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Original poster

To take another job after being in new one a month

30 replies

Imaysnapandfart · 28/03/2022 16:31

Started a job a month ago. I took a paycut and there's no remote working, plus I don't really feel particularly passionate about what the company does. I took the job as my previous contract ended suddenly so had to scramble to find a job so that I could pay my rent.

The people are really nice and we get on well so I feel really guilty about dropping them in it by taking another job (better pay, hybrid working). AIBU to leave for the new job?

OP posts:
BobHadBitchTits · 28/03/2022 16:37

You don't owe them anything.

The company would hear no qualms getting rid of you if they wanted.

MayBeeMee · 28/03/2022 16:38

Do it. I did similar last year, no regrets once I’d plucked up the courage to resign!

balalake · 28/03/2022 16:39

Serve any period of notice, be honest that more money and hybrid working is your reason, and don't hand in your notice on a Friday afternoon.

Nothappyatwork · 28/03/2022 16:41

This is a very strange time we all find our self in you need to future proof yourself so I would say look very carefully before you move roles to make sure that you are actually improving on your situation and it’s sustainable into next year should the bubble go pop. Make sure you’ve had a significant pay rise as well, The market has moved on even since January in terms of salaries

SevenWaystoLeave · 28/03/2022 16:41

Do it. A job which is better for you long term makes up for a bit of awkwardness in the short term.

girlmom21 · 28/03/2022 16:42

Oh god definitely go!

FTEngineerM · 28/03/2022 16:43

Absolutely not - this is a job this isn’t parenthood. Drop it like it’s hot.

QuizzicalEyebrows · 28/03/2022 16:48

It's your life do what makes you happy

Original poster
Imaysnapandfart · 28/03/2022 16:56

Great, thanks everyone! Just hate letting people down but like you say it's my life!

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Move22 · 28/03/2022 16:59

dont hand in your notice on a Friday pm

Can I ask why not? I have never heard of this before.

D0lphine · 28/03/2022 17:17

Just ditch them.

As others have said they would have no qualms about firing you if you became slightly inconvenient.

At the end of the day the job market is very good for employees at the moment and salaries in certain sectors are rising rapidly.

I would leave now because you won't have to put it on your CV if you leave now. If you get to 6 months you will and then there will be questions about why you left etc.

TCMolly · 28/03/2022 17:26

I need to resign today after 7 months, I'm dreading it so much and feel sick to my stomach about how my bosses will react.
I'm excited about my new job but this is really taking the shine off it.

I am the only staff member in a start up and I know they will try to persuade me to stay/offer more money etc. I have no passion for the role and find it soul destroying. I wouldn't stay even if they doubled the salary.

To make matters worse, the bosses are in a different time zone on holiday.

I'm gearing up to it.

HardbackWriter · 28/03/2022 17:29

I left a job after a month and felt terrible about it but actually it's much better for them than you staying another couple of months and then going. Two years on it really doesn't feel like a big deal (and I'm still in the job I moved to).

D0lphine · 28/03/2022 17:56

@TCMolly

I need to resign today after 7 months, I'm dreading it so much and feel sick to my stomach about how my bosses will react. I'm excited about my new job but this is really taking the shine off it.

I am the only staff member in a start up and I know they will try to persuade me to stay/offer more money etc. I have no passion for the role and find it soul destroying. I wouldn't stay even if they doubled the salary.

To make matters worse, the bosses are in a different time zone on holiday.

I'm gearing up to it.

Why do you feel bad? Sounds like a shitty job. Sack them off.
TCMolly · 28/03/2022 18:02

It is a shitty job but they are nice people. If they were twatty it would be so much easier.

D0lphine · 29/03/2022 11:50

@TCMolly

It is a shitty job but they are nice people. If they were twatty it would be so much easier.
They would fire you without qualms if they didn't need you any more.
RightOnTheEdge · 29/03/2022 11:57

No YANBU, you just have to be honest and say that the job is not working for you and you've found something more suitable.
You can't stay in a job you don't like and lose out on a better one just to be polite.

I do understand though and I'm the kind of person who would feel the same. You just have to tell yourself that it's just a moment of being uncomfortable and soon you will have a better job, they will have hired someone else and its not a big deal.

TCMolly · 29/03/2022 12:04

@D0lphine yes indeed they would.
I still haven't done it....😱

Original poster
Imaysnapandfart · 29/03/2022 12:38

@TCMolly

It is a shitty job but they are nice people. If they were twatty it would be so much easier.
This absolutely! I feel like I'm letting them down personally, they're so so nice.
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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 29/03/2022 12:39

Who cares about them just leave. If they decided on redundancies they wouldn't give a monkeys about you.

canthecardsbewrong2022 · 29/03/2022 12:58

OP just try and leave on the best of terms.

I don't think you are being unreasonable, maybe you might regret it but that's a risk we all take with life.

Though people can turn on people.

It really shuck me last week when someone I got on really well with approached me saying I've lost my job due to low stats to be kept on at 2 months post employment in what's allegedly an employee market!?

I started in a group of 6 just under 3 months ago, 4 now remain it now feels very much dog eat dog. but I'm in a situation where I've had to many short term jobs and moves so I'm sticking it out (because in a weird way I do feel more settled then I've ever been before, it is so odd) so it is known as the Employers decision for once.

TerribleCustomerCervix · 29/03/2022 13:07

I left my previous job after two months, for reasons very similar to yours.

Ultimately they needed someone really passionate about their business and it just wasn’t me. Sticking it out for another six months or whatever wouldn’t have done them any favours either, as it was just kicking the can down the road.

In the end when I handed in my notice, my manager said she was gutted but understood I needed to do what was right for me and my professional development. I’ve only been in my new role a few weeks but I’m so so glad I but the bullet and went for it.

LndnGrl · 29/03/2022 13:16

@balalake

Serve any period of notice, be honest that more money and hybrid working is your reason, and don't hand in your notice on a Friday afternoon.
Why not on a Friday?
crispmidnightpeace · 29/03/2022 13:22

Why does it matter? You don't want the job so won't do a good job. Just leave.

eurochick · 29/03/2022 13:33

As someone who manages a large team I have to say I don't give a shit what day of the week you hand in your notice.

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