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allgettingtoomuch · 2022-03-22T15:53:44+00:00

We can't even sit outside with the kids without him hanging over the fence shouting the kids names and he doesn't give in until he gets a response! How on earth do I deal with this situation? Every bloody summer [angry]

thebabynanny · 22/03/2022 19:15

Have you tried doing the obvious and just talking to the child or his parents nicely?

HappyDays40 · 22/03/2022 19:20

I'm not bothered if kids want to play in my garden with my son. We used to do this when we were kids. All the people talking about spikes and hosepipes it's just bloody horrible. We are becoming a nation of non door answering antisocial people. It's like we expect not to have to interact with anyone but " our little families " jeez.

lilmishap · 22/03/2022 19:27

So you all ignore him when he is addressing you? It seems the rudeness works both ways here.
@HappyDays40 agree with you, when I was growing up we were told not to be unkind to the kids trying to play with us and let them join in no matter how annoying it was.

Fennellathewitch · 22/03/2022 19:32

It makes me so sad when I look back and we were all in each others gardens as children, all looked out for each other from the teeny to the teens. Learnt lots about social interaction from this, is this why I will answer my door and speak to strangers on the street ?

Bunty55 · 22/03/2022 19:34

How old is the child?

Original poster

allgettingtoomuch · 22/03/2022 19:38

It's not that we're horrible and nasty it's just annoying the moment we open the back door he starts with HELLO?? Throwing bottles over the fence, DS kept throwing it back over because he had enough. Then he was hitting the fence with a broom and the bottom of the broom fell off and hit DD in the face. He's just annoying we can't even relax. His mum is never in the garden with him.

We ended up coming in in the end!

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Couchbettato · 22/03/2022 19:49

Get some trellis to put on the top of your fence or nail some tall bamboo fencing to it. It looks ugly as shit but it gets the job done.

DoWhatYouLike · 22/03/2022 19:52

The poor kid, he's probably lonely. Can't your kids play with him?

rubytubeytubes · 22/03/2022 19:55

I think you should have a quick chat with him, it won’t be forever.

runsmidgeOMG · 22/03/2022 19:58

Genuinely moving forward I think you should set yourselves a boundary with him. Invite him to join in with your kids maybe one afternoon after school and for an hour at a weekend (not planned just if you're about and kids aren't doing anything specific)

The rest of the time.
Kids! Kid next door is saying hello, say hello back please (manners)
Followed up with a polite but firm. Todays not convenient for you to play kids next door. Get off the fence you'll hurt yourself.

Followed up with ! oi ( humorously) we said get off the fence

Followed by look kid next door, we're being polite but will get cross if you continue to climb on the fence and shout at us. Off you go !

Address with kids parents if none of the above works out.

HTH

Gensola · 22/03/2022 20:01

Why is it OPs responsibility to humour/entertain this child? Everyone has the right to quiet enjoyment of their own home, that includes not being pestered in the garden. I’d go to the parents and complain tbh - but I would also have told him off by now directly because I’m perfectly happy being mean

Chocomelon · 22/03/2022 20:06

How old is the child?

PinkSyCo · 22/03/2022 20:06

You could try teaching your kids some manners. The kid is obviously lonely, why do yours ignore him?

murasaki · 22/03/2022 20:12

Why are her kids his support humans? She is entitled to peace in her garden with her family.

TheSnowyOwl · 22/03/2022 20:14

Every single time I would go round and knock on the front door until his parents answer. And if they don’t, I’d assume he was home alone and call social services.

thebabynanny · 22/03/2022 20:15

@allgettingtoomuch

It's not that we're horrible and nasty it's just annoying the moment we open the back door he starts with HELLO?? Throwing bottles over the fence, DS kept throwing it back over because he had enough. Then he was hitting the fence with a broom and the bottom of the broom fell off and hit DD in the face. He's just annoying we can't even relax. His mum is never in the garden with him.

We ended up coming in in the end!

OK but what have you actually said/done so far?

He's a child you can't expect him to read your mind.

thebabynanny · 22/03/2022 20:16

@TheSnowyOwl

Every single time I would go round and knock on the front door until his parents answer. And if they don’t, I’d assume he was home alone and call social services.

You'd go and knock on the door and call social services rather than speak to the child? Why?

TheSnowyOwl · 22/03/2022 20:25

You'd go and knock on the door and call social services rather than speak to the child?
Why?

I would knock on the door to speak to an adult with that sort of behaviour coming from a child, yes. I have a low threshold for bottles being thrown in my garden and my children being injured with brooms.

Jools67 · 22/03/2022 20:26

We had this problem so we put up higher fences while they (the neighbours) were away.When they came back they were very frosty then brought the kids a trampoline ,I'm not lying. The eldest would then bounce as high as she could and watch us sitting on the patio , it made us laugh actually ,so glad we moved.

thebabynanny · 22/03/2022 20:27

@TheSnowyOwl

You'd go and knock on the door and call social services rather than speak to the child? Why?

I would knock on the door to speak to an adult with that sort of behaviour coming from a child, yes. I have a low threshold for bottles being thrown in my garden and my children being injured with brooms.

But the child is right there - why can't you say "get off the fence" or "don't throw bottles".

It's truly bizarre to me that adults/parents are so scared of talking to a little boy