I need to find some interests ASAP!!

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I have been online dating for a number of years. I know it sounds really stupid but it's only just dawned on me!! I am very boring. Other than work - I have no interests / hobbies / I don't have many friends either but I wouldn't have time for lots of friends as I'm too busy trying to survive!!

Anyway....I have met a few men who I have really liked. They have been interested in me as a person but when they find that I have very little to say ...they have backed off.

Please please help me ....what do you all do for hobbies etc? I need to make time for this. I realise now that I have been living a rather insular life.

karate
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I do boxing at a local boxing club - surprisingly large number of women, all supportive and fun. Doesn't matter if you're a total beginner.

@weaselish I think I would actually enjoy that. I'm going to look into it. Thank you

Good luck!

I was talking to a single male friend recently who said he would be interested of a woman said she was in to stamp collecting and was passionate about it rather than have no passions in life. I hope that you find something you enjoy and it improves your life not only in the dating sense x

I like reading fantasy novels, travelling, visiting museums/historical places, am trying to get into some arty things but I'm not very good 😂 I like embroidery and cooking a lot too.

Culture - galleries/ museums
Reading
Travel
History & visiting places that are of historical interest to me - Shardlake walk - Tudor London, WWII waking tour of Prague etc
Architecture

I find anyone with a passionate interest in something interesting, even I wouldn't find that activity or hobby interesting itself.

Not sure if that makes sense though!

Try out some different things - you don't have to be amazing at them.

Ideas:
Something creative
Something active
Something in nature
Something to connect you with the community
Something you enjoyed at school
Something that contributes to those who need help

PLease take some of mine, I have too much (and never enough time)
knitting, reading (fantasy/sci-fi), bouldering or rock climbing, embroidery, cooking and baking, cars, bass guitar, taiko drums.
Some older ones: playing skate hockey, airplanes, dinos (thankfully just a phase when my kid was 2-3ish), building stuff from lego.

I struggle with this too. I worry I come across as boring as serious. My hobbies are reading and volunteering for a crisis helpline - hardly fun and exciting!

All the stuff I'd love to do costs money that I don't have. I'd love to go on holidays, go to gigs, go to the theatre, attend acting classes... I can think of lots of things I'd like to try but none that I can afford.

I do 5 minutes of Duolingo a day so that I can say I'm learning a language to make me feel slightly less boring.

I was similar when online dating, work was my life! I enjoyed playing backgammon with my sister and put that on my profile and a lovely chap messaged saying he had always wanted to play backgammon but none of his friends or family were interested and we went for a coffee date, I brought my backgammon board and we played

I used to worry about this in my younger years as my hobbies were quite bookish and done mostly independently. I'm not sporty or musical at all. I turned the only physical hobby I had into something more exciting so instead of just saying I liked "walking" I became a "hiker" made me sound infinitely more outdoorsy I thought! Joined a walking group for a time before I had the DC, was a lot of fun and we did the Camino de Santiago one year.

Other than that mine are all books, literary festivals, writing etc. travel and cultural pursuits which most people like?

Reading? Or Try yoga or Pilates
Cycling even if it's just small trips u could say u like a nice cycle to relax

@calyx72
Please say it turned into a beautiful love story?

I'm back online dating OP and to be honest once you've briefly discussed your hobbies it is all about the chemistry in the chat, whether the conversation flows or not. I've chatted to men with lots of hobbies but they've barely been able to string a sentence together.

Watercolour painting. Don't need a lot of kit to start, loads of tutorials on YouTube.

equestrianism if you have money to burn

My main 3 are
Running
Crochet
Allotment

@Mermaidwaves no he admitted he was still in love with his ex and the dating was to get out of the house/pass the time

However I then dated a guy who mentioned my other hobby (gigs/live music) and we are now very happily married

I sing in a cappella choir. It's a good choir and we perform in public a fair bit. I love music generally and go to lots of gigs from pub bands to big headline acts. Music seems like a good way to engage men I find, not that I am looking!

I sea swim at least one a week and also get on on the moors and coastal footpaths. Also try and run once or twice a week but I'm a fair weather runner.

I tap dance and I'm getting back into gardening whilst crossing fingers for an allotment.

Another vote for bell ringing

Go and see some exhibitions - something there might spark a genuine interest. Then buy a book about the subject/artist….that may lead onto something else. And it can lead to interesting conversation.

Cinema/theatre is another good one. Easy to catch up on some classic films for example and keep up to date with new releases. Or read the Booker prize winners for the past 20 years and some of the classics? Gives you a perspective on literature?

Photography? Even if you don’t have fancy camera gear, mobile phones these days have great cameras on them - I know a few people who really got into photography during lockdown just by taking snaps on their daily walk.

Just the gym for me.
Some men don’t want to do anything, so just be yourself, don’t put yourself across as someone you’re not.