Neighbours

[mumof41992]

Right I need advise cause am so so worried.

My son has autism and adhd, he does yell and shout a lot and where we stay there a group of kids they get on some days then don't a woman has now made a petition and sent it round neighbours to get us evicted. Am absolutely bricking it. Can she do this? I do discipline him he's not malicious he just struggles keeping friends they hurt him he hurts them back they gang up on him he's no angel but either are the other kids.

Today she had a stone in her hand threatening him and let her 14 year old son nip him until he bled. She also called him a ginger bastard and told him he had no soul and wanted him to die.

I have phoned 101 to make a complaint about her but am generally so scared incasw they all sign it and we are homeless.

What's my rights guys? Can she do this? And what should I be doing?

Hope someone can help me xxx

You are not to blame, ignore the keyboard warriors, nasty for the sake of it, your Son has every right to lead as normal a life as possible and playing in his garden is perfectly reasonable.
I hope you get it sorted, your neighbour sounds awful

Your story is changing Op. You said that your son was playing in a car park - now it's just outside your house. Which was it?

Your neighbour sounds absolutely awful and I agree that you should be reporting her behaviour to the police.

But your son needs to be supervised at all times if he is playing outside. Whether or not there are horrible neighbours and bullying children.

I know it’s not the same as outside but
stone stacking

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@NewAgain123

You are not to blame, ignore the keyboard warriors, nasty for the sake of it, your Son has every right to lead as normal a life as possible and playing in his garden is perfectly reasonable. I hope you get it sorted, your neighbour sounds awful

But that’s not true is it? It’s not ‘perfectly reasonable’ for a six year old with special needs to play unsupervised in a public area where there is a problem with the neighbours and he has been harmed in the past. Not reasonable at all

The police have just been. They are going to try and charge the boy with assault. And are away to talk to them now.

It's a grass and not a car park just a stone concrete area with bike sheds it's hard for I explain but it's enclosed and one way in one way out with security pad. I agree I should be out there 24/7 I apologise for that but that's not the issue here, all I want to know is if she is able to get neighbours to sign to evict or not?

You've said he knocks at her door, plays in a car park, plays in a communal garden and plays in your garden.

You need to reduce that to playing only in your secure garden and not going outside without you and don't turn your back for a few minutes. You have to be eyes on.

My two are now in their 20s. They both have autism.

I can tell you from experience that you have to do things differently than if they are NT. Not that playing out unsupervised in shared places at 6 is ever sensible but add sn and it's a hard no.

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She can certainly organise a petition.
Submitting a petition does not compel your landlord to do anything.

It's just 8 back doors and a square grass area with stones and bike shed it's tiny and a my sons garden. He was knocking for her son they play together sometime, he e do have a tiny tiny little area with plants but our corners are our corners but it's shared it's hard to explain.

I have an autistic and adhd 7 year old. I also have a 5 year old with additional needs. Your child should not be outside with you not within arms reach. For his sake. Your supervision levels are hideous for all this to be happening

He was out the back door Jesus Christ but fine I get the point. He was still verbally abused and assaulted.

Your 6 year old knocks for and plays with her 14 year old or another of her children?

Another of her children also 7year old.

They are home schooled children used to live in the country now live in a busy area, not very sociable but yet either is my son in a different kind of way.

A 14 year old and 6 year old play together?

Ahh, x post.

Involving the police is absolutely the right move. I hope they put the fear of God into that kid!

It's just that your son is especially vulnerable and you have to take extra steps to keep him safe.

It's going to be hard to hear this but ime far too many NT kids are absolute wankers. You cannot trust them to be nice or kind to your child. You have to protect your child from them. Every single piece of hell my sons have been through during their childhood was at the hands of nt children while the teachers or 1:1s back was turned. It is my lived experience than you cannot trust them.

Thank you all have my answers I needed now.

Have also took everyone's opinions on board thank you

Good luck, Op. Sounds a very tough situation.

The council might speak to you if they get a complaint but I doubt you’d be made homeless without some kind of warning first anyway. However, you need to keep your son away from these people. I know it’s hard if you’ve got other kids and MH difficulties but take him to the park if you have one near, or out for a walk if he likes being outside. I wouldn’t be letting a vulnerable child that age outside without me in a space where other people have access.

Has she got learning difficulties. /? Sounds like she doesn't understand anything herself .. let's her son 'nip ' him? What does that mean . She let her some bite yours ? Ridiculous behaviour from an adult!

Your son isn't unusual in knocking the neighbours door for the kids to come out and play so no one would seriously take that as being a nuisance. You say you have 4 kids ? Are any of them old enough to keep an eye on your seven year old when he's out playing? It's ridiculous that some of the scolds on here are saying you should be constantly monitoring him. How are you supposed to get anything done? They would probably the same ones whose kids never leave the house looking less than perfect and who change their beds every day
I can't see a council evicting you but if you contact them to tell them about your vile neighbour they should be able to reassure you and maybe even offer some kind of support

You did the right thing calling the police.
Your poor son.

Playing with stones is something most children like to do at times.

Your load sounds very heavy OP.

Keep calling the police is she is at you or your son.

Get a case number from the police so you can give it to the council when you report her on monday.

Goid luck.

You won’t be evicted,your boy hasn’t done anything wrong!council generally only evict for none payment or anti social behaviour and even that can take years!I wouldn’t put up with her swearing at my son though!

From the enclosed set up you’ve described. I can see why you’d let him.
Clearly you won’t now as it sounds like the biggest threat is unfortunately in the enclosed bit.

You did the right thing calling the police.

How dreadful to have a neighbour like this.

Why did she threaten your son? What did she say he had done?

You've done the right thing and the police response so far seems good.