My parents live in another country. They have been asked to give shelter to a 21 years old boy. He had just finished his compulsory military service in Ukraine and took a holiday to see his nan. War started and he wanted to go back to fight. His grandmother hid his passport and talked him out of it.
My parents are happy to give him a room, he seems a great boy. But my DF has pointed out that, the way things are going, he will probably feel guilty for all the rest of his life and that not fighting for his country will probably result in him never to return back. He also argues that it will affect his mental health taking into account that all his mates are fighting.
I somehow agree and I think that his grandmother should keep his passport, as in this way the choice is out of his hands and he can blame it on someone else in the future.
I would not care to be blamed for something like this.
My DF argues (and I see the logic) that he is a man and that he should be free to choose his life.
AIBU?