AIBU to try and talk child out of work placement abroad

[Lycra60]

My child is in last year at Uni + is looking to take a work experience placement in Mexico City. I am hugely concerned as it seems to be a very dangerous place. AIBU to try and talk them out of it. Already I can’t sleep and it’s affecting my partner who thinks I am totally silly.

Yabu

They’re supposed to be having adventures in their twenties! They’ll probably have a great time

YANBU for being concerned. YABU for trying to stop them going.

YABU, deal with your anxieties yourself and make sure your adult child gets to live their life. It’s a quick way to push your child away trying to stop them doing things that they want to do.

Do some proper research rather than just panicking. Also, I doubt your child has arranged this directly. There will be an agency involved. Have a look at options with your child, positively. There are lots of Spanish speaking places.

Yes, you are. Its an amazing city and will be a great opportunity for them. It's no more dangerous than most It's big cities, there are just fine parts that you wouldn't go wandering round at night.
Let your DC live their adult life with your blessing.

I agree with your partner that you are totally silly.

YABU. Great experience for them, I'd be thrilled if my child wanted to do that.

I'd be encouraging as many experiences and adventures as possible. Life is very short, better to live it to the full. I'd probably make sure I had the cost of a return flight ready for emergencies. Maybe you could do some practise trips this summer? Work on language skills?

It's no more dangerous than most

Have you read the latest foreign office advice for Mexico?
www.gov.uk/foreign-travel-advice/mexico/safety-and-security

I was going to say YABVVVU to curtail your DC’s experiences. But to be honest, I wouldn’t want my DC in Mexico at the moment.

@Holly60

YANBU for being concerned. YABU for trying to stop them going.

This, I suppose.

I wouldn’t prevent my DC but I’d be having plenty of talks about it not just happily waving them off.

A placement isn’t the same as a city break holiday, that would be my main concern.

Child is an adult, you cannot stop them going
You can give advice and be supportive but once they are adults they need to make their own decisions. Can’t be doing with controlling parents!! You think because you gave birth you can dictate your child’s future - no you support them along it, you need to step back and do some research. Nothing like making them feel bad and guilty -

For goodness sake keep out of it
DC is an adult and you shouldn't try to control or interfere

Love Mexico! Lived there for a year - never had any issues

As a parent it is your job to raise your kids so they have to ability to step out on their own and go on adventures. You have clearly done a great job at this as your kid wants to travel and work in Mexico. Instead of trying to stop them now is the time to support them even if it scares you it clearly doesn't scare them. Keep supporting them and maybe just ask for regular contact to give you peace of mind.

@sorryiasked

Yes, you are. Its an amazing city and will be a great opportunity for them. It's no more dangerous than most It's big cities, there are just fine parts that you wouldn't go wandering round at night. Let your DC live their adult life with your blessing.

Blimey, have you done your research on Mexico City?

I mean I'm all for travelling and working abroad, it's an amazing experience that I would recommend for anyone especially a young person but large parts of Mexico function as a narco state and the rule of law has broken down. Sure some parts of Mexico City itself are reasonably ok but do you really think the OP's daughter will stick within one or two districts?

YANBU. The security situation there is dire. And of course your DC is unafraid - a lot of young adults never think bad stuff will happen to them.

Yanbu I am doing exactly the same as you

you need to step back and do some research
I don’t think that will make her feel any better about Mexico, tbh.

It would be a no from me. And yes I’m sure parts are fine etc and I probably shouldn’t believe everything written in the daily fail but I would be massively worried if one of me dc went to Mexico to work

@PineappleRingo

It would be a no from me. And yes I’m sure parts are fine etc and I probably shouldn’t believe everything written in the daily fail but I would be massively worried if one of me dc went to Mexico to work

What do you mean it would be a no? You can't tell your adult DC what to do.

Well if the work placement was in policing or industrial chemistry I'd be concerned. Otherwise not so much although I would talk to them about personal safety, taking local advice etc

All you can do is your ADULT child advice but it is totally up to them. I'm not sure how you could think you can have a say.

Yes Mexico has issues but millions of people live and visit there without any issues. There are bad areas but most of the country is fine - our friends have just moved with their 3 children there.

Mexico City is fantastic. I worked there for a while and it's one of my favourite places. I've never been anywhere quite like it.

Err. I suspect most of the posters haven’t actually been there. It’s not Cancun. It’s really not very safe.

1. How sensible is your child?
2. Is she going with anyone else?[though that is not necessarily totally safe either]
3. How good would it really be for her career?

Based on the posters on here who have been there and say it is not safe, I would be helping and encouraging her to find other wolrd places that she would still like, if she has the oppurtunity.

Or would you want to veto all of them?