Karma - do you believe in it?

[TooEarlyForMe]

Please tell me you do!!!

I'm so fed up. My son's swim coach is horrible to him all the time and I'm finally at the end of my tether. I just keep telling myself - it's ok, he'll get his come-uppance at some point. But this probably isn't true is it :(

Honesty never seems to pays off. Politeness never pays off. Working hard never pays off. Liers, bullies, cheaters, bullies and aggressors always seem to get away with it

Life is a bit crap sometimes and I'd like to believe I'm wrong and that actually honesty and being nice pays off, and those that are nobs will eventually get what's coming to them.. am I deluded though?

I wish but my abusive narcissist of an ex husband just seems to have more and more good fortune. I’ve never known anyone be more in need of a life of endlessly treading on Lego barefoot than him. And that’s putting it mildly.

I don’t believe in karma
Do something about it op instead of hoping the universe will fix it for you 🙄

No, I’m not a Buddhist and don’t believe in reincarnation generally.

You think the coach deserves karma for being a bully while training your son.

The bully thinks your son deserves karma for being a whiny PITA, or that you deserve karma for being a pushy mother who makes his job harder.

That's why the concept of karma doesn't stand up. It's too subjective.

Make your own karma by sacking the coach and stop waiting for magical forces to sort your problems out.

Twominutesmore - I'm not a pushy mum (actually the opposite), and my son is not whiny or a PITA.

and even if he was a PITA or whiny (which he isn't), a 9 year old should never be bullied, humiliated or shouted at by an adult.

I think you’re missing the point that @twominutesmore is making @TooEarlyForMe

Karma…. Building the life you want…. What is karma?

For me, it’s about my life for me. A bully… well, what sort of person are they? What life are they creating for their self? To me, it doesn’t mean bad acts repaid; they already are. If you behave badly, you can’t be happy or at peace

@RocketPanda

Get your son away from this man.

No, I don't believe in karma. Good people have truly awful things happen to them every day and horrible people can live charmed lives.

I totally agree with this can't never seem to have any good luck while other people on the other hand it's actually crazy

I believe you should treat people the way you would like to be treated, and those people who don’t - like regularly are shitty to others, not just a one off- will turn around one day and need something, or someone, and find no-one there for them.
Eventually, yes, it does come back on someone.
Another way to look at it, is that people who are unkind and behave badly to others are often deeply insecure and unhappy. Who would be that person, the one who lashes out at others because they’re miserable inside? Not me.

Surely it's your role as your sons mother to deliver karma here?

Yes, in the sense that if you behave in a shitty way, it will eventually come back on you. Not necessarily in a divine punishment type of way but simply if you treat people badly and do bad things, you eventually get found out / ostracised / get down and no one will support you.

"If you sit by the river for long enough, the bodies of your enemies will eventually float by."

a 9 year old should never be bullied, humiliated or shouted at by an adult.

I don’t believe in karma. Some people are horrible and will continue to be.

However I don’t understand why you are continuing to allow your son to be treated this way. Find a different coach, pull him out, complain to the swim body/pool/gym whatever. Tell the man why. But stand up for your child instead of (as someone else said), expecting the universe to do it for you. It isn’t going to happen.

My kids had a nasty bully for a swim coach once.
Once. She never saw us again.

I don't. My sister is the loveliest person in the world yet gets blow after continuous blow. Sometimes huge things and lots of small things. Honestly we joke she must be cursed but I sometimes think it has to be true.

Totally, 100% absolutely deluded. It would be nice if Karma was real & dickheads got what they deserved, alas it is not.

I'm not sure I believe in it or not, but I like to live like karma was a real thing, i.e. I'm generally nice to people and help everyone out where I can. I wish people who do bad things got what they deserve but I'm not sure it actually happens unfortunately.

However, I wouldn't stand for some asshole bullying my kid. I'd get a new coach and report this one to his employer. And leave very honest feedback on all of their websites if they have any.

I don't believe in karma, because I don't believe I deserve the awful things that have happened to me. In the same way that I don't believe in manifestation.

If you follow your train of thought of karma, that bad things happen to bad people, they get want they deserve, then it would mean your son deserved to be bullied and made miserable, which of course he doesn't.

I'm glad you have removed your son from this class, he needs to be protected, especially from adult bullies. Hopefully there is a higher up that you can report this man to if he is abusing children's.

Surely as above PP says remove him and find a new coach ASAP! Unless hes the only swimming coach ?! You will put your Son off the water if hes not happy!

Belief in Karma is completely immaterial in this circumstance- stop swimming lessons with this coach immediately. Why on earth would you continue to subject your child to bullying and humiliation just on the off chance the coach will receive some karmic retribution? That’s hardly going to make it up to your child and the impact of bullying lasts a lifetime.