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Karma - do you believe in it?

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TooEarlyForMe · 15/03/2022 16:48

Please tell me you do!!!

I'm so fed up. My son's swim coach is horrible to him all the time and I'm finally at the end of my tether. I just keep telling myself - it's ok, he'll get his come-uppance at some point. But this probably isn't true is it :(

Honesty never seems to pays off. Politeness never pays off. Working hard never pays off. Liers, bullies, cheaters, bullies and aggressors always seem to get away with it

Life is a bit crap sometimes and I'd like to believe I'm wrong and that actually honesty and being nice pays off, and those that are nobs will eventually get what's coming to them.. am I deluded though?

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TooEarlyForMe · 15/03/2022 16:49

Sorry I didn't word that too well! You get my gist though!! ?

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Ludo19 · 15/03/2022 16:50

I'd love to believe in Karma OP but I've never seen "they'll get their comeuppance" in real life. Some people are just arseholes. Anyway you can change your sons swim coach or even confront their behaviour towards your son?

GreekGod · 15/03/2022 16:51

Get your poor son away from the awful swim coach or get him reported for bullying your son - that’s karma !

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TooEarlyForMe · 15/03/2022 16:57

Greek god - it's tempting. I can't stand the man. I was just warming to him because I thought finally he was starting to be nice. But no. I guess leopards really don't change their spots :(

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Mummyratbag · 15/03/2022 16:57

I believe in consequences.

Please find another coach.

Arsehole coach loses student consequence not Karma.

TopCatsTopHat · 15/03/2022 17:01

Is your ds an elite athlete? I think allowing a toxic person to hold authority over your children is a bad idea, they're not called formative years for nothing. I hope you can switch!
Sorry but no karma in this life sadly. If there was my arsehole of a millionaire neighbour would be seeing his life go down the toilet. He's not.

RocketPanda · 15/03/2022 17:04

Get your son away from this man.

No, I don't believe in karma. Good people have truly awful things happen to them every day and horrible people can live charmed lives.

TopCatsTopHat · 15/03/2022 17:05

@Mummyratbag

I believe in consequences.

Please find another coach.

Arsehole coach loses student consequence not Karma.

Well said
sairiegamp · 15/03/2022 17:07

No sorry it's bollocks

mamakoukla · 15/03/2022 17:08

I believe in karma but it depends on how you define it.

What do you want for your son? What do you want him to learn from this experience? To a degree, karma is about building the life we live in

jytdtysrht · 15/03/2022 17:11

@TooEarlyForMe

Please tell me you do!!!

I'm so fed up. My son's swim coach is horrible to him all the time and I'm finally at the end of my tether. I just keep telling myself - it's ok, he'll get his come-uppance at some point. But this probably isn't true is it :(

Honesty never seems to pays off. Politeness never pays off. Working hard never pays off. Liers, bullies, cheaters, bullies and aggressors always seem to get away with it

Life is a bit crap sometimes and I'd like to believe I'm wrong and that actually honesty and being nice pays off, and those that are nobs will eventually get what's coming to them.. am I deluded though?

You had it right when you said liars cheaters bullies and aggressors get away with it. Sorry. Maybe they’ll get karma’d in the next life, but not this one. I have seen so much nasty behaviour go without anyone being able to do anything about it and I no longer trust anyone.
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TooEarlyForMe · 15/03/2022 18:17

Damn!! Was kind of hoping for some 'yea, people always ultimately get what they deserve' 🤷oh well :(

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urbanbuddha · 15/03/2022 18:19

To a degree, karma is about building the life we live in.

A high degree.

ineedsun · 15/03/2022 18:22

Karma as I understand it is about how our actions cause ripples. Every action plants a seed which not germinate straight away but will at some point. It’s not what people think it is. Why aren’t you taking your son out of the situation?

CruCru · 15/03/2022 18:25

I think karma is a longer term thing (possibly so long term that the consequences occur in subsequent lives).

It sounds like you need a different swim coach.

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TooEarlyForMe · 15/03/2022 18:28

It sounds like you need a different swim coach

Agreed. Just figuring out how to make that happen ..

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DesertStorms · 15/03/2022 18:42

He’ll get what he deserves when you remove your son from his sphere and tell him exactly why.

queenMab99 · 15/03/2022 19:08

You will not see karma in action, as it only manifests in the next life, it is part of the mechanism of re-embodiment. You can entertain yourself by imagining the horrible swimming teacher being reincarnated as a slug........ but then you could suffer bad karma in your next life because you had evil thoughts of vengeance!

SirChenjins · 15/03/2022 19:13

I believe that people who behave like arseholes at some point meet a bigger arsehole or someone who doesn’t stand for their shit and wipes the floor with them. Is that Karma? Confused

Be the latter - get your son away from him and report that arsehole swimming coach.

MiddleNameJane · 15/03/2022 19:14

I like what a pp said about consequences, not karma. Take the power back and get your ds away from this man.

For those who believe in karma, do you see horrible things happen to people and think "well they brought it on themselves in a previous life"? I don't feel comfortable with that. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, and sometimes bad people don't get their comeuppance. It's life, not the movies.

IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0 · 15/03/2022 19:22

I'm not sure of the origin of the word "karma" but it is widely used. My beloved Grandmother used to say "you reap what you sow". I believe that is true, but it may take many years.

Thinkbiglittleone · 15/03/2022 19:23

No sadly, i don't. I try to but then I see so many cases of truly vile people, doing vile things and it working out for them, they end up ahead in life, so no.

I would like to think good pays good back, but it doesn't.

Rysimo · 15/03/2022 19:26

Kifarah in Islam, the belief that what you give, you will get back, is a very real thing.
You will get the world and his wife tell you Karma doesn't exist on here, I've seen threads before.
Yes, he will get his Kifarah.

ManateeFair · 15/03/2022 19:33

It’s total horseshit.

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TooEarlyForMe · 15/03/2022 20:45

I hope you are right Rysimo and igiveup..

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