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Opal93 · 28/03/2022 16:31

I know this is the epitome of a first world problem… and Similar to a thread I’ve done before. Recently two followed me on social media, one of these people I would consider to be a good friend. I know it’s just social media, not real life, we shouldn’t care but I do think many of us DO care more than we would like to admit when this happens. AIBU for feeling a little bit offended at this? Its happened a few times with people I am on good terms with as far as I know, and I don’t post anything offensive or political so just wonder what has upset them so much as to delete me. AIBU for wondering if I am posting stuff that upsets people?

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gamerchick · 28/03/2022 16:32

How do you know?

Electrox · 28/03/2022 16:32

It is them, not you. You sound considerate and sensitive.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 28/03/2022 16:35

What kind of thing do you post?

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Opal93 · 28/03/2022 16:36

gamerchick because I went to send a message and realised I couldn’t get on her page! I had very definitely been deleted

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coodawoodashooda · 28/03/2022 16:37

That's why i don't do social media

JudgeRindersMinder · 28/03/2022 16:38

You’re not being unreasonable you’re being utterly ridiculous. Do you know what they have going on in their lives just now?

Electriq · 28/03/2022 16:38

Maybe they came of social media.

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Opal93 · 28/03/2022 16:39

Waxonwaxoff0 just whatever I’m doing really I.e yesterday I was abseiling and put photos of that up. Other times it’s more mundane stuff , sometimes nights out. I know not everyone will be interested and that’s fine but other friends post similar stuff and the friend in question hasn’t removed them

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ForeverLooking · 28/03/2022 16:39

Sure they haven't just deleted their profile? I came off Facebook and had a few texts from people asking if I'd upset them.
Stepping away from social media (FB in particular) has helped so much with mental health.

KrisAkabusi · 28/03/2022 16:39

Its happened a few times with people I am on good terms with as far as I know, and I don’t post anything offensive or political so just wonder what has upset them so much as to delete me.

Maybe you're just boring?

SunnySideUp2020 · 28/03/2022 16:39

Maybe they just deleted their profile?

AgathaOvercome · 28/03/2022 16:40

@Opal93 when did you last see her in person? If recently then that is odd. If not there could be a multitude of reasons why. I had to unfollow some friends who constantly posted their kids when I was going through IVF - although I muted my best friends good friends. Now I’m expecting I’m doing another cull soon as I want to put pics of baby on insta and I want to make sure it’s only close friends who see them.

I’ve absolutely nothing against anyone I’ve unfriended. They’re all lovely people and if I saw them I’d chat away I just don’t want them on my social media. It’s nothing personal.

Katiekat84 · 28/03/2022 16:40

@Opal93 do you post a lot? To be fair I wouldn't delete a good friend but I have "muted" lots of people because I find their updates uninteresting and/or annoying.

girlmom21 · 28/03/2022 16:41

What social media? Because if they've just unfollowed you on Instagram or Facebook it wouldn't stop you messaging them.

girlmom21 · 28/03/2022 16:41

I meant twitter not Facebook

Katiekat84 · 28/03/2022 16:41

@AgathaOvercome i use the "close friends" option in insta stories to share pics of my daughter so I don't have to delete anyone

BurntEnds · 28/03/2022 16:42

Do you post too often?

Original poster
Opal93 · 28/03/2022 16:43

KrisAkabusi possibly so but as I mentioned, they have kept some friends in our group who post similar stuff to me (often with me doing the same activities) and she hasn’t deleted them

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vodkaredbullgirl · 28/03/2022 16:44

Maybe they need a break.

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Opal93 · 28/03/2022 16:45

AgathaOvercome delighted to hear you are expecting now after your struggle. Congratulations!

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KrisAkabusi · 28/03/2022 16:46

Some people follow and unfollow. I regularly cull people I follow as otherwise you get an unmanageable amount of posts or people to go through. Don't overthink it, accept that not everybody has the same social media habits as you do.

BurntEnds · 28/03/2022 16:47

@Opal93

KrisAkabusi possibly so but as I mentioned, they have kept some friends in our group who post similar stuff to me (often with me doing the same activities) and she hasn’t deleted them
Maybe they've just seen enough then. If you're all tagging each other in the same things it will be very dull
OverWorking9to5 · 28/03/2022 16:48

You're not the first person to find that stuff hurtful. It's happened to me. Sometimes I notice and can't understand it. I mean, no matter what's going on in my life, I don't deal with it by combing through my list of fb friends and randomly deleting a few people who've always been pleasant to me Confused

Fernyfloor · 28/03/2022 16:49

Might depend on your posting style. I have a friend who posts stuff that is supposed to be motivating and inspirational and for me it's just a pile of shite and I cringe. She's perfectly normal offline.

BurntEnds · 28/03/2022 16:50

Or they might be posting stuff they don't want you to see, so nothing you've done or not done they are just wary of sharing with loads of people

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