Anyone else hate mother's day???

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I feel its all a bit ott, stuff everywhere in the shops, most of it tat. It doesnt feel the same when you have to constantly remind your teenage children about it, one gave me stuff later on today other forgot but made me tea and says he appreciates me. Just feel all this pressure to photograph beautiful flowers and gifts and have it all over Fb.
I hate these made up days , made up by card companies to make money, anyone else????
Oh and must be awful for women who cant have children or have lost mothers, or just don't have a relationship with theirs.

@counsellortroi Agree. Reminds me of a recent email I had from Waterstones with their list of best books to read by women for IWD. 2/3 of them were about motherhood. I'd have hated these church services and much preferred a cursory reference to Mothers Day and then moving on.

We didn't go out for a meal as previous experience has been restaurants full of families who clearly ignore Mum for the rest of the year.

Dd made me a lovely card at school and a breakfast, then I made a roast for me, dd and mum.

Well, everyone’s entitled to feel this way and I do understand how painful it is for infertile women, women who have lost children or people who have lost their Mother.

I like it because it’s an excuse to demand everyone in the house be nice to me for the day .

My children give me a card and spend the day with me

Except for the card it's something that happens on a regular basis but will get less and less as the years go on

I think quite often it's about expectations and I pretty much just expect a hug and a card

Though it did take ds1 (23) all day to actually write in the thing

sartres

Yeah ds2 has to hug me and look like he enjoys it

We didn't go out for a meal as previous experience has been restaurants full of families who clearly ignore Mum for the rest of the year

How on earth can you make that deduction from sitting in the same room, at a separate table, from some people for a couple of hours?

I love it - my teenage daughter bought me chocolate and i bought us brunch, and i got to give her unlimited hugs and feel happy that i had her, and tell her how happy i am to be her mother. nothing on facebook, no grand gestures but a lovely celebration of motherhood and a day to be positive about being a mother.

as a PP noted, father's aren't supposed to feel guilty or anguished on Father's day because some people have lost their own fathers, or have difficulty becoming fathers, why can't mothers just enjoy the day?

You need to own your own Mother's Day. What should it mean to you?

No card company or retailer is going to tell me what Mother's Day should be.

In our house, for Father's or Mother's Day, the other one cooks breakfast for everyone to enjoy. Then we just have a nice day. No cards, no bought stuff! Just a nice day!

It's suited us for the past 21 years...

...and I don't feel the need to post my lie on social media either - my indiscretions are my own business!

If you hate it, just opt out. Your DC don't sound too fussed, so just tell them next year not to bother. As a general principle, I dislike being told when we have to celebrate someone. While my DC do make an effort, I honestly wouldn't mind if they didn't, because a fuss on the one day of the year you're told to doesn't define a relationship, and if they had to be coaxed and cajoled I'd rather they didn't anyway. Spontaneous and sincere gestures on normal days mean more.

I know that if you don't like something or find it hard, it's difficult when you see other people talking about it or observing the day, whether that's Mother's Day or Christmas or Valentine's Day or anything else.

But other people are entitled to enjoy these things if they want to, and they're entitled to talk about it.

Sneering about 'tat' and implying that people who observe Mother's Day are just doing it to make up for doing nothing for the rest of the year is incredibly judgemental. I went to see my mum for the weekend, bought her the new book by her favourite author and took her out for a nice lunch at a place I chose because I know their menu is great for her dietary requirements. My mum was absolutely delighted with everything and it was a special day for her.

However, I also make a fuss of her for the rest of the year. I do stuff for her a lot, help her out with money sometimes, send her little gifts for no reason and tell her I love her.

If you don't like it, you're not obliged to engage with it. Tell your kids you don't want them to observe it and spend the day like any other day. Nobody is going to look at your Facebook and think 'Why hasn't she mentioned Mother's Day?' None of your friends will notice any absence on your social media; nobody is anywhere near as invested in their friends' individual profiles as that.

I love it now I'm a mother. A lovely card with some thoughtful words, breakfast made and then a lunch out and champagne with family.

It's one big pity party.
the solution is simple, take the friggin initiative and buy yourself something. End of.