I need to find some interests ASAP!!

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I have been online dating for a number of years. I know it sounds really stupid but it's only just dawned on me!! I am very boring. Other than work - I have no interests / hobbies / I don't have many friends either but I wouldn't have time for lots of friends as I'm too busy trying to survive!!

Anyway....I have met a few men who I have really liked. They have been interested in me as a person but when they find that I have very little to say ...they have backed off.

Please please help me ....what do you all do for hobbies etc? I need to make time for this. I realise now that I have been living a rather insular life.

Netflix that a hobby! I'm a total film buff now

Painting, calligraphy, cooking, baking, netball, Pilates, horse riding, hiking…

What did you really love when you were a child?

Resurrecting childhood hobbies is pretty good for your emotional and mental health.

I read/go to museums and galleries/travel. I also love animals and go to rescue centres to volunteer. I am just about to take up knitting again which I enjoyed in my younger teens.

when they find that I have very little to say ...they have backed off.

Most people will be very happy to talk about themselves, if you can get them to open up without noticing that you are doing it.

I think practising questions which do not come over as overly inquisitive is the way forward here. Also the looking interested and numbering to keep them chatting.

Bonus impact, you get to know a lot more about someone by listening to them.

Good luck.

You must be into something OP unless you just lie in bed and stare at the ceiling all day lol. Are you sure you don't just assume the things you like aren't standard "hobbies" like ice hockey or cross stitching or bowling etc? If you had the whole day to yourself what would you do? X

@Calyx72
A happy ending though, yay!

Playing n a band. If you don't play an instrument maybe you could join a choir.

Walking/hiking.
Reading
Various crafts, there is one I am pretty good at and numerous others I have tried and gone on courses for just for fun.

@5foot5

Playing n a band. If you don't play an instrument maybe you could join a choir.

Walking/hiking.
Reading
Various crafts, there is one I am pretty good at and numerous others I have tried and gone on courses for just for fun.

Would you be willing to share more details about the craft? I need inspiration x

Not saying you shouldn't try something new if you want, but I don't think you need A Hobby (tm) to live an interesting life. If you found you didn't have much to say on the date, maybe the vibe just wasn't there between you two and there wasn't a spark. It's everyone's "worst date" story that there was a bit of awkward silence and the other person filled it with the finer details of breeding goldfish or their weightlifting program.

Maybe instead, think about things you'd like to talk about on dates as sort of back up topics if the conversation isn't flowing. Could be news and currents affairs, movies, ideas for future travel, anything really.

@Mermaidwaves

I'm back online dating OP and to be honest once you've briefly discussed your hobbies it is all about the chemistry in the chat, whether the conversation flows or not. I've chatted to men with lots of hobbies but they've barely been able to string a sentence together.

I agree with this. There are people who will happily dominate conversations with their enjoyment of watching paint dry. And those who have lots of hobbies who rarely speak.

All of DH and Is hobbies are quite insular. But we chat to each other about what we're reading, drawing, writing etc. And like others have said, it's the passion he has for things I find attractive, rather than what he does.

You could start with things that don't require much & 'equipment'. Such as hiking or poetry writing?
You may have more interests than you realise. Do you like walking in the countryside or on the coast? That's an interest/hobby. Do you like baking? Reading? Watching the birds? Learning about spirituality and religion? Learning about history? Those all count. I don't think you have to be a great musician or similar to be an interesting and busy person. Everyone has something interesting about them. I wish you well OP, and I hope you find what you're looking for

Pole dancing fitness classes ! Keeps you fit and you'll defo have things to talk about

Food! Most people like food. Places to want to eat is a good start. Things you'd like to cook?
Do you like cities, rural places or coastal.
Are you arsed by politics, I sadly am.
I love true crime youtube and podcasts, do you like any podcasts?
Animals? Kids?
Films/TV?
Music is huge for most people, gigs? Do you like any bands? Festivals?
Do you like the theatre? Comedy?
Do you enjoy being around kids or animals?
Any voluntary work? Would you like to do any?
Shopping? Hair and nails girl? Brunch or lunch?
I love old buildings and castles, I adore churches and old farmers markets etc
Home interior, fashion? I love both!
Fitness? Religion? Spiritual? Crystal healing and essential oil problems solving?
Do you have any places you'd like to travel?

Tell us about yourself op! There's going to be loads you're interested in, you're just panicking!

My bestie was convinced for 4 years she was boring whilst being one of the most warm and fun people ever