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Original poster

in not sending DD to nursery this Friday?

54 replies

ihaveadream14 · 23/03/2022 13:35

Just that really. Nursery contacted yesterday to say cases of norovirus are high in the nursery. Lots of cases of staff and children poorly with it.

Do I send DD2 in on Friday? I'm extremely anxious about vomit, sickness and suffer with emetophobia and since getting that message, my mind has been in overdrive. I hate it when DD's ill and I really struggle if she's ever sick. I'm not working as I'm on maternity leave so could look after her but I feel bad by keeping her home as we'll
lose out on £54 as we have to pay even if the children are absent and she absolutely loves going. What would you do?

OP posts:
MuggleMadness · 23/03/2022 13:38

I'd keep her home.

You will pay the money whether she goes or not & id Trade looking after her myself over her getting Noro & when nursery are telling parents there's a lot of it in nursery, I'd be listening!

Tdcp · 23/03/2022 13:39

Norovirus is very contagious and it's awful to be ill with it, based on that alone I'd be tempted to keep her at home, coupled with the emetophobia, I'd say it makes sense.

shazzer1978 · 23/03/2022 13:40

@MuggleMadness

I'd keep her home.

You will pay the money whether she goes or not & id Trade looking after her myself over her getting Noro & when nursery are telling parents there's a lot of it in nursery, I'd be listening!

Same as this. Nursery wouldn’t tell you if it was just a couple of cases. I’d steer clear and hope the weekend provides a circuit break so it stops spreading. Also they should be deep cleaning.
Sirzy · 23/03/2022 13:41

You would be spending the money anyway but would be worried the whole time that she was there and for a few days adter.

Your in a position to keep her home so I would

Newuser82 · 23/03/2022 13:41

I'd also keep her off. Norovirus is awful.

SpaceyCake · 23/03/2022 13:44

I would keep her home. I did this quite a few times with my DC because I didn't want bugs etc, and yeah the cost of the lost day stings but you would have to pay it anyway. I would do everything I can to avoid norovirus because yuuuuuck!

Rosebel · 23/03/2022 13:52

I'd send her in. We kind of have to live with Covid now and can't avoid it.
My son went to nursery today and casee are high there too but he loves it and I feel I can't isolate him forever.
Also it's a lot of money to pay for no reason.

LabelMaker · 23/03/2022 13:55

I'd keep DD off, let them know tomorrow though for their staff planning. They wouldn't have rung you if it wasn't spreading.

LabelMaker · 23/03/2022 13:55

You're paying the money whatever happens

HereComesTheSum · 23/03/2022 13:57

Re read your post. Do you really need to ask?! Of course keep her off.

HereComesTheSum · 23/03/2022 13:57

@Rosebel

I'd send her in. We kind of have to live with Covid now and can't avoid it. My son went to nursery today and casee are high there too but he loves it and I feel I can't isolate him forever. Also it's a lot of money to pay for no reason.
It's not covid!
DontLookBackInAnger1 · 23/03/2022 13:58

I would keep her home probably. If it meant you having to take time off work I'd probably say differently but if you're home already, and paying anyway, then the only consideration is - do you want to risk your child being poorly?

Poppy92r · 23/03/2022 14:03

If I had the option I wouldn't send mine in! So not unreasonable.

Unsureaboutit9 · 23/03/2022 14:05

Keep her home, that money is gone regardless and you have absolutely no need to send her in so why risk it?

Meandthesky · 23/03/2022 14:10

I would keep her home since you don’t need the childcare for work. I’m also emetophobic and norovirus is awful, and so contagious!

You’re spending the money anyway, might as well not have days of anxiety worrying that she’s going to get sick

ThinWomansBrain · 23/03/2022 14:13

if you send her because you've paid anyway, if she gets sick she'll miss time next week anyway because she's ill.

Original poster
IHaveADream14 · 23/03/2022 14:14

Thanks all. Appreciate it. My DH thinks I'm being a bit dramatic and thinks it'll all be gone by Friday 🙄 She adores going so I feel a bit guilty but equally I'd hate for her to be poorly over the weekend. I'll keep her home.

OP posts:
BulletTrain · 23/03/2022 14:15

I'd pay £54 not to be up for 2 or 3 nights with a vomiting child myself!

Chasingaftermidnight · 23/03/2022 14:17

Well you’ll lose more than £54 if she has to be off for 3 days or more with noro.

EarlGreywithLemon · 23/03/2022 14:22

I’d also keep her off. If she catches it there’s a good chance you all will - including your husband! And there’s also a chance she’ll miss some nursery next week given the 48 hour rule.

nearlyspringyay · 23/03/2022 14:23

Keep her home!

Lou98 · 23/03/2022 14:24

I had Norovirus 2 weeks ago and it was awful, a lot of people I know have had it recently, it spreads so quick.

I would keep her off personally

Butteryflakycrust83 · 23/03/2022 14:24

Absolutely keep her home. We had it twice in six months and honestly it was worse when I had it compared to the toddler because with her it was just constant washing but when you are poorly yourself its hard to look after anyone else.

BobbinHood · 23/03/2022 14:28

You’re not “losing” the money because you’ll be paying it whether she goes in or not. Norovirus is grim so since you don’t need to send her for the childcare to enable you to work, I wouldn’t risk it. Arrange something fun to do at home instead, looks like it might still be really sunny.

BuanoKubiamVej · 23/03/2022 14:31

You're not going to be "losing" £54 if you keep her at home and you wouldn't be "gaining" £54 if you send her in. That money is spent either way and that is unaffected by this decision.

If you keep her at home then your mental and physical health is better. That is a win. If you send her in and she gets ill then you'll have her at home and poorly for days. So keeping her at home until the nursery have the situation under control will reduce the time at home in the long run.

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