Dating again... But there's serious baggage

[Manda2725]

Hi all, i need some help deciding what to do.
I haven't dated for 11 years as my childrens father left me whilst pregnant and its taken me a long time to even want to trust a man again. Cutting straight to the point ive recently been on a date with a man my age. Hes secure financially (not that i care about money), smart, kind and has 2 children like me.... But!!!!
He was married for 19 years to a woman he grew up with, the mother of his children. Their families are close and they still do stuff together with the kids as a family unit.
He goes to her house and looks after their son on occasion and stays quite late.
They split 3 years ago, he dated 2 women since her and the 1st his ex wife got jealous and convinced him they deserved another shot as a family, so he left his very understanding girlfriend and they went to councilling to try again. It lasted 6 months. She then dated a z list celebrity, got a boob job, and decided to try and get famous (shes a very attractive woman).
The point of all this is is would you all be able to deal with your partner hanging out ans playing happy families with his ex like he does? Am i being silly wanting to give up dating him on the fear that she will beckon him back again if i fall for him (even though hes said that wouldn't happen).
People easily lie and i dont know if he is telling the truth about being over her or not.
Is it even worth the stress??

Vote yes for its worth it and no if you think its just too much baggage. Thank you all i appreciate it x

@PoshPyjamas

For the best - he sounds massively immature re the tattoos thing.

He reakons its not cause of the other guy having them... But its a bit of a coincidence and like i said hes never had even 1 tattoo. To want to cover ur body (exactly the same as the celeb) is s bit weird. Ive told him hy text how i feel. I won't be meeting him. Feel sad but I'm sure the right man is out there somewhere surely

I assume you have decided to walk away. Correct decision if you have in my view.

He wanted to use you to make his ex wife jealous, and use his ex wife to make you jealous.

He sounds like an immature prick.

@balalake

I assume you have decided to walk away. Correct decision if you have in my view.

I did. Hes tried to make out his situation is normal and said if i can't be involved with his ex wife then it's obviously not going t9 work. I said i dont need to be the 3rd wheel in your "family unit" as he calls it. I said they have ni boundaries and no sane person would want to be involved. He feels like its okay to be that close.... I did find out she's asked him back again since the last time and he apparently said no, so she's obviously loving his attention

Good for you op. There someone nice out there for you, you sound lovely!

@JackieQueen

Good for you op. There someone nice out there for you, you sound lovely!

Thank you... I really hope so. Ive been alone now since i was 30 years old, im 42 this year. Starting to feel like ill never meet someone

@WhoKnewWho

He wanted to use you to make his ex wife jealous, and use his ex wife to make you jealous.

He sounds like an immature prick.

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there.