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Next doors kid won't leave us alone in the garden!

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allgettingtoomuch · 22/03/2022 15:53

We can't even sit outside with the kids without him hanging over the fence shouting the kids names and he doesn't give in until he gets a response!

How on earth do I deal with this situation? Every bloody summer Angry

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SniggleSnarf · 22/03/2022 15:54

Middle finger

Unforgettablefire · 22/03/2022 15:59

Mousetraps on the fence

endofthelinefinally · 22/03/2022 16:00

Plant something tall and spiky.

Ilovenutellaaaaa · 22/03/2022 16:02

Tell your kids to ignore him, if he doesn't get a reaction each time he does it he will stop, or you could just tell him to go away....maybe he's hanging over the fence hoping you will invite him to join you all for what ever you are doing/eating etc in the garden

AperolWhore · 22/03/2022 16:03

I would just politely say please can you stop shouting the xyz kids manes please they can’t play and repeat every single time he puts his head on the fence.

Who’s fence is it? I’d be tempted to get some rubber spikes that stop cats walking in the fence which would stop him hanging over the top too.

TheBeautifulMoors · 22/03/2022 16:03

What happens if he shouts their name and they say “yes”. Does he leave them alone then? If they’re only calling the children when they’re in the garden, it wouldn’t bother me .

burnthur5t · 22/03/2022 16:05

Hose pipe

Shoxfordian · 22/03/2022 16:06

Tell him to go back inside and speak to his parents

Bert2e · 22/03/2022 16:10

Taller fences

SauceGirl · 22/03/2022 16:11

Shock horror... may be he is just trying to be friends with your children. Social contact... It's really not that weird

MalbecandToast · 22/03/2022 16:12

God I've had this, so annoying. Just say they are not playing today every time, eventually they get the message. Failing that tell the parents their child is being rude. I'd never let mine do this its so intrusive!

MalbecandToast · 22/03/2022 16:14

@SauceGirl when it's every time your outside it is weird, weird and rude. You should be able to enjoy your garden without being pestered and looking over someone elses fence is not cool at all. Parents who let kids do this are doing their kid no favours

HumunaHey · 22/03/2022 16:16

@SauceGirl

Shock horror... may be he is just trying to be friends with your children. Social contact... It's really not that weird
Well shouting someone's name repeatedly isn't the way to make friends is it? If OPs kids wanted to, they would have responded. They're not obliged to be friends with people you know.
ForeverLooking · 22/03/2022 16:20

What does he say when you talk to him?
I'd say to him that it's rude to shout into someone's garden and to please get down and off you go. I presume your kids aren't interested in playing? I feel a bit sorry for the kid, but you shouldn't have to put up with being pestered (your kids shouldn't either). I would have got a bollocking for annoying the neighbours as a child.

Philisophigal · 22/03/2022 16:25

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BeKind1981 · 22/03/2022 16:35

@Unforgettablefire

Mousetraps on the fence
Will still be laughing at this next week!!
InsufficientOven · 22/03/2022 16:46

@Unforgettablefire

Mousetraps on the fence
😅😅
Prinnny · 22/03/2022 16:47

Ask him to stop shouting maybe?

lunar1 · 22/03/2022 17:16

Nobody likes leylandii, but they have their place! Or fast growing bamboo.

1forAll74 · 22/03/2022 17:22

It wouldn't bother me really, he may be lonely at home, and it won't last forever. i would have a few little jokes with hiim. and see what he likes to talk about. It's not nice to ignore children,. unless they are being naughty, like chucking stones at your window or some such things.

IAmSantaOhYesIAm · 22/03/2022 17:24

Have you tried talking to him? Or to his parents?

Natfemale · 22/03/2022 17:25

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Marmelace · 22/03/2022 17:41

Why not just go out and get an electric fence, then sit back with your kids and have a good laugh. What horrible people you come across as.

caringcarer · 22/03/2022 18:41

Just tell these kids you are having family time and would they please stop hanging over the fence as they will break it. Then ignore. If it persists have a word with parents and tell them it is every single time you want family time in the garden. My dd lives next to a 3/4 year old who crawls through the hedge and she has too take her back to her own home. DD says it is every summer when her 2 boys are playing in the garden with her or their Dad.

N0va · 22/03/2022 19:12

@Philisophigal

My fence blew down in the storm and I have gone from a 5ft one to a 7ft one. I wish I'd done it years ago, I recommend it to anyone. I have a lovely neighbour one side and the other side is a nosey cow who just stands in her garden and glares right at me. Literally comes out when she hears me so she can pretend to do something and glare. I've loved here 12 years and I for the first time, I can enjoy my garden in peace. Highly recommend.
DM did this once as she ended up trying to creep out the back door as not to be heard and the neighbour got a ladder out and peered over and said "new fence?! Does it affect the light?" BlushGrin also always use to say "only meeeee" still makes me giggle to this day!