Aibu to be hurt by a text from 6 years ago sent by bil

[3Daddy31982]

It's a long (incredibly long) text sent from BIL phone. I don't know if it was written by him or his then fiancée. It called me "pathetic" because I went into his engagement party then went out. I'd forgotten the exceptionally expensive cakes bought off (professional baker).

It moaned I didn't talk to them (son was 4 months old and didn't sleep. Since diagnosed with adhd. I was shattered.

It said I'd blocked him on my now husbands phone. I hadn't. It was filled with venom. I'm basically the bad guy.

Some text i sent (absolutely zero idea) was moaned about.

She left him as he couldn't impregnate her and work is beneath her...

I just feel crap.

Sorry OP. Im reallu confused ar the timelines ams whays actually happened and who sent what and when!
Sorry youre feeling bad though..

Not sure OP will be back on here. I honestly thought it was just me who couldn't understand this as I'm shattered today. It's a bit of a word soup to say the least.

I don’t understand. Are you drunk?

Blatantly cakemarking. 🧁

I do sympathise.
8 years ago I got a horrible text from my sister. It was very long and just vile. I was incredibly upset tried to phone to talk and sort things out she didn’t respond. I felt sick for days. A few days later she acted like nothing had happened and told me to ‘get over it’ - she just wanted to give me some home truths and felt better for it and ‘get over it’. I am pleasant to my sister now but the disturbing text still comes into my head. I honestly hadn’t done anything other than perhaps my sister wrongly perceiving that I had an easier life than her!

So I do understand. I would try to draw a line under it especially as relationships seem to have changed. I think a lot of posters have forgotten what true sleep deprivation does to someone as well. Focus on what you have in life, your husband and children and focus on yourself.

Ok so 6 years ago you had a four month old baby. You went to an engagement party for your bil and his fiancee.

You had promised to bring the expensive cakes for the party but forgot to pick them up leaving the party cakeless which annoyed them?
You were tired with the baby and left the party early after not speaking to the hosts bil and fiancee?

Around this time you sent them a not very nice text.

Either bil or fiancee then sent you a rubbish text complaining about all these things.

6 years later you now have a 6 year old with ADHD and bil and fiancee have now split up (reasons unknown).

You are thinking about the text from 6 years ago and getting upset why?

I'm really confused!

She came close to taking my husband off me.

How?