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[mumof41992]

Right I need advise cause am so so worried.

My son has autism and adhd, he does yell and shout a lot and where we stay there a group of kids they get on some days then don't a woman has now made a petition and sent it round neighbours to get us evicted. Am absolutely bricking it. Can she do this? I do discipline him he's not malicious he just struggles keeping friends they hurt him he hurts them back they gang up on him he's no angel but either are the other kids.

Today she had a stone in her hand threatening him and let her 14 year old son nip him until he bled. She also called him a ginger bastard and told him he had no soul and wanted him to die.

I have phoned 101 to make a complaint about her but am generally so scared incasw they all sign it and we are homeless.

What's my rights guys? Can she do this? And what should I be doing?

Hope someone can help me xxx

Report it to the police and also report it to the anti-social team at your local council. Keep a diary of every single incident and report each and every one.

She's an arsehole, your son has the right to live his life and I'm sorry she's making it so difficult for you.

Also she has been taking pictures and videos of him to go along with this complaint

What have the police actually said/done so far?

Thank you @Hospedia I will be I didn't think there was a problem she has been to the door a few times for little things like him chapping her door and her son wasn't wanting to come out and little things like him being on her drive which I have sorted out with my son. She swears all the time to him. I haven't had anything from the council of any complaints. But she has said we will be out by end of next week. X

Nothing. I have just phone phoned them today, about 2 hours ago they said they would be in touch.

You also haven't said if you're in private, council or HA accommodation?

And how old is your child?

We are in council. And he is 7 just turned.

It sounds awful Op. I think that as a starter you need to keep your son in. His playing out with these 'friends' isn't worth it if he is physically getting hurt.

And I know that might not seem fair, but your child is vulnerable.

Please be assured that you will not be made homeless at the end of the week if nothing else. Keep a note of everytime she harasses either you or your son and report to the council. Speak to the police about the physical threat of violence.

Gosh he's only 7! He definitely shouldn't be playing outside unsupervised.

Well you certainly won't be out by next week as obviously that's not up to her. I'd just make sure the police take what her and her son did very seriously and take it from there.

I have kept him in and will be from now on. Such a sin he really likes being out in the fresh air it literally just a little space for him to go on his bike he likes stacking up stones and counts them and she kicked them over and came screaming and shouting that he had vandalised her property it's just a car park not in her garden or near it and I would be out sweeping it up after he had finished playing. Yeah I am going to be phoning the council on Monday to report her also waiting for the police to phone me or come to the door. Just scared and a single parent with 4 kids my life's hard as it is I suffer with depression and bad anxiety I can't be confrontational when she comes to the door. X

It's not outside like you think, it's just a little grass 3 metres infront of my house no cars no road it's a little culdicsac. I can see him at all times it's a square grass area.

A just turned 7 year old (and assuming he was also outside at 6) should not be playing outside without an adult, esp one with additional needs.

As I said it's a area outside our back door it's a communal garden with stones around it he is supervised and watched am not chucking him outside and swanning off am either hanging the washing out or potering about out there cleaning up my area.

I’m so sorry for your son. The stacking stones thing sounds adorable. Mine do that. She sounds an absolute cunt. Imagine thinking it’s ok to do that to a 7 year old.

I’m sorry

It's his garden what am I supposed to do? I do watch him not 24/7 but I can hear and only turn my back for minutes at a time it's his garden aswell as everyone else's

You should make a complaint against the 14 year old for assault, and also a complaint against the mother for making threats. What are the other neighbours like?

How old is he?

Thank you @EvilPea it is very cute it's his thing he really enjoys it and it calms him down just minds his own business and she's got a massive problem. But it's fine when her kids want to come play on his trampoline or climbing frame etc. So hard we were homeless last year for 6 months in homeless accommodation we just go this house 6 months ago it's my dream have worked so hard getting it up and sorted out. Just so worried. X

If he’s supervised at all times then how has a 14yr old nipped him until he bled?

Sorry but you’re partly to blame here, who lets a young child with special needs play out alone!

@mumof41992

It's his garden what am I supposed to do? I do watch him not 24/7 but I can hear and only turn my back for minutes at a time it's his garden aswell as everyone else's

And during those minutes she threatened him with a stone, let her 14 year old nip him so much that he bled and called him a ginger bastard and told him he had no soul and wanted him to die?

Report it to the police- every single time.
It's a hate crime.

Yes she did, all happened very quickly they were playing nice together next minute she's stood out screaming at him with I was there for and told her I'd be calling the police. Maybe I am partly to blame but it's his garden the sun is shining he's doing no harm. They were all playing nice I turn my back for a few minutes and she's at him shouting and blinding. I did witness the shouting and calling him the names not the nipping.

I am making the complaint. I have phoned and waiting to hear back from police or for them to come to the door and I'll be telling all.