One of my good friends has recently confided in me that she has been having suicidal thoughts. I knew she was struggling with postnatal depression but wasn't aware how badly. She spoke about her DH and how he flits between really supportive and really really angry. She says he sometimes shouts at her that she isn't allowed to care about / be upset about things because in her view she is basically dead so what does anything matter. I'm really worried about this and that that's exactly the opposite of what someone who is suicidal needs to hear. My instinctive reaction to that is that she should leave him but again I'm worried about the emotional strain of even thinking about that when she is already struggling.