I think I’ve fallen in love with some 28 years older than me

[Pearlofhearts]

AIBU to feel embarrassed and can’t believe my feelings?!

He is older than my dad and only two years younger than my mum.

I feel like I love him

You're panic buying OP because your relationship is coming to an end and that's scary. He's also a distraction from the misery of that. I can almost guarantee that the reality of a man of that age will not match the picture you have in your head, unless he's very atypical of his age. I would try to gently distance yourself.

You'd want to be careful about this relationship in work. You need your job no matter what happens. This older man is lovebombing you with his lovely Daddy ways.
Next thing is he might try something else on with you because you've accepted the gifts.
You could say 'This is kind of you, but please stop bringing me gifts, we are work colleagues so there's no need'.

And I wouldn't return the gifts. Its embarrassing for both of you, and will create a situation where a talk about 'feelings' will inevitably follow, which won't do either of you any good.

You could say 'This is kind of you, but please stop bringing me gifts, we are work colleagues so there's no need'.

Yes, that's much better than my suggested wording!

Of course there’s such a thing but if you don’t want to tear his clothes off and jump his bones you’re not in love.

People can and do love/be in love with a person and want a romantic relationship without ever wanting to have sex with them.

It sounds like you have developed a bit of an emotional dependence on him because of the problems in your marriage. At some point you'll probably look back on it and wonder what you were thinking when you thought you loved him.

Love can just be a case of adoring someone, not love in the true sense of the word.. It can just happen, with a person, whe feels the same,, but neither person has any problems in a marriage, or anything., and you may be able to spend time with the person you adore, and without having sex,. It can become quite magical, even though you know things probably wont last.

Oooh love an age gap thread. I've been there

He was quite good in bed just a tad wrinkly round the gills.