Story from school residential - do I need to tell anyone this?

[DrelasSkills]

Not really an AIBU although maybe you may say I am?

My DS just came back from a Y4 residential trip.

Told me that one of the boys (who was in a different bedroom) told him that in the middle of the night he woke up the other boys in his room and they had a 'penis party' and looked at each other's penises.

I was driving at the time, but said I doubted it was true as they were all very tired and hoped it wasn't as you shouldn't show your private parts to other people or ask to see other people's unless it's a parent/doctor. Kept it light and then the subject changed but just wanted to reply in a way to make sure my DC knew that their parts aren't for others to ask to see.

What I'm wondering though - do I need to say any of this to the school? Parent of the child?

I can't decide if it's just kids stuff or if I should be mentioning it (how?) to someone?

Write the email send it to the general office email and just put foa safeguarding lead.

It will end up where it needs to. It’s certainly something that should be mentioned. Waking others up to hold a penis party is not something I’d consider normal. One child being a bit silly with their Willy is typical boys but getting a group together at that age and then telling even more people about it.

@GoofyIsACow I’m not suggesting the office staff are unprofessional. The OP said that she was wary of sending an email because they are handled by office staff. My aim was to reassure the OP that it’s possible to make contact with the DSL without having to go into detail with multiple people about concerns over her son.

I think you’ve looked for offence where none is intended (as well as coming over as disparaging about doctors’ receptionists!)

[quote Inertia]@GoofyIsACow I’m not suggesting the office staff are unprofessional. The OP said that she was wary of sending an email because they are handled by office staff. My aim was to reassure the OP that it’s possible to make contact with the DSL without having to go into detail with multiple people about concerns over her son.

I think you’ve looked for offence where none is intended (as well as coming over as disparaging about doctors’ receptionists!)[/quote]
Fully agree. Our office staff are lovely and I trust them - however one also has a child at the school, and I don't love that she knows so much detail about emails I've had to send to the SENCO for example, routed via her. Even if they don't share it, it's reasonable to want to keep things private as much as possible, especially with something like this that could well mean nothing at all, or could be really bad.

@Inertia @OverTheRubicon you are both right, of course, reading my message back I took something that wasn’t there. It was the middle of the night and I have been really unwell meaning I haven’t slept, i apologise for my ratty reply.