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Travelling distance

27 replies

Candleropeheart · 25/03/2022 11:17

Going on holiday in August with alot of family.
Traveling one of the days to see a famous tourist attraction and it is a 6 hour drive there and 6 hours back again from where we have booked to stay..

Me and DH (whos a HGV driver knows what long distance travelling is like) and we want to stay the night.

There is 5 in our group, and 2 dont want to they want to travel see and go bk to the booked house and the 5th person is happy to do whatever so they're on the fence.

Aibu to think we should definitely stay as itll be so long of a journey, as itll bw more than 6hrs with pee stops, food stops, we literally dont know where were going stresses etc.. and should just split the costs with another group of friends who are also going there at the same time and they're happy to share accommodation which wouldnt even make it that expensive either...

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Justkeeppedaling · 25/03/2022 11:38

Two six hour (minimum) trips is not a day trip, particularly with 5 people in a car.
You need to account for traffic jams and all kinds of things - you obviously know that.

You're going to have to start at the crack of dawn to have maybe an hour at the site and then get home around midnight.

Is there an easier way to get there? Eg by train.

Tell the people who want to do it in one day to hire their own car.

TopCatsTopHat · 25/03/2022 11:41

Can't the group who want to travel there and back in a day and those who don't, do their own choice, separate and regroup together the following day?

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Candleropeheart · 25/03/2022 11:49

We're hiring a car together as the trip on a whole is 3 weeks but this day in particular is causing issues 🤷‍♀️

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Brefugee · 25/03/2022 11:51

12 hour round trip for a "day out" would be a nope from me, regardless of what anyone else in the party said.

IsDaveThere · 25/03/2022 11:54

A 12 hour round trip just to get to a tourist attraction for a couple of hours defiitely isn't a day trip. It would be a no from me as well, unless staying overnight and travelling back the following day.

dfendyr · 25/03/2022 11:54

@Candleropeheart

We're hiring a car together as the trip on a whole is 3 weeks but this day in particular is causing issues 🤷‍♀️
do they need the car for that day/2 days?
ididntevennotice · 25/03/2022 11:57

Get a bus/train back the next day?

There is not a chance I would even entertain a 6 hour drive, on holiday, for a day out. Neither would I waste 2 days on it. Whatever it is, it must be exceptional for you to even consider it.

Cocobeau · 25/03/2022 12:04

I'd be trying very hard to convince the rest of the group to book a nice near to the attraction. Is there anything else near by or even on route back that you could add as an additional attraction to add more justification to a night there?
How long do you anticipate spending at the attraction? Surely a good while or it's not worth the drive. And who is doing the driving? If it's just you and DH I'd be saying we're absolutely not doing. It's not safe.

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Candleropeheart · 25/03/2022 12:06

We got the car knowing wed be travelling places.

Another trip is 3 hours there and 3 hours back we have agreed to not stay overnight for this one.. but the thought of 12 hours travelling is very draining and its near the end of our trip too so we've bound to have had at least one agrument by then lol!

No one agreeing to give the car up for 1/2days either as we will all have paid for those days to have it and will not be keen on spending more out on transport..

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 25/03/2022 12:08

Whose doing the driving

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Candleropeheart · 25/03/2022 12:10

We have found an air bnb that sleeps 16. Working out at only 40 each... which i think is reasonable.

As regardless of whether we stay the fuel is still and expense and the attraction too... plus its not next wk so can save or budget for it also....

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Hillarious · 25/03/2022 12:10

What is this attraction? Travelling six hours in this country each way would be madness, but I know my American friends would think nothing of travelling this kind of distance at home?

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Candleropeheart · 25/03/2022 12:13

Driving is being shared between 3 out of the 5 people paying. I am one not Driving and so is the 5th who is happy to do whatever... so 2 drivers want to not stay and 1 (DH) does. Dh has the most Driving experience too...

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Dacquoise · 25/03/2022 12:17

Blimey, that's not a day trip, that a feat of endurance imo.

Your options are to put up with it as it, come to a compromise about an overnight stay, find an alternative way to get there, drop out yourselves and let them get on with it or cancel altogether.

I would consider which option is most suitable for YOU and DH and go with that. You're on a hiding to nothing trying to persuade others who don't want to be persuaded so it really comes down to are you brave enough to do what you want to do?

dfendyr · 25/03/2022 13:43

is where you are staying comfortable, near amenities etc?

it would be so much easier if you shared where it was and what the attraction is

TokyoSushi · 25/03/2022 13:45

I'm desperate to know where you're going that's worth a 12-hour trip!

Sciurus83 · 25/03/2022 13:46

EH???? SIX HOURS? That's not a day trip, uts not anywhere near where you're staying. That'd be a hard no from me

DaffTheDoggo · 25/03/2022 13:48

Please say where it is- I can't imagine where is worth all that travel even if you do stay overnight.

Holidaypls2022 · 25/03/2022 13:52

Random guess, are you travelling from Orlando to the Everglades/Miami? Dying to know where it is too Grin

TokyoSushi · 25/03/2022 13:54

I think you're going from an Egyptian resort to the Pyramids!

0penALLTours · 25/03/2022 14:05

Stay over night
6 hours each way travel is too far

LouisRenault · 25/03/2022 14:05

I think if all other arguments fail, you and DH should drop out of the trip, let the other couple have the car for the day (and pay for the petrol) and occupy yourselves for the day near your accommodation, and make a separate trip some other time to see the attraction, when you can do other things in that area.

I can't imagine wanting to see anything badly enough that I'd want to do a twelve hour round trip just for that, even if there was an overnight stop.

(I too would like to know where it is, but can imagine it would be outing if any other member of the family is on MN.)

JustJam4Tea · 25/03/2022 14:09

Is it the grand canyon?

SockFluffInTheBath · 25/03/2022 14:11

12 hours of driving is quite a few miles. Will the hire care mileage allowance be sufficient?

MaizeAmaze · 25/03/2022 14:25

OK, so just plotting a rough day.
Get up at 5.30
Leave accomadation at 6 am.
Drive half way to destination.
9am - stop for 30 mins for breakfast and loo
9.30-12.30 drive rest of way.
12.30 -1.30 lunch
1.30-4.30 see the,attraction
4.30- 7.30 drive half way home
7.30-8 - loo stop and food
8-11 drive home.

Not my idea of a fun day out!