I rang the police. He was arrested and took into the van as I was in the process of giving a statement. They left saying they'll come back once he's booked in. I've heard nothing since. I've called 101 to let them know I now have my SIM card on another phone. They said he was still in custody and I'd get a call. That was 2 hours ago.
I'm alone with the little one. I'm terrified. he'd said if I phoned police he will come and kill me once he's released.
I've never been so scared in my life.
I'm also worried about SS they were involved at sons birth and was signed off a few months later on the agreement the relationship did not continue and he would have supervised visits only. Due to previous violence.
I know I'm an absolute idiot for taking him back.

KimMumsnet · 31/03/2022 09:39

Hi, OP. As the previous poster has noted, we think you might have accidentally included a bit of identifying info in your last post, so we have removed it for you now. Hope that's ok - feel free to repost without the name included.

DawnMumsnet · 31/03/2022 16:18

Hi CoffeeLover90,

We're so sorry you're going through this.

We can see you're getting lots of good advice and support from other Mumsnetters and that you've spoken to the police and your local women's support organisation by now, but we just thought we'd add some links to organisations which can give you some more help in real life.

First of all, here's a link to our domestic violence webguide.

If you ever feel that you're in immediate danger again, call 999. If you’re unable to speak to the operator, press 55 when prompted, to let them know you need help.

We can see that other Mumsnetters have suggested that you contact Women's Aid and we'd absolutely second that advice. Their 24-hour helpline number is 0808 2000 247, and they have an online online chat support service which operates 8am - 6pm weekdays, and 10:00am - 6pm on weekends.

It's also worth checking out the Freedom Programme - we know it's helped many MNers over the years, so please click on the link.

We really hope you and your DS are okay, OP. Flowers

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