To have left without saying goodbye

[Weekendfromhellll]

Went to see my mum for Mother’s Day and had a nice drink in the pub. Went back to my parents’ house and they went upstairs to facetime my grandparents, we were sat in the living room waiting but they were taking ages and our toddler was getting really restless and is in need of a nap, and we are due to collect food at 6pm. Went upstairs to tell my mum we were going to head off, got a dirty look and told to ‘just wait’ so waited around another 10 minutes, before deciding to just head off, sending a message to explain why and that we’d see her in the week.

Now expecting to be berated over text message. So before that (absolutely) happens, AIBU to have left?

Both your parents disappeared for 40mins for a private FaceTime call when they had guests? They were incredibly rude IMO. I would have left instantly rather than waiting 40mins. So odd of them.

What is bizarre is not wishing your grandmother a happy mother's day. Do you not have a relationship with her? If you do, why wouldn't your mum let you join in the facetime for a couple of minutes?

I think you need to start standing up for yourself. If my mum rudely told me to go away when I was a guest then I certainly wouldn't be waiting to be berated about MY behaviour.

@Aprilx

I can’t believe people are saying you weren’t being rude! Incredibly rude to walk out of somebody’s house without saying goodbye. One of your parents was just wishing their own mother Happy Mothers Day surely.

The parents were incredibly rude to leave guests for 40 minutes. You are a complete muppet.

Of course yanbu

Can't believe they swanned off like that, so rude of your parents.

Just how feckin' long did your parents expect you to sit downstairs twiddling your thumbs?

Weird behaviour on their part. Bit of a power play, too. And downright rude of them.

"Now expecting to be berated over text message."
Is that what she normally does? Another power play. I'd suggest getting in first, and texting her that she was rude.

@airrrrAIRRRRiELLLL it was not ‘grandmother’s day’.

@ThisisMax

It sounds like you are still in 'child' role for your parents and your behaviour reinforces it. Im not having a go at you but I am saying that if they dont treat you like an adult you need to decide you are one and be one. So dont sit downstairs like a dope, just go off and do your thing and shoot a breezy text saying you hope they had a great facetime, lovely to see them.for drink and catch them again. ignore any berating text. The reason you think it is odd is because they are, so dont help.them!

Yes, this.

You acted like an adult and parent. Your parents treated you like a child. This was the equivalent of. ‘Shhh mummy and daddy are talking. It is rude to interrupt.’

" There's nowt queerer than folk" as the saying goes and this applies here.

How very peculiar 🙄

@Weekendfromhellll

Yeah we were waiting 40 minutes by the time we left and the call wasn’t anywhere near ending. I would have liked to have said hello but it’s their ‘thing’ and my mum said my grandparents prefer it when it’s just them. It is odd now I think about it.

'get back in your box' is the phrase this makes me think of, not letting you speak to the grandparents and instead sit hassled and alone upstairs with a toddler doing nothing (because the grandparents prefer not to speak with you - doubtful OP), then getting irritated at you for sharing to ask if you could go. They sound like miserable parents tbh, I'd bet they're always like this to you unless you fall in line. As others have said it was your mother's days too, OP and as a parent of a toddler if I wa your mum or Mum in law I'd want the focus on you (it's hardcore looking after a toddler!)