Hi, after some impartial advice and I think this could be the place! So... I work 3 days a week as a teacher. My days are long (7-6ish plus some evening work). My husband works 5 days a week from home 9-5 but hours are pretty flexible. On my days off I take/pick up our child from school, have some school work to do and manage to do the vast majority of the housework. I also take full responsibility for the mother's load (if you've seen Motherland!) Basically dealing with all of the day to day parenting decisions (think world book day, reading, homework, pe kits, lunch boxes etc. etc.) I do all the food shopping, all the cooking (even on my work days) 90% of the washing up, all the washing, ironing, pretty much everything. Husband will occasionally have a wipe round in the bathroom if i ask and mow the lawn in the summer but that's it. Hw even needs reminding reminding do the bins which he often forgets so I'm there dragging out before 7 when I leave for work. My aibu is this. If we have a really busy weekend planned, I may ask him to step up and do a bit more so all the jobs are done before I go back to work but he insinuates to me that I should have enough time on my days off to get everything done. But I don't as you can see I do 99% of everything! I find it really exhausting and it makes me feel like I'm slacking! Should i do 100% of everything when I work 3 daysand he works 5?? He often seems a but surprised when I'm still having to do housework etc. on a Sat or Sun but we have a 4 bed house and that's how long it takes! Sorry for rambling I'm feeling exasperated by it all!